Have you ever had a friend that copies you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you just stop following her on social media? If she copies you and you don't see her posting it, then who cares? And she'll likely never know you stopped following her.

She'll know. The thing is I have lots of photos with her and shared history and I don't want her to destroy everything in a fit of vengeance

You are such a drama queen.

Why do women create this turmoil in their lives? No wonder we're treated like second class citizens!

You're upset that you're long distance friend is copying you? Afraid she will destroy everything "in a fit of vengeance?"

This is like a Telenovela!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I have this situation, and I bet if some of the snotty pps did, they'd be just as frustrated.

It's annoying to have someone join all the clubs or groups you join, friend the same people on facebook, suddenly become an expert on issues they didn't know existed until you got involved, show up at the same activities as you, and on and on and on. It sounds petty and small, but when it happens all the time, it is very frustrating. I want to scream, "I get it lady, your life sucks. But mine's really not that much better, so no need to try to be me."

I can't block her out completely, because her husband works with mine, but I sure have limited my contact. She's on the acquaintance FB list, which has really limited the mimicry.

I find this entire statement to be navel-gazing.

I moved into a new area. I'm lucky that people have befriended me into their social circle I would hate to think that my showing up at 90% of the same events/parties etc would make one person in the group think I'm copying them. I *could* be copying anyone in the social circle because they are all there too!

Your response is mind boggling. ('Added all the same friends on Facebook'... that's called being in a community)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like a single white female type of thing?

I have a friend who, if I wear a certain article of clothing, the next week she will go out and post a picture of her wearing something nearly identical to facebook. If I do a certain activity, the next week she will post a photo of her doing the same.

It happens to a staggering and almost embarrassing extent.

We used to be best friends but no longer, though we still have many mutual friends and are cordial.

At what point is it acceptable to block her, because I am sick of having styles/activities/interested coopted by someone else, harmless though it may be. It's still annoying

Block her now. You'll be doing her a favor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I have this situation, and I bet if some of the snotty pps did, they'd be just as frustrated.

It's annoying to have someone join all the clubs or groups you join, friend the same people on facebook, suddenly become an expert on issues they didn't know existed until you got involved, show up at the same activities as you, and on and on and on. It sounds petty and small, but when it happens all the time, it is very frustrating. I want to scream, "I get it lady, your life sucks. But mine's really not that much better, so no need to try to be me."

I can't block her out completely, because her husband works with mine, but I sure have limited my contact. She's on the acquaintance FB list, which has really limited the mimicry.

I find this entire statement to be navel-gazing.

I moved into a new area. I'm lucky that people have befriended me into their social circle I would hate to think that my showing up at 90% of the same events/parties etc would make one person in the group think I'm copying them. I *could* be copying anyone in the social circle because they are all there too!

Your response is mind boggling. ('Added all the same friends on Facebook'... that's called being in a community)

Why would anyone think you were doing that when it sounds like a completely different situation to what OP described?

Your response is mind boggling.

[Anonymous]

I do, but I take it as a compliment.

I copy things I admire in other people(but I tend to copy certain aspects of people's personalities, not clothes and stuff)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I have this situation, and I bet if some of the snotty pps did, they'd be just as frustrated.

It's annoying to have someone join all the clubs or groups you join, friend the same people on facebook, suddenly become an expert on issues they didn't know existed until you got involved, show up at the same activities as you, and on and on and on. It sounds petty and small, but when it happens all the time, it is very frustrating. I want to scream, "I get it lady, your life sucks. But mine's really not that much better, so no need to try to be me."

I can't block her out completely, because her husband works with mine, but I sure have limited my contact. She's on the acquaintance FB list, which has really limited the mimicry.

I find this entire statement to be navel-gazing.

I moved into a new area. I'm lucky that people have befriended me into their social circle I would hate to think that my showing up at 90% of the same events/parties etc would make one person in the group think I'm copying them. I *could* be copying anyone in the social circle because they are all there too!

Your response is mind boggling. ('Added all the same friends on Facebook'... that's called being in a community)

Why would anyone think you were doing that when it sounds like a completely different situation to what OP described?

Your response is mind boggling.

Did you ever think:
-i posted a photo wearing a blue cotton dress, then she posted one wearing a blue cotton dress
-I posted with X hairstyle, and she did the same X hairstyle
Etc

Maybe you are not the only one who likes a blue cotton dress and X hairstyle. Maybe to think that you are the only one that likes those things is self-centered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I have this situation, and I bet if some of the snotty pps did, they'd be just as frustrated.

It's annoying to have someone join all the clubs or groups you join, friend the same people on facebook, suddenly become an expert on issues they didn't know existed until you got involved, show up at the same activities as you, and on and on and on. It sounds petty and small, but when it happens all the time, it is very frustrating. I want to scream, "I get it lady, your life sucks. But mine's really not that much better, so no need to try to be me."

I can't block her out completely, because her husband works with mine, but I sure have limited my contact. She's on the acquaintance FB list, which has really limited the mimicry.

I find this entire statement to be navel-gazing.

I moved into a new area. I'm lucky that people have befriended me into their social circle I would hate to think that my showing up at 90% of the same events/parties etc would make one person in the group think I'm copying them. I *could* be copying anyone in the social circle because they are all there too!

Your response is mind boggling. ('Added all the same friends on Facebook'... that's called being in a community)

Why would anyone think you were doing that when it sounds like a completely different situation to what OP described?

Your response is mind boggling.

Did you ever think:
-i posted a photo wearing a blue cotton dress, then she posted one wearing a blue cotton dress
-I posted with X hairstyle, and she did the same X hairstyle
Etc

Maybe you are not the only one who likes a blue cotton dress and X hairstyle. Maybe to think that you are the only one that likes those things is self-centered.

Spoken like someone who is copying people and hope no one notices.

I think someone would only notice, in the situations you described, if someone had such coincidences SEVERAL times in a row, over an extended period of time.

But... you sound defensive, so I get why you have taken the dismissive stance.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I found it quite bizarre and somewhat unnerving. Among other things, she copied a room in my house down to the accessories.

[Anonymous]

Don't you think others in your social circle have noticed her copycating you and know who the Original is?

[Anonymous]

DH and I have friends that have copied quite a few things we buy/do. We laugh about it but aren't bothered by it. If anything, it's a form of flattery. Only time it bothered me was when they basically copied our Christmas card.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't you think others in your social circle have noticed her copycating you and know who the Original is?

A couple do and have mentioned it to me, but... it just feels like intellectual copyright on a certain level. I mean, many of these things mean a great deal to me, and it's just constant with her. I'm really getting sick of it, but I can't see a way to solve it, other than going dark on social media, which I have done for a while, but it's really not fair to me.

[Anonymous]

"Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery."

[Anonymous]

I do have an ex friend that does this ALL THE TIME. We are friendly but for various reasons I have backed away from the friendship. I will post something I bought or did on FB and a few days later there she is posting about the same thing/activity. Even my kids activities, I share a pic of them doing something and next week she is taking her kids to do the same. My husband and mutual friends point it out many times, but I don't let it affect me. My parents taught me that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Plus her copying me doesn't affect my life.

[Anonymous]

She is now on DCUM...

[Anonymous]

Imitation is the sincerist form of flattery.

Just kidding.

Sort of.