Have you ever had a friend that copies you?
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Anonymous
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Like a single white female type of thing?
I have a friend who, if I wear a certain article of clothing, the next week she will go out and post a picture of her wearing something nearly identical to facebook. If I do a certain activity, the next week she will post a photo of her doing the same. It happens to a staggering and almost embarrassing extent. We used to be best friends but no longer, though we still have many mutual friends and are cordial. At what point is it acceptable to block her, because I am sick of having styles/activities/interested coopted by someone else, harmless though it may be. It's still annoying |
Anonymous
YES I have! I find it SO annoying. I feel as if she is stealing my identity! |
Anonymous
| Are you 13? You sound like my teen. Look at it this way--maybe you're just basic, and your "copycat" is too. |
Anonymous
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I had this in high school..
I didn't handle it well. Dropped that friend. But it was petty. I should have taken it as a compliment. So I don't know what my experience says about what you are going through.... That it's nbd? That's she's acting like a hs-er? Or you are? Take from me what you will, but I do regret making it an issue. |
Anonymous
Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. You spend way too much on FB and thinking about these things. |
Anonymous
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Not since high school, and not in a single white female way.
Why aren't you friends anymore? Because you accused her of copying you? Regardless, this wouldn't bother me. I don't imagine it has an impact on your life, right? |
Anonymous
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I don't do that, but unconsciously I mimic other people's voices, accents and inflections. I can't help myself, and it's not so drastic that people notice, but *I* notice. Perhaps it's because I've lived in many countries and have always tried to fit in. At least it's made learning accents and mannerisms very easy! |
Anonymous
A grown (older) woman with a 13 year old who goes around calling other women "basic". Now wonder you're annoyed by your teen- like mother like daughter. |
Anonymous
| Yes I knew someone who did this. I eventually had to block her across all social media. Try copying me now, B***h! |
Anonymous
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OP I have this situation, and I bet if some of the snotty pps did, they'd be just as frustrated.
It's annoying to have someone join all the clubs or groups you join, friend the same people on facebook, suddenly become an expert on issues they didn't know existed until you got involved, show up at the same activities as you, and on and on and on. It sounds petty and small, but when it happens all the time, it is very frustrating. I want to scream, "I get it lady, your life sucks. But mine's really not that much better, so no need to try to be me." I can't block her out completely, because her husband works with mine, but I sure have limited my contact. She's on the acquaintance FB list, which has really limited the mimicry. |
Anonymous
Yes!!! Thank you. The snotty PPs don't bother me, i assume when you post a question about friends on DCUM you are basically asking for a lot of the unhappy, and frankly socially stunted, women on here to call you "petty", "vapid", and many of the other gendered language directed against young women. Rinse, repeat. But I do it because when you wade through the BS you can occasionally get people who give you legit advice It's really frustrating, and I feel like, as with your situation, it makes it difficult because of social media. Putting her on an acquaintance list would be a good idea- I'm considering blocking her from instagram though, as that's where I post most of my stuff. We don't live in the same place, so if not for social media, she wouldn't have access to what I was doing. And, as you said, it's frustrating. A lot of these things mean a lot to me, and it really cheapens everything to just have co-opt them without any meaning behind it. Like someone taking your grandmother's recipe that you cherished and claiming they invented it. It may not be rational, but it's obnoxious as all hell. |
Anonymous
| Get a life & a job. Who has time to worry about such nonsense. Take it as a compliment and move along. |
Anonymous
| I have friend who I constantly copy. I adore her. She picks outfits and looks that I would never have thought to put together and she looks amazing. She is a long distance friend and we only see each other occasionally now so it's not like I'm imitating her constantly or in the same scene. But I always text her pictures and say "omg so sorry but you're my style icon" or whatever. She doesn't mind; I think she's flattered and she should be. |
Anonymous
| Why don't you just stop following her on social media? If she copies you and you don't see her posting it, then who cares? And she'll likely never know you stopped following her. |
Anonymous
She'll know. The thing is I have lots of photos with her and shared history and I don't want her to destroy everything in a fit of vengeance |