My ex did something extremely dangerous and I'm fuming

[Anonymous]

If you can afford it, it might be time to get your kid a phone. He doesn't have to keep it on him, but you can put it on him to track him when he is with his dad and his dad does something stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to say, I have a 7yo DS and I don't think I would accompany him to the bathroom. I would point to the bathroom, he can read signs, and tell him I would be in the same place. So leaving him isn't really a problem for me. But being critical of how long your DS take to make a BM is probably not nice. I don't think this is dangerous. Do you let your 7 year old walk to the park or ride his bike around the block? How is this different?

Not OP, but this is why it's always strange to have non-DC post here. I also wouldn't let my child ride his bike around the block because we have a homeless shelter on it. City is different. Try not to be so smug in your post, different people have different lives then your (obviously) sheltered one.

[Anonymous]

Im so sorry. Ever since I read about the boy who was murdered within minutes of going into a bathroom at a rest stop alone, I think about what to do re: public restrooms. DS is 7 now and doesn't come to the ladies room with me most of the time (at rest stops he still does, sorry) but I wait outside, and if he is not outside within a minute, I yell in. I also tell him: no one touches him. if someone does, start screaming right away as loud as you can.


at any rate, its totally and completely irresponsible of your ex to leave the store. If my son walked out and I was nowhere to be found, he would be in tears. Plus a lost child signals vulnerability--what if a stranger scooped him up, promising to take him to his parents? Yes, this does not happen 99.% of the time, but why take a chance?

since you can't control your exes' behavior you need to teach your kids what to do in various situations--delicate balance between scaring them and preparing them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im so sorry. Ever since I read about the boy who was murdered within minutes of going into a bathroom at a rest stop alone, I think about what to do re: public restrooms. DS is 7 now and doesn't come to the ladies room with me most of the time (at rest stops he still does, sorry) but I wait outside, and if he is not outside within a minute, I yell in. I also tell him: no one touches him. if someone does, start screaming right away as loud as you can.


at any rate, its totally and completely irresponsible of your ex to leave the store. If my son walked out and I was nowhere to be found, he would be in tears. Plus a lost child signals vulnerability--what if a stranger scooped him up, promising to take him to his parents? Yes, this does not happen 99.% of the time, but why take a chance?

since you can't control your exes' behavior you need to teach your kids what to do in various situations--delicate balance between scaring them and preparing them.

I know. My son has a tendency to scare easily anyway, so this didn't help. To make matters worse, his dad did not reach out to him since this happened over a week ago. He is pouting and being an ass and our son is left wondering what is going on.

[Anonymous]

OP, what your ex did was totally unsafe and inexcusable. What a jerk. Still, I don't agree with driving off without him. Just in terms of modeling behavior for your son. You don't want your son to think he has two parents who abandon people when they're frustrated with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what your ex did was totally unsafe and inexcusable. What a jerk. Still, I don't agree with driving off without him. Just in terms of modeling behavior for your son. You don't want your son to think he has two parents who abandon people when they're frustrated with them.

I was coming to type this.

You're so cool, how you had a problem and left it right where it was - just like your ex did with your son! Grow up!

I agree that he shouldn't have left the building, but what you did was no better. How would you feel if the situation was reversed? Would you be happy your ex did that to you in front of your son? No. You'd be posting here how your ex just left you there!

You both did your son a disservice.

[Anonymous]

Why were you lunching and shopping with your ex, anyway? I don't understand that.

[Anonymous]

As a dad with two kids, what a $%@#$%@#$%@#% dumb ass. I show my kids some tough love too sometimes, but I sure as hell do it in a way where I have eyes on them 100% of the time.

For those folks criticizing OP for leaving the husband, I totally understand....but....I already got somewhat heated reading her post and could you imagine being in her shoes at the time when it happened? Her blood must have been boiling and perhaps leaving him stranded there was already best she could do without getting abusive in front of the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what your ex did was totally unsafe and inexcusable. What a jerk. Still, I don't agree with driving off without him. Just in terms of modeling behavior for your son. You don't want your son to think he has two parents who abandon people when they're frustrated with them.

