Does your boyfriend buy you clothing?

[Anonymous]

Yes, my BF used to buy me skirts and dresses from Ann Taylor, he worked nearby and would go in and buy me things that he liked from the window.
I married him.

[Anonymous]

I had two boyfriends who did this. One was a French guy (I was living in france at the time) who bought me an outfit that was so not me (at the time, I was in my slightly gender ambiguous grad student phase--shorter hair, jeans, etc)--I still remember, it was a short wool skirt (pink, green and brown pattern) and a super fluffy pink angora sweater with pearl buttons. I realized he wanted me to be someone else.
The only other time someone bought me clothes was a guy I was dating--well, let's call it that but I think it was more like fwb. For xmas, he had gotten me an entire outfit--a very tight, kind of vampy black skirt and tight low-cut top from bebe and some pretty nice, but super high/sexy stuart weitzman shoes. I was definitely more feminine at the time but again, this was a trashy, real housewives kind of outfit. I wore it for him, once but it kind of solidified that he was not really interested in me.

my husband doesn't buy me clothes, but he occasionally goes shopping with me and encourages me to try certain things on and is enthusiastic when he likes something. Although I think its been about 3 years since we actually stepped into a store together--young kids and all.

[Anonymous]

DH bought me high end lingerie one VDay. He's brought back tees or sweatshirts when he travels. Winter gloves and hats if he thinks mine aren't warm enough. Lots of socks! I love crazy socks and my students always ask to see them. Otherwise no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH bought me high end lingerie one VDay. He's brought back tees or sweatshirts when he travels. Winter gloves and hats if he thinks mine aren't warm enough. Lots of socks! I love crazy socks and my students always ask to see them. Otherwise no.

That sounds so sweet. When I was dating my now DH we used to call sweat shirts and jogging pants my winter lingerie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're trying on special occasion dresses, he's right there and comments how great you look, but when its at the cash register he holds back and doesn't offer to pay or even slinks off to the side, is that a sign of an el cheapo?

Seriously? I would think it would be weirder for me to drag him to go shopping and then expect him to pay. For a guy there is a minefield to navigate with women's clothes sort of like the right answer to "does this make my butt look big". If you buy something totally not her style, it seems like you are trying to change her and not happy with her the way she is. If you go shopping with her and always pay at the register, it makes it seem like a sugar daddy type relationship or you are trying to buy her. If you are too good and picking out stylish clothing, she has to be cool with the metrosexual he can dress better than me and either I'm confident he doesn't want to wear my dresses or I will be cool if he does.

But back to OP, how do you feel about it? What is typical doesn't matter as long as you and the guy are on the same page. There was a thread awhile ago about someone that was super tight with her family and didn't understand why her boyfriend didn't want to see her family very often. Many thought she was out of step with norms, but almost everyone said she shouldn't change for a guy, shouldn't expect the guy to change for either and instead try to find a guy that feels the same.

[Anonymous]

When we were dating, DH did not buy me clothes. He did pay 95% of the time when we went out though.

We have been married for 10 yrs now and have 3 children. He earns $1million per year and I stay home with the kids.

[Anonymous]

Just once. We walked by a dress in a store window and I commented that I liked it, and he surprised me with it later. I wore it to his college reunion and his friends' wives were very jealous.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend buys me a dress and accessories every few months. No big deal. It's typical in our cultural . My salary as a preschool teacher doesn't pay well. Every few months we might go to Nordstrom or the outlet mall. If he really likes something I try on then he was buy it. He gets uncomfortable if I try to buy something in front of him.

[Anonymous]

I would say pretty much every relationship I have been in I have purchased clothes for GF. Now that I am married, if I am in NY, Vegas, Miami, LA for work and see something I think DW may like I will find it online send her pic or link and get her input before purchasing. Sometimes I know it is something she would not wear out in public but I still get it and she will indulge me and wear around the house or on a weekend away.

[Anonymous]

Husband does. Then I feel obligated to wear the ugly thing at least once. Problem is he never forgets what he bought and brings it up year after year after year.

Let's just say his tastes and views of what he likes makes me cry. I just can't wear the stuff he buys in public. Just to give an example, he has 20 year old shoes he thinks are still in style because they look new. OMG.