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I'm an INTJ woman. I find it difficult to be like this sometimes because I don't have a great attention span for what I would consider "mindless chatter" or small talk that many other women seem to love. I also can't turn my mind off.
To the OP, I'm sorry you've been dealing with loneliness. I deal with that and depression too even though I'm constantly surrounded by people (extroverted DH and family members). My struggle is that I want to talk about this with somebody who gets it but most people don't really function on a daily basis in that mode of deep self-reflection. When I find friends that do I really love it
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INTJ female here -- I am an attorney. I specialize in a field that requires a lot of attention to detail and knowledge of facts.
I have never been good at making friends but I have a close family. I'm probably not good at making friends because I really only want to spend time by myself/with my family. It works for me. My husband has commented that I may have Asperger's but I think it's just my introverted personality. |
There is so much overlap. https://www.reddit.com/r/intj/comments/4b0co5/do_i_have_aspergers_or_am_i_just_an_intj/ |
| INTJ women are definitely not the only ones who feel "different" and introspect. There are thousands of threads on female ENTPs, ENTJs, and INTPs (among other MBTI types) feeling exactly the same way, especially as women. Not to diminish anyone's feelings, but it's hopefully somewhat comforting that you're certainly not alone. |
This is true, but they aren't as rare. OP says she feels isolated, this probably doesn't help. |
| I am a INTJ. I married an engineer and have two quirky kids. I also work in IT. I never thought I had Aspergers but am more of a misanthrope. |
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INTJ woman. I work in strategy, planning, decision impact analysis. I have a few close friends. I am also highly sensitive with particular issues with noise and to a lesser extent light. That makes things more challenging than anything else.
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Another INTJ woman, married with kids, pretty successful as a manager but I don't know that it's because of people skills--it's probably because people like working for someone who is rational Play to your strengths.
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| Another intj woman here. Never really felt like I fit in, but usually had a couple of good friends, much more lonely now. It was much easier for me to make friends working in a university setting. Married to a scientist. It sounds like there are more of us in the dc area.... |
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http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2016/11/10-things-people-dont-realize-youre-doing-because-youre-an-intuitive/
Love this- resonates with me, and a lot of what's been shared. |
| I'm an INTJ. Biglaw attorney, married with three little kids. Maybe I'd have trouble making friends. I'm not really interested in trying. |
| Me me me! I'm definitely weird compared to other women but I have a great life regardless. |
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Im ENTJ and my both my good friend and brother are INTJ. It took me a while to understand both of their weirdness especially the introvert part. They both struggle with socializing but they are awesome people. Now that I do understand more about their personalities it doesn't bother me anymore.
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