Brother came out as gay today!

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Anonymous wrote:You need to get out? Not about you. He can do what he wants. When he wants. How he wants. I don't blame him.

Naah I need to get out of this crazy shithole. I love my big brother! I hate his guts and "shownanship" and dont know why he had to do it in front of the entire clan but I still love him. College is giving him wings....

My SIL's BIL pulled that crap at a Thanksgiving a few years ago. Like no one knew. His own family called him my sister Peter. Thanksgiving was the day his father had a massive heart attack and died at the table and sister Peter thought it was the perfect day to confirm himself.

I will never understand this gay pride thing.

You all sound charming.

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Don't drag all of Indiana in to this. My Republican, Catholic, IN family love and support my brother, who is gay.

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OP, I know you must be surprised but I hope you'll be able to give your brother lots of love and support. I'm straight as are all my siblings but nothing they could ever do or say would change my love for them.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to get out? Not about you. He can do what he wants. When he wants. How he wants. I don't blame him.

Naah I need to get out of this crazy shithole. I love my big brother! I hate his guts and "shownanship" and dont know why he had to do it in front of the entire clan but I still love him. College is giving him wings....

My SIL's BIL pulled that crap at a Thanksgiving a few years ago. Like no one knew. His own family called him my sister Peter. Thanksgiving was the day his father had a massive heart attack and died at the table and sister Peter thought it was the perfect day to confirm himself.

I will never understand this gay pride thing.

As a lesbian I find it to be really selfish. I get the "wanting to get it over with thing" but derailing everyone else's holiday with what you know is going to be huge news... I don't agree with it at all. Especially because some people are just not cool with gay people- doesn't mean they're bad people, but they grew up with prejudice. It feels kind of like "sticking it to them" to turn Thanksgiving about it. JMO

Interesting. I'm straight but worked in the gag rights movement for a few years. The kind of coming out stories OP is describing are common (family is only all together so often, so holiday coming outs happen a lot simply because they're practical) and when these sorts of things came up over the years, my mostly gay coworkers seemed to be very sensitive to the fact that people process this kind of information differently. I will say that it's unusual for the person coming out to be unconcerned about how the information is going to be received, which is the impression I get when a person comes out all at once to multiple generations of relatives. So, I see your point about how this can be perceived as selfish. Kind of like using a similar venue to announce an out of wedlock pregnancy to a room full of different generations who will certainly respond to the happy news differently.

I don't know that I have an opinion about it, either way.

[Anonymous]

Gay, not gag!!!! Lol ^

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to get out? Not about you. He can do what he wants. When he wants. How he wants. I don't blame him.

Naah I need to get out of this crazy shithole. I love my big brother! I hate his guts and "shownanship" and dont know why he had to do it in front of the entire clan but I still love him. College is giving him wings....

My SIL's BIL pulled that crap at a Thanksgiving a few years ago. Like no one knew. His own family called him my sister Peter. Thanksgiving was the day his father had a massive heart attack and died at the table and sister Peter thought it was the perfect day to confirm himself.

I will never understand this gay pride thing.

As a lesbian I find it to be really selfish. I get the "wanting to get it over with thing" but derailing everyone else's holiday with what you know is going to be huge news... I don't agree with it at all. Especially because some people are just not cool with gay people- doesn't mean they're bad people, but they grew up with prejudice. It feels kind of like "sticking it to them" to turn Thanksgiving about it. JMO

it's bad manners.
Same as the trend a few years ago to come out during graduation.

I wouldn't expect a 21 year old to know about manners it's the all about me generation.

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Anonymous wrote:My 21 year old brother came out as gay at the thanksgiving lunch table with 33 people family extended family in the room, no advance warning. Now my mom (heart of indiana, devout, religious) is crying and my east coast cousins are cheering him on for being "brave". I need to get out of here....

Selfish jerk. He owed it to his mom to tell her before hand, and give her some time to process this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to get out? Not about you. He can do what he wants. When he wants. How he wants. I don't blame him.

