Parent having minor surgery. Go or stay home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would go. Surgery is surgery. My parents each have had similar non-urgent out-patient surgeries and each time they've said "don't come" but when I get there I get huge smiles and sighs of relief. I sit with both during prep and during the surgery I keep the other parent company. When the surgical parent is released then I follow them home, help them get situated and leave.

If it is my mom who is the patient then I make sure to set up things for soup / sandwiches for dinner for both. Yes, it is sexist, but my dad has never cooked and my mom has never mowed the lawn or put gas in a car (not saying she can't just that she doesn't have to since my dad checks her car every day). It works for them!

Anyway, I would go. The way I figure, there is no "do over" button if there is a problem.

I agree, I think you should go. I would want to be there for anything that requires general anesthesia. I know parents often say not to come, but I have also seen that they are happy when you come and it is the extra help and having someone extra to stop by the pharmacy, etc. I would definitely get child care though, don't bring your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would go. Surgery is surgery. My parents each have had similar non-urgent out-patient surgeries and each time they've said "don't come" but when I get there I get huge smiles and sighs of relief. I sit with both during prep and during the surgery I keep the other parent company. When the surgical parent is released then I follow them home, help them get situated and leave.

If it is my mom who is the patient then I make sure to set up things for soup / sandwiches for dinner for both. Yes, it is sexist, but my dad has never cooked and my mom has never mowed the lawn or put gas in a car (not saying she can't just that she doesn't have to since my dad checks her car every day). It works for them!

Anyway, I would go. The way I figure, there is no "do over" button if there is a problem.

I agree, I think you should go. I would want to be there for anything that requires general anesthesia. I know parents often say not to come, but I have also seen that they are happy when you come and it is the extra help and having someone extra to stop by the pharmacy, etc. I would definitely get child care though, don't bring your child.

All excellent points but the pharmacy is a big one!

[Anonymous]

Minor surgery? No. I wouid not go and my mom doesn't have a husband in the picture. I've pretty much moved in w her for all her cancer surgeries, but no, I don't go up for a hangnail.