My male supervisor stares at my chest

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Anonymous wrote:Everytime he does it, look down at your suit and say, "oh, woops, did I spill something?" Let him know you know.

I think this is the perfect way to let him know you know he's looking.

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't have to do this, but this is what I've done that works perfectly. When it's just the two of you, very jokingly say "please don't stare at my chest." Big smile. Or your male coworker could say something to him about it. Men do rag on other men for things like this.

I have a family friend that does this to me nonstop. I'm convinced he's either a porn addict or a pedophile. He disgusts me.

I literally don't understand what "rag" means but if it means the supervisor talking about OP's body, no it doesn't happen. A lot of men are asses but most men do not say that crap about other women. If rag, in this context, means the co-worker telling supervisor it's not alright to do so, that'll depend on whether your co-worker is in a position to do so.

Men will often tell other men that they need to stop giving Laura all the filing assignments only and send some to John too. Or to stop harassing the new intern.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Everytime he does it, look down at your suit and say, "oh, woops, did I spill something?" Let him know you know.

I think this is the perfect way to let him know you know he's looking.

I think this coulld work op!

[Anonymous]

Tilt your head down to meet his gaze with a simple "I loose ya Dan? . . . Okay, as I was saying" Just keep reestablishing eye contract. He'll be embarrassed and stop.

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Maybe get a button that says "If you can read this, you are too close."

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes it's awkward and unavoidable, as a chest is attached in a different area than, say, a crotch or legs. This is a problem, though. He should either not look at you at all or aim eye contact toward your forehead all the while maintaining an aura of, see, I'm consciously avoiding looking at your chest.

WTF are you talking about? People look at each others' faces when they speak. It is completely avoidable.

OP, the next time you are alone with him, tell him that he needs to stop looking at your chest because it is inappropriate and makes you uncomfortable. Be that direct. Really.

Calm down with the shouting and fouls language. In normal human interaction--say an employee enters and a seated colleague looks up, a person's chest may be taken into view for a millisecond.

That is not what OP described.

Who cares? I'm making a point.

[Anonymous]

I knew one woman who handled it well. She spoke to the guy privately and told him to stop staring at her chest or she would start reporting the incidents to HR. Then the first couple of times she caught him, she would put her hand in front of her chest, point her finger like a gun at his face and give her hand a small quick jerk back like a gun firing. Her sign that he was caught. The first time or two he changed his gaze quickly to something else. Within a couple of days, she had broken him of this habit without having to make a big stink about it.

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I dealt with something similar a few years back, but it was my ass instead of chest. I went to HR, and was told I had to tell him directly that the behavior made me uncomfortable. Once I did that, if the behavior continued, i could report it as sexual harassment (which almost every workplace takes very seriously). I wussed out and didn't say anything.

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When his eyes start to wander, fold your arms over your chest, each and every time.

If this doesn't help, go to his supervisor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everytime he does it, look down at your suit and say, "oh, woops, did I spill something?" Let him know you know.

I like this. You don't even have to say anything, just follow his gaze and look down.

[Anonymous]

my very, very gay coworker with stare at my chest all the time. I just figured there was something very attractive about them that held the power over even The gayest of men. I never said anything to him because I don't think he was doing it to be rude just wear his eyes fell .

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so I am a male and guilty of this so many times. and I try not to look, and I know not to stare, and I have trained myself to think of my daughter, and try to stop

but

I still do it. 50 years of life and I still get a tingle when looking at women's breasts.

What I don't get is that women can wear a shirt that does a peek a boo, or have cleavage on display, and the small line that drops away under clothes, and I am not supposed to notice, but I just always take a peek. I notice you ladies, every man does.

so while I know I shouldn't do this. I do it all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everytime he does it, look down at your suit and say, "oh, woops, did I spill something?" Let him know you know.

I think this is the perfect way to let him know you know he's looking.

+1. Then, the next time he does it, just stop talking until he looks away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: my very, very gay coworker with stare at my chest all the time. I just figured there was something very attractive about them that held the power over even The gayest of men. I never said anything to him because I don't think he was doing it to be rude just wear his eyes fell .

So you think some one who claims to have no attraction to your gender can't inappropriately ogle you? Would you not find it odd for a straight woman to be staring at your chest several times a day? I sure would. Why should a gay man get a pass?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew one woman who handled it well. She spoke to the guy privately and told him to stop staring at her chest or she would start reporting the incidents to HR. Then the first couple of times she caught him, she would put her hand in front of her chest, point her finger like a gun at his face and give her hand a small quick jerk back like a gun firing. Her sign that he was caught. The first time or two he changed his gaze quickly to something else. Within a couple of days, she had broken him of this habit without having to make a big stink about it.

I'm pretty sure that the definition of "making a big stink out of it" includes instances where one is told blank to stop, threatened with HR action, and having a finger gun pointed at his with finger trigger pulled.

I'm not saying the woman was wrong in any way, but that is indeed a big stink!