Naah I need to get out of this crazy shithole. I love my big brother! I hate his guts and "shownanship" and dont know why he had to do it in front of the entire clan but I still love him. College is giving him wings....

My SIL's BIL pulled that crap at a Thanksgiving a few years ago. Like no one knew. His own family called him my sister Peter. Thanksgiving was the day his father had a massive heart attack and died at the table and sister Peter thought it was the perfect day to confirm himself.

I will never understand this gay pride thing.

As a lesbian I find it to be really selfish. I get the "wanting to get it over with thing" but derailing everyone else's holiday with what you know is going to be huge news... I don't agree with it at all. Especially because some people are just not cool with gay people- doesn't mean they're bad people, but they grew up with prejudice. It feels kind of like "sticking it to them" to turn Thanksgiving about it. JMO

Being not cool with it makes them bigots.

I think that's very closed minded.

Nope. Not close minded to call people who are "not cool with gay people" regardless of how they were raised bigots. That's exactly what they are.

This absurd conservative idea that people who won't stand for bigotry are close minded needs to end, as does the idea that people who espouse bigotry simply have a different opinion and should be tolerated. That's for people's taste in music or not liking sushi or anything else trivial, not prejudice against groups of people because of race or gender or sexual orientation.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations to him and your whole family- you should be proud seems most vulnerable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 21 year old brother came out as gay at the thanksgiving lunch table with 33 people family extended family in the room, no advance warning. Now my mom (heart of indiana, devout, religious) is crying and my east coast cousins are cheering him on for being "brave". I need to get out of here....

Selfish jerk. He owed it to his mom to tell her before hand, and give her some time to process this.

+1

From a gay person.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to get out? Not about you. He can do what he wants. When he wants. How he wants. I don't blame him.

Naah I need to get out of this crazy shithole. I love my big brother! I hate his guts and "shownanship" and dont know why he had to do it in front of the entire clan but I still love him. College is giving him wings....

My SIL's BIL pulled that crap at a Thanksgiving a few years ago. Like no one knew. His own family called him my sister Peter. Thanksgiving was the day his father had a massive heart attack and died at the table and sister Peter thought it was the perfect day to confirm himself.

I will never understand this gay pride thing.

As a lesbian I find it to be really selfish. I get the "wanting to get it over with thing" but derailing everyone else's holiday with what you know is going to be huge news... I don't agree with it at all. Especially because some people are just not cool with gay people- doesn't mean they're bad people, but they grew up with prejudice. It feels kind of like "sticking it to them" to turn Thanksgiving about it. JMO

Being not cool with it makes them bigots.

I think that's very closed minded.

Nope. Not close minded to call people who are "not cool with gay people" regardless of how they were raised bigots. That's exactly what they are.

This absurd conservative idea that people who won't stand for bigotry are close minded needs to end, as does the idea that people who espouse bigotry simply have a different opinion and should be tolerated. That's for people's taste in music or not liking sushi or anything else trivial, not prejudice against groups of people because of race or gender or sexual orientation.

How typical of the straight person to speak over the gay person

I find you very close minded and perhaps bigoted yourself. Have some compassion for someone with a different worldview. You are exhibiting exactly the same behaviors your preach so harshly about. Take a look at yourself.

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My brother came out at Christmas dinner his freshman year of college. We all toasted him.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to get out? Not about you. He can do what he wants. When he wants. How he wants. I don't blame him.

Naah I need to get out of this crazy shithole. I love my big brother! I hate his guts and "shownanship" and dont know why he had to do it in front of the entire clan but I still love him. College is giving him wings....

My SIL's BIL pulled that crap at a Thanksgiving a few years ago. Like no one knew. His own family called him my sister Peter. Thanksgiving was the day his father had a massive heart attack and died at the table and sister Peter thought it was the perfect day to confirm himself.

I will never understand this gay pride thing.

