ILs and tooth fairy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you are being unreasonable. Your MIL watched your children overnight when you needed help. There are many people out there, including myself, that wish that they had family that could do this.

She's not a mind reader, how was she supposed to know what you wished could have happened? I assume his tooth was already loose and if so maybe you should have said something about it then.

+1 I wish I had close family members to being that sweet with my child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you are being unreasonable. Your MIL watched your children overnight when you needed help. There are many people out there, including myself, that wish that they had family that could do this.

She's not a mind reader, how was she supposed to know what you wished could have happened? I assume his tooth was already loose and if so maybe you should have said something about it then.

+1 I wish I had close family members to being that sweet with my child.

Oops the typos.

[Anonymous]

It was an immediate need. IMO

[Anonymous]

I can see both sides.

The MIL could have told the kid the tooth fairy would find the tooth at his house the next day. A five year old who believes in this fairy tale of the tooth fairy would also believe his tooth had to be found at his house.

But, in the grand scheme of things, does it really matter? Probably not. But I get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was an immediate need. IMO

How so? The child had never lost a tooth before and didn't know what to expect at all.

[Anonymous]

Unless she gave him a $20 or something else that will create unreasonable expectations going forward, no big deal.

[Anonymous]

I think she should have at least consulted you. Then again I'm jaded from a mil that jumps on any chance to take firsts and will slip the kids $20 for losing a tooth after the tooth fairy has already come. Drives me insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're not being unreasonable. That's a huge boundary. Tooth fairy is something that parents look forward to. It's like a grandparent playing Santa or buying a major milestone gift without consulting parents.

da fuq???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can see both sides.

The MIL could have told the kid the tooth fairy would find the tooth at his house the next day. A five year old who believes in this fairy tale of the tooth fairy would also believe his tooth had to be found at his house.

But, in the grand scheme of things, does it really matter? Probably not. But I get it.

+1 I understand being sad or upset, but if you generally have a good relationship, it's not worth making a big deal. Feel sad for a bit and then let it go.

[Anonymous]

I can see how you're annoyed, but definitely something to just get over.

[Anonymous]

My mil would have told the kid that the tooth fairy would visit him at home. She is also not daft or a self-centered boomer.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, I'd be pissed too but my MIL is like that, she always wants to be the first to do things. I'm like "lady, you had your shot with your kids, these are mine". So I get it, OP, she shouldn't have asked you.

[Anonymous]

I think you are upset that you missed it and are making it to be her fault. Don't project or take your disappointment out on others. I agree that it would be very unfair for the child to have to wait. Would you make a kid wait if DH was away on a trip but you and your child were home? I'd bet not - yet he has just as much right to "be there" for the big moment (whatev - I have older kids so like PPs I'm jaded!). No double standards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you are upset that you missed it and are making it to be her fault. Don't project or take your disappointment out on others. I agree that it would be very unfair for the child to have to wait. Would you make a kid wait if DH was away on a trip but you and your child were home? I'd bet not - yet he has just as much right to "be there" for the big moment (whatev - I have older kids so like PPs I'm jaded!). No double standards.

+1 As a parent long past that stage - I can only hope that someday I will have a grandkid over and get to play tooth fairy for a night. It's so much more fun than when my kids were young. But, I don't want my DIL pissed at me for it happening to me by sheer luck.

[Anonymous]

Free parenting tip: The Tooth Fairy is for your kid, not YOU. Get over it and perhaps study up on narcissistic personality disorder.