Should president of the PTO also be a room parent?
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Anonymous
Seriously? You didn't know her, so you didn't give her the opportunity to get involved? Yeah, that's not cool and absolutely why people get frustrated with the PTO moms. In a few months when you don't have people showing up at your meetings you'll know why. You took an opportunity to get other parents involved and instead chose to be exclusionary and insular just because you didn't know someone. Mean girl behavior all grown up. If you truly feel guilty and realize your mistake, it's not too late in the year to fix it - reach out to the mom, apologize, and ask if she's still willing to do the job. Then back away, let her do it without your interference |
Anonymous
| Fix it OP. |
Anonymous
| Wait, do we know if the other mom actually wanted to be room parent or just signed up to volunteer? I do think the other mom should be asked if she wants to be room parent, but she might very well say no. |
Anonymous
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OP, I have plenty of time to help and volunteer and sadly gave up. I volunteered on several PTA lists. Have heard nothing. Was the first person on the room parent sign up list and nothing. Its fine if you were chosen, but don't expect me to send in donations and do stuff to help you if you are going to take it all over and between the school and PTA, exclude some of us parents. I don't want to hear from you about the class gift. I don't want to hear from you about teacher appreciation. I don't want to hear, oh, I can't do this, can someone else do it. You took it all on so you deal with it all. Good luck.
P.S. As a new parent I went to the PTA meeting. Never again. The people running it were rude, unwelcoming and not pleasant. They went out of their way to make me feel unwanted. |
Anonymous
| Upset? Why would you want to? Don't you have enough to do? |
Anonymous
Really? -- So, you volunteered though there was another mother on the list... you sound like a control freak. I wouldn't vote for you for janitor! |
Anonymous
Who,cares about the letter. Just make the change and announce it in the next letter. |
Anonymous
+1 Please answer this... I am genuinely curious! |
Anonymous
+100!!!!! |
Anonymous
This. No one will care. The letter can be made to sound like there wasn't a mistake. Most schools I know have at least two room parents anyway. |
Anonymous
Who chose you? Why were you chosen if she signed up first? |
Anonymous
| This can't be real. |
Anonymous
| I'm a PTA chair and actively sought others to be room parent in my kids' classes. Could I have done both roles? Yes. But I think it's more important to have as many different people involved as possible and my co-chair and I pointedly recruited room parents who are not able to make the PTO meetings due to work schedules, but who show up at all the events. We also made sure to ask parents who had not yet been room parents. |
Anonymous
| If nobody else wants the job, then it's fine. Someone has to do it. But another mom signed up and you took it anyway? Nope, you suck. You need to email her and thank her for stepping up and let her do it. |
Anonymous
| Ugh. You're giving the anti-PTO moms great material. Because this is what PTO moms do. Fix it. (and yes, I heard that the letter already went out. oh my) |