As a lesbian I find it to be really selfish. I get the "wanting to get it over with thing" but derailing everyone else's holiday with what you know is going to be huge news... I don't agree with it at all. Especially because some people are just not cool with gay people- doesn't mean they're bad people, but they grew up with prejudice. It feels kind of like "sticking it to them" to turn Thanksgiving about it. JMO

Being not cool with it makes them bigots.

I think that's very closed minded.

Nope. Not close minded to call people who are "not cool with gay people" regardless of how they were raised bigots. That's exactly what they are.

This absurd conservative idea that people who won't stand for bigotry are close minded needs to end, as does the idea that people who espouse bigotry simply have a different opinion and should be tolerated. That's for people's taste in music or not liking sushi or anything else trivial, not prejudice against groups of people because of race or gender or sexual orientation.

How typical of the straight person to speak over the gay person

I find you very close minded and perhaps bigoted yourself. Have some compassion for someone with a different worldview. You are exhibiting exactly the same behaviors your preach so harshly about. Take a look at yourself.

Not straight. Also not a bigot. Which makes one of us. Different world views are fine. World views that are prejudiced against people for their sexual orientation (aka not being cool with gay people) are prejudiced. It's not intolerant to call them what they are. Why do you think it's okay to hate gay people? Do you have self esteem issues yourself?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to get out? Not about you. He can do what he wants. When he wants. How he wants. I don't blame him.

Naah I need to get out of this crazy shithole. I love my big brother! I hate his guts and "shownanship" and dont know why he had to do it in front of the entire clan but I still love him. College is giving him wings....

My SIL's BIL pulled that crap at a Thanksgiving a few years ago. Like no one knew. His own family called him my sister Peter. Thanksgiving was the day his father had a massive heart attack and died at the table and sister Peter thought it was the perfect day to confirm himself.

I will never understand this gay pride thing.

As a lesbian I find it to be really selfish. I get the "wanting to get it over with thing" but derailing everyone else's holiday with what you know is going to be huge news... I don't agree with it at all. Especially because some people are just not cool with gay people- doesn't mean they're bad people, but they grew up with prejudice. It feels kind of like "sticking it to them" to turn Thanksgiving about it. JMO

Being not cool with it makes them bigots.

I think that's very closed minded.

Nope. Not close minded to call people who are "not cool with gay people" regardless of how they were raised bigots. That's exactly what they are.

This absurd conservative idea that people who won't stand for bigotry are close minded needs to end, as does the idea that people who espouse bigotry simply have a different opinion and should be tolerated. That's for people's taste in music or not liking sushi or anything else trivial, not prejudice against groups of people because of race or gender or sexual orientation.

How typical of the straight person to speak over the gay person

I find you very close minded and perhaps bigoted yourself. Have some compassion for someone with a different worldview. You are exhibiting exactly the same behaviors your preach so harshly about. Take a look at yourself.

Not straight. Also not a bigot. Which makes one of us. Different world views are fine. World views that are prejudiced against people for their sexual orientation (aka not being cool with gay people) are prejudiced. It's not intolerant to call them what they are. Why do you think it's okay to hate gay people? Do you have self esteem issues yourself?

Who said they "hate gay people"? It sounds like you are jumping to MAJOR conclusions. Someone could be "not cool" with gayness- unfamiliar with it, having wrong associations with it, having been raised to consider it a sin (based on a variety of religions they could follow), and I'm not going to hate them or try to paint them as some horrible person because of it. Plenty of people don't understand things they have never experienced themselves (sounds like, again, you yourself are a victim of this) and I have compassion for their closed world view rather than being self righteous and hateful about it.

I think you need to do some self reflection. You have a lot of anger.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 21 year old brother came out as gay at the thanksgiving lunch table with 33 people family extended family in the room, no advance warning. Now my mom (heart of indiana, devout, religious) is crying and my east coast cousins are cheering him on for being "brave". I need to get out of here....

Selfish jerk. He owed it to his mom to tell her before hand, and give her some time to process this.

+1

From a gay person.

Why does he owe his mother anything regarding his sexuality?