Nephews visiting over Christmas smoked pot outside our home and returned high -- wwyd?

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911

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NP. Hi sis, thanks for coming over for the holidays and bringing Bobby and Billy. However, we've had a family meeting and decided that Bobby and Billy are not welcome at our home. What happened was, they were openly using illegal substances right in from of my kids and my inlaws. No one addressed it then, for fear of disturbing the holiday, but now that we have quiet time to talk, hubby and I want to let you know Bobby and Billy are not allowed at our house given their disregard for our house rules. You and hubby are welcome, and I understand you might be mad at us rather than them. But when they chose the behaviour, they chose the consequences. Thank you for listening." Have hubby on the call with you and don't negotiate.. Do not put it off for a year as advised. If things change within this you, you'll hear about it. Good luck.

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^change within this year

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I would also bring it up now and cite not saying anything b/c you did not want to ruin the holidays.
But I can bet you money you and your husband will be called prudes, uptight etc etc. plus you will offend their parenting skills. So get ready for some push back. And you can't ban only the nephews from your house for this, you never made the rules clear, so they figured it was fine. I would say no drugs or drug use in my house, Maybe you will never have to host them again....

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"Sis, it's abundantly clear Billy and Bobby no longer enjoy their Christmas visits here. I realize you parent your kids your own way but their smoking pot outside put me in a position to address it with my own children and Bill's family. What can we do to make this better next year? I still have young kids and I'm not ready to look the other way about drug use."

[Anonymous]

Hard to believe that neither you nor your husband spoke up. Even harder to believe that you would actually consider waiting a whole year to say something.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell their parents they are not invited back due to the use of illegal drugs at your home.

+1

That is what I would do.

Where do you live? Not illegal in DC.

[Anonymous]

This thread is ridiculous. Teenagers smoked pot on the porch? Tell them to go to the outside and keep it away from your kids next time. Saying they aren't invited back is overkill. And your 16 year old will be fine, despite his cousins smoking pot on his porch.

[Anonymous]

This is ridiculous. I'm sure you'd be fine killing a bottle of wine with your girlfriends but god forbid someone who has smoked weed be near your precious snowflakes!

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You should have told them to stop while they were doing it. To complain now seems silly.

Also, did they fly? If so you might want to think where they got it once they got here.

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Please don't destroy family relationships over some 16 year old smoking pot on the porch. That is really silly.

How do you know your own 16 year old hasn't gotten drunk or smoked pot?

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And why didn't you say something to your brother at the time, if this was a big deal? You're close enough to have xmas together, but not close enough to say go tell your sons to knock it off?

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OP! Your kid isn't as perfect as you make him sound.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell their parents they are not invited back due to the use of illegal drugs at your home.

+1

That is what I would do.

Where do you live? Not illegal in DC.

Maryland.

If they are teens, it is illegal for them to use anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous. Teenagers smoked pot on the porch? Tell them to go to the outside and keep it away from your kids next time. Saying they aren't invited back is overkill. And your 16 year old will be fine, despite his cousins smoking pot on his porch.

+1