Men- do you feel pressure to maintain your looks for your wife?

[Anonymous]

I do it for me and because I like to challenge myself, my body is just an added benefit. As is being strong.

She likes it better when I cut and have less body fat...she hates the journey getting there. Restrictions on carbs suck...

[Anonymous]

Sounds like what a lot of the wives said. So apparently EVERYONE is working out only for themselves and not for their partner?

I dont think its mutually exclusive. I think a lot of people say they are doing it for themselves, but also for their spouses. OR rather, they are not doing it only to please their spouses. I think its actually healthy to do it for yourself, but know that in so doing, you are also honoring your spouse. Its less healthy than doing stuff only for someone else, or not doing it for anyone.

[Anonymous]

I do it for myself. I enjoy working out 6 days a week before anyone wakes up in the morning it helps get my day going.
I would do it for DW, but she says women are not turned on visually, the opposite of what I read everywhere, and that it doesn't matter to her.
So I keep my abs covered up with a shirt. I came out of the workout room before with my shirt off wiping the sweat off me and she asked why I had my shirt off

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do it for myself. I enjoy working out 6 days a week before anyone wakes up in the morning it helps get my day going.
I would do it for DW, but she says women are not turned on visually, the opposite of what I read everywhere, and that it doesn't matter to her.
So I keep my abs covered up with a shirt. I came out of the workout room before with my shirt off wiping the sweat off me and she asked why I had my shirt off

You have abs? My DH has flab ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do it for myself. I enjoy working out 6 days a week before anyone wakes up in the morning it helps get my day going.
I would do it for DW, but she says women are not turned on visually, the opposite of what I read everywhere, and that it doesn't matter to her.
So I keep my abs covered up with a shirt. I came out of the workout room before with my shirt off wiping the sweat off me and she asked why I had my shirt off

Lol. I think that's just your dw.

- a woman

[Anonymous]

For every extra 100k he makes I allow him 10 extra pounds.
He's big and strong so he can carry it well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do it for myself. I enjoy working out 6 days a week before anyone wakes up in the morning it helps get my day going.
I would do it for DW, but she says women are not turned on visually, the opposite of what I read everywhere, and that it doesn't matter to her.
So I keep my abs covered up with a shirt. I came out of the workout room before with my shirt off wiping the sweat off me and she asked why I had my shirt off

Lol. I think that's just your dw.

- a woman

+1

I bet she'd understand visual appeal more if your abs were buried under 6 inches of flab.

[Anonymous]

She doesn't give me pressure, i do. I like it when we are out and I feel good being in shape and my clothes fit well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do it for myself. I enjoy working out 6 days a week before anyone wakes up in the morning it helps get my day going.
I would do it for DW, but she says women are not turned on visually, the opposite of what I read everywhere, and that it doesn't matter to her.
So I keep my abs covered up with a shirt. I came out of the workout room before with my shirt off wiping the sweat off me and she asked why I had my shirt off

Lol. I think that's just your dw.

- a woman

+1

I bet she'd understand visual appeal more if your abs were buried under 6 inches of flab.

Thanks, I have wondered that myself, if shes just taken it for granted over the last 17 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She doesn't give me pressure, i do. I like it when we are out and I feel good being in shape and my clothes fit well.

+1 - plus she notices I get noticed. When I get the up and down look or eye f$cked by other women she all of a sudden is right by my side.

[Anonymous]

Its not pressure from her. I want to look good for her period. If she does the same for me, we are on the same page.

You want to at least maintain the appearance that the both of you are about looking good for each other, whatever that means for the both of you.

I mention the pathetic posts I see on this board as motivation for us to never end up down the road that most of you are experiencing (sorry but true).

[Anonymous]

What man over 25 with a non-pro athlete job has "abs"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do it for myself. I enjoy working out 6 days a week before anyone wakes up in the morning it helps get my day going.
I would do it for DW, but she says women are not turned on visually, the opposite of what I read everywhere, and that it doesn't matter to her.
So I keep my abs covered up with a shirt. I came out of the workout room before with my shirt off wiping the sweat off me and she asked why I had my shirt off

Sounds like she is the hall monitor in some kind of household regulation violation fantasy. She is going to "punish" you for being naughty. Know the rules or expect punishment!!

Or she's become your sibling and is grossed out by naked flesh now. I'd take it out and slap her with it as you walk by and see which it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do it for myself. I enjoy working out 6 days a week before anyone wakes up in the morning it helps get my day going.
I would do it for DW, but she says women are not turned on visually, the opposite of what I read everywhere, and that it doesn't matter to her.
So I keep my abs covered up with a shirt. I came out of the workout room before with my shirt off wiping the sweat off me and she asked why I had my shirt off

LOL! Your DW sounds absolutely crazy. She is in the definite minority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What man over 25 with a non-pro athlete job has "abs"?

Plenty. No excuses.