Does reading DCUM affect how you look at your relationship with your DH/DW?

[Anonymous]

Makes me appreciate my (imperfect) husband SO much. I can't believe what some of you put up with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually, yes. Some of the people who post here seem insane. Selfish, entitled, bitchy, childish, negative. It makes me feel -- even with my considerable flaws -- like I'm an incredible spouse.

This.

[Anonymous]

Makes me not take my marriage for granted. After having read so many of these threads I realize I have it good but that I always need to work to make it better. Now if I'm upset with my DH over something I take time to cool down and deal with it calmly. Same with my children. Sweet is better than sour.

[Anonymous]

DH and I have been together nearly 30 yrs and according to some threads we should be divorced ages ago. While our relationship isn't perfect it works for us probably because both of us know better than to ask for advice from internet strangers who we don't know and have little in common.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. It makes me feel even more lucky than I already did. I go out of my way to do nice things for her to make sure she feels appreciated.

[Anonymous]

It makes me feel great about my relationship and very thankful and appreciative of my partner. It honestly makes me want to do something nice for him, or at least give him a kiss and a compliment, when I read about these shrew wives who only bark orders at their DHs, criticize, and see them as a sperm donor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, it doesn't.

DCUM it an outlier to me. I read a few other relationship forums, but this one is unlike the rest. On others people post their problems- and they're often quite serious problems, kore severe than what gets posted on DCUM- but it's just different.

The responses are more thoughtful and higher quality on other forums. Even the deadbedroom subforum I read on another site is radically different in tone than the DB posters here- less whiny, more sympathetic, you can see why people would actually *want* to sleep with them.

I've found that on this site, the women tend to respond that all men are terrible and the men tend to respond that all women need to lose weight, put out more, and most hilariously, have a thigh gap. It's all just very bitter and not constructive. I guess the easy anonymity contributes to this.

What are the other websites?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It makes me feel great about my relationship and very thankful and appreciative of my partner. It honestly makes me want to do something nice for him, or at least give him a kiss and a compliment, when I read about these shrew wives who only bark orders at their DHs, criticize, and see them as a sperm donor.

You left financier (aka Cash Cow) off your list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It makes me feel great about my relationship and very thankful and appreciative of my partner. It honestly makes me want to do something nice for him, or at least give him a kiss and a compliment, when I read about these shrew wives who only bark orders at their DHs, criticize, and see them as a sperm donor.

You left financier (aka Cash Cow) off your list.

PP here. That too!

[Anonymous]

I feel great that I actually want to be married to my wife, rather than feeling trapped financially and because of our kids. My marriage isn't perfect, but then again I never expected it to be. I knew the flaws I was marrying, and I think my wife knew the ones she was marrying and I think we still feel as if we made the right decision.

I feel bad for all of those on here that are now living with the bad decisions they made about who they married. Men and women should really pay attention to who they are engaged to, this is a much better indication of who you are marrying than who proposed to you or you proposed to.

Marriage is a lot of work so is parenting. I am amazed at how many people are surprised by that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Confirmation bias. The vast majority of posts are about problems. The happy fulfilled couples don't have any reason to start threads. Mostly.

That's not "confirmation bias." Lol

[Anonymous]

I am divorced and it makes me less sad about that, because some of these folks are miserably married. But it does make me think about what I need to be sure to look for in my next spouse, assuming I remarry.

[Anonymous]

Makes me happy to be happily married (at least most of the time happily).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW here - makes me initiate sex more often!

+1

[Anonymous]

Makes me feel like I'm not so abnormal lol