Why did you have kids?
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Anonymous
So, are you confident that your mother never had thoughts like this about you, you know that she did and loves you anyway, or you have never thought about it because you don't really think of her as a complete person with thoughts and desires of her own? Happy holidays to you! |
Anonymous
| We wanted children ever since our 3rd date |
Anonymous
| I don't know. However, wanting kids is the strongest instinct I have ever had. I absolutely love being their mother. and I am sad that I may not be able to afford having a third. |
Anonymous
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I could never answer this question. I have 2 kids and I still can't answer the why?
I love them and they bring me great joy but why did I have them--I don't know. I guess it just seemed like the thing to do. I wasn't against it but I also didn't have strong feelings for it. For me the biggest stumbling block is the the no return policy and you get what you get. Everyone says that you will love your children, that having them will be the best thing you've ever done, that you might not like other kids, but you'll love yours. For me, these ideas became true but what about the people for whom it doesn't become true. Children are forever and there's no give backs. I waited to have kids because I had to be sure that no matter what I got, I could accept and handle the child. |
Anonymous
| Free labor. Didn't work out as planned. |
Anonymous
| From the time I was young, I knew I was meant to be somebody's mom. But, I never felt compelled to have a baby. So, I adopted kids. I have the personality of a care taker and I love being able to help them grow up to be successful productive people. Not all are old enough yet to tell where they will go with their lives. But, they are old enough to see that they will have the skills and abilities to be able to take care of themselves and contribute to this world. They are also old enough to tell that they have good hearts and are good people. I have done many things in my life, but this is by far the best. But, I don't know why I did it, other than I always felt that I was supposed to be somebody's mom. |
Anonymous
| I really didn't realize how expensive and demanding they are. My mom made motherhood look so easy. I now realize what a talented, gifted mother she was. |
Anonymous
| I didn't think I would but by 33 the biological urge kicked in and was very tough to fight (akin to abstaining from sex.). Having a kiddo is much harder than I thought, very humbling, and shows me what a selfish asshole I was before - like looking in a mirror for the first time. It makes me want to be a better person. Could just be the sleep deprivation talking though. |
Anonymous
So the lives of those who can't or won't reproduce are about nothing? |
Anonymous
| My kid is the best thing that ever happened to me. If she never came along, I would either be dead, in jail, or a member of a paramilitary group. Now I can be a productive member of society sitting in a cube all day. |
Anonymous
| The buggers dont come with a training manual or 30 day return policy, you cannot disown one easily, you invest in them for 18 years without the expectation of any return, time sink, money sink......yet somehow magically they put a smile on your face. |
Anonymous
| I wanted our children to hve my brains and my wife's looks. But they got their mom's brains and my looks/personality. They are screwed |
Anonymous
Mine too! She was just born for motherhood. I got pregnant and that's why I'm a mom. Much like previous generations, I didn't over think it. |
Anonymous
| I guess what it boils down to is a combination of biology (probably hormonally driven) and curiosity. I wanted to know what it's like to be pregnant, give birth, and raise a child. Imo it's a huge part of the human experience. I know that I would have wondered on what I was missing out on had we not gotten pregnant. |
Anonymous
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It's the best way I could think of to make the world a better place. To raise loving, productive citizens.
They are the best i'm.obsessed with them. |