I was coming to type this.

You're so cool, how you had a problem and left it right where it was - just like your ex did with your son! Grow up!

I agree that he shouldn't have left the building, but what you did was no better. How would you feel if the situation was reversed? Would you be happy your ex did that to you in front of your son? No. You'd be posting here how your ex just left you there!

You both did your son a disservice.

Yeah, your outrage at me is total BS. My ex has a history of acting like a complete moron and I just had enough. Our son was scared and crying because his dad chose to be a dick. He is an adult and found a way home just fine. If anything I showed my son that he is not to be treated that way even by his own dad. I'm so sick of everything constantly thinking the "better" parent is always supposed to cover for the "asshole" parent. His father got the taste of his own medicine. I bet he didn't like it one bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a dad with two kids, what a $%@#$%@#$%@#% dumb ass. I show my kids some tough love too sometimes, but I sure as hell do it in a way where I have eyes on them 100% of the time.

For those folks criticizing OP for leaving the husband, I totally understand....but....I already got somewhat heated reading her post and could you imagine being in her shoes at the time when it happened? Her blood must have been boiling and perhaps leaving him stranded there was already best she could do without getting abusive in front of the child.

EXACTLY!!!

He insisted he was right, would not back down. So I had to walk away so I don't kill him.

[Anonymous]

Dangerous? Maybe.

Extremely dangerous? Good god no. You sound crazy OP. I thought your post was about drinking and driving or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dangerous? Maybe.

Extremely dangerous? Good god no. You sound crazy OP. I thought your post was about drinking and driving or something.

And you sound like an ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a dad with two kids, what a $%@#$%@#$%@#% dumb ass. I show my kids some tough love too sometimes, but I sure as hell do it in a way where I have eyes on them 100% of the time.

For those folks criticizing OP for leaving the husband, I totally understand....but....I already got somewhat heated reading her post and could you imagine being in her shoes at the time when it happened? Her blood must have been boiling and perhaps leaving him stranded there was already best she could do without getting abusive in front of the child.

EXACTLY!!!

He insisted he was right, would not back down. So I had to walk away so I don't kill him.

You truly sound unhinged. Kill him? Who's the better influence now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a dad with two kids, what a $%@#$%@#$%@#% dumb ass. I show my kids some tough love too sometimes, but I sure as hell do it in a way where I have eyes on them 100% of the time.

For those folks criticizing OP for leaving the husband, I totally understand....but....I already got somewhat heated reading her post and could you imagine being in her shoes at the time when it happened? Her blood must have been boiling and perhaps leaving him stranded there was already best she could do without getting abusive in front of the child.

EXACTLY!!!

He insisted he was right, would not back down. So I had to walk away so I don't kill him.

You truly sound unhinged. Kill him? Who's the better influence now?

You always talk in literal terms?

By all means attack me. I don't care. But I'm not the one that put a 7 year old in danger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a dad with two kids, what a $%@#$%@#$%@#% dumb ass. I show my kids some tough love too sometimes, but I sure as hell do it in a way where I have eyes on them 100% of the time.

For those folks criticizing OP for leaving the husband, I totally understand....but....I already got somewhat heated reading her post and could you imagine being in her shoes at the time when it happened? Her blood must have been boiling and perhaps leaving him stranded there was already best she could do without getting abusive in front of the child.

EXACTLY!!!

He insisted he was right, would not back down. So I had to walk away so I don't kill him.

You truly sound unhinged. Kill him? Who's the better influence now?

You always talk in literal terms?

By all means attack me. I don't care. But I'm not the one that put a 7 year old in danger.

Welk actually, you did. You say your ex "has a history of acting like a complete moron", yet you continue to put him in charge of your son when you are there? That's your fault. And he's pouting because you left him stranded (the same thing you claim he did to your son.) Your son wondersmwhat the hell is going on because you left his damn dad behind! You know he is fine, but your 7 yo only knows dad was left without a way home.

Stop planning outings with your ex if he is so awful.