How hard is it for an Indian guy to marry outside his background?

[Anonymous]

You should arrange a marriage for him immediately. Get someone who is equally unreliable. Tell them that the wedding will start two hours before the real start time that way they won't be late.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post makes no sense.

Your asking how hard would it be for your "friend" to marry outside his race but then say he is divorced from presumably someone outside his race so you think he should marry within his race.

You also go into detail about all your issues with him that make him not a great catch and they have nothing to do with his race but his character but then you say he's having a hard time dating because of his race.

Troll

+1. Go away crazy anti-Indian dcum poster. It's a beautiful day. Why don't you go outside and get a life.

I'm NOT anti Indian. I married a south Asian guy. He seems to think women in D.C. are not into him because he's Indian. He's also not a citizen.
I think it's the area. It seems like a hard area to date if you're not super rich.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should arrange a marriage for him immediately. Get someone who is equally unreliable. Tell them that the wedding will start two hours before the real start time that way they won't be late.

Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should arrange a marriage for him immediately. Get someone who is equally unreliable. Tell them that the wedding will start two hours before the real start time that way they won't be late.

Maybe I should stay out of it. He asks me for advice though. He really wants to be with someone non Indian. He's great in a lot of ways. I want him to be happy. Not everyone hates exs.

[Anonymous]

I have an Indian friend who married a very southern woman from Appalachia. So there's one data point out of 500 million.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like his mom posing as an ex here

+1 This is weird.

[Anonymous]

We have many Indians where we live and their traditions make marriages extremely difficult when they marry outside their caste!

[Anonymous]

His income is pretty low or a 34-year old Indian IT guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Indian friend ( born in India) is having a hard time dating non Indians. He's 34 and divorced. He doesn't have children. He works in IT and his income is probably 80-90 k. He lives in the suburbs of NOVA. He works out a lot and I think he's very cute. We actually dated 7 years ago. We broke up because he was very immature. He was careless with driving and other stuff. I could not trust him to keep his word. He would promise to be home by 8 pm after soccer practice and it never happened. He was always hours late. These little things drove me crazy. I'm happily married to someone else who is very punctual. I am trying to help him out with dating. Any advice on this? I think it may be better to marry within his culture. There's less of a chance he would divorce again this way.

So are you telling me Indian women will better tolerate and settle for an immature underachiever? Id culturally Indian women dont want better than that, then sure, it will more likely last.

80 - 90k is an underachiever?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Indian friend ( born in India) is having a hard time dating non Indians. He's 34 and divorced. He doesn't have children. He works in IT and his income is probably 80-90 k. He lives in the suburbs of NOVA. He works out a lot and I think he's very cute. We actually dated 7 years ago. We broke up because he was very immature. He was careless with driving and other stuff. I could not trust him to keep his word. He would promise to be home by 8 pm after soccer practice and it never happened. He was always hours late. These little things drove me crazy. I'm happily married to someone else who is very punctual. I am trying to help him out with dating. Any advice on this? I think it may be better to marry within his culture. There's less of a chance he would divorce again this way.

So are you telling me Indian women will better tolerate and settle for an immature underachiever? Id culturally Indian women dont want better than that, then sure, it will more likely last.

80 - 90k is an underachiever?

For someone in IT out of school 10 years that's about 1/2 what he should be making.

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Indian friend ( born in India) is having a hard time dating non Indians. He's 34 and divorced. He doesn't have children. He works in IT and his income is probably 80-90 k. He lives in the suburbs of NOVA. He works out a lot and I think he's very cute. We actually dated 7 years ago. We broke up because he was very immature. He was careless with driving and other stuff. I could not trust him to keep his word. He would promise to be home by 8 pm after soccer practice and it never happened. He was always hours late. These little things drove me crazy. I'm happily married to someone else who is very punctual. I am trying to help him out with dating. Any advice on this? I think it may be better to marry within his culture. There's less of a chance he would divorce again this way.

So are you telling me Indian women will better tolerate and settle for an immature underachiever? Id culturally Indian women dont want better than that, then sure, it will more likely last.

80 - 90k is an underachiever?

Most of my Indian IT friends of that age are pulling in $150k at the very minimum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Indian friend ( born in India) is having a hard time dating non Indians. He's 34 and divorced. He doesn't have children. He works in IT and his income is probably 80-90 k. He lives in the suburbs of NOVA. He works out a lot and I think he's very cute. We actually dated 7 years ago. We broke up because he was very immature. He was careless with driving and other stuff. I could not trust him to keep his word. He would promise to be home by 8 pm after soccer practice and it never happened. He was always hours late. These little things drove me crazy. I'm happily married to someone else who is very punctual. I am trying to help him out with dating. Any advice on this? I think it may be better to marry within his culture. There's less of a chance he would divorce again this way.

So are you telling me Indian women will better tolerate and settle for an immature underachiever? Id culturally Indian women dont want better than that, then sure, it will more likely last.

80 - 90k is an underachiever?

Im in IT. I like hiring people 2 years outbof school because u can get them for 80-90k. So yes, major underachiever for his age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post makes no sense.

Your asking how hard would it be for your "friend" to marry outside his race but then say he is divorced from presumably someone outside his race so you think he should marry within his race.

You also go into detail about all your issues with him that make him not a great catch and they have nothing to do with his race but his character but then you say he's having a hard time dating because of his race.

Troll

He's divorced from someone within his race.

Then why do you say you think he should marry someone from his culture this time because you think he'd be less likely to divorce??

You've got issues and trolling is just one of them.

[Anonymous]

I have dated a couple south asian guys (I'm white). Both in college and later in life. Your friend's issues are not his ethnicity or skin color. It sounds like he is a flake. The only thing I will say that may go beyond his individual personality/dating issues is that *some* asian men have certain expectations about being coddled by women and may have meddling parents. If you're from a small and somewhat remote family like I am, that can seem overwhelming. On the other hand, strange family dynamics happen in every culture.