Bunmi Laditan: Curious, what's the deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. If you follow her regularly, you will notice that she's in therapy and on meds. I commend her for speaking openly about mental illness, it's nothing to be ashamed of.

Again, nobody is saying it is. I'm talking the screeds that boil down to "my 3 year old didn't want toast." It's excessive. Once in awhile? Sure. But every day is a mini essay on the agony of parenting. It's like she wrote once how hard it was, got a lot of praise for verbalizing what many parents feel, and was like OH! That's my hook! Endless drama and angst over how I literally almost didn't make it through the day today because my kids make my life unbearably hard and we had Mac and cheese again for dinner so I'm relatable!

OP here. Yes, these are the types of posts that I've seen and have wondered about along similar lines. Seems like a lot of her followers really love these posts.

[Anonymous]

She's a bit of puzzle to me. She's had a rough life - raised in a home with an abusive dad, who threw her out (literally) into the streets when she ws what, 16?

She struggles with mental illness nd depression. She has in th east written lovingly about her husband and how much he does for the kids, then there was that series where she said she needed to leave him.

Honestly, given how hard existing with her children seems to be for her, I wonder what will happen with custody. Given her mental issues and simply the way she writes about the kids I think she might need a break entirely.

I feel badly for her husband, to be honest. And I definitely feel badly for the kids. I also feel badly for her - life is hard for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. If you follow her regularly, you will notice that she's in therapy and on meds. I commend her for speaking openly about mental illness, it's nothing to be ashamed of.

Again, nobody is saying it is. I'm talking the screeds that boil down to "my 3 year old didn't want toast." It's excessive. Once in awhile? Sure. But every day is a mini essay on the agony of parenting. It's like she wrote once how hard it was, got a lot of praise for verbalizing what many parents feel, and was like OH! That's my hook! Endless drama and angst over how I literally almost didn't make it through the day today because my kids make my life unbearably hard and we had Mac and cheese again for dinner so I'm relatable!

OP here. Yes, these are the types of posts that I've seen and have wondered about along similar lines. Seems like a lot of her followers really love these posts.

There is a very specific internet consumer that she's catering to at this point. The kind who subscribe to sites like Scary Mommy and mom.me and like "Open Letter to my son's future wife" posts. People who basically only want to read about parenting and how hard others find it, pretty much. That schtick seems to have worked for her but in my personal opinion, she was better when she was just tweeting as Honest Toddler. Those posts were snappy, funny, and poked fun of parents and the crazy things they do and the humorous parts of life with toddlers. When she moved into specifically writing all about herself and her own real kids is when she lost me. Those kids don't deserve to be a platform for Bunmi to write about her own neuroses and fails and issues. It isn't fair to them. These types of "writers" are so short sighted. One day their kids are going to read this stuff and be like "Yeah, it's great 26,000 other women related to this enough to like it on Facebook. But all I see is how much you hated parenting and how hard I made your life. Awesome."

[Anonymous]

I just read some of her FB posts. I deal with anxiety and depression, but I can't read her stuff. She would take me down a spiral with her. I stopped reading scary mommy for the same reason. I need positivity, not groveling in our unhappiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's a bit of puzzle to me. She's had a rough life - raised in a home with an abusive dad, who threw her out (literally) into the streets when she ws what, 16?

She struggles with mental illness nd depression. She has in th east written lovingly about her husband and how much he does for the kids, then there was that series where she said she needed to leave him.

Honestly, given how hard existing with her children seems to be for her, I wonder what will happen with custody. Given her mental issues and simply the way she writes about the kids I think she might need a break entirely.

I feel badly for her husband, to be honest. And I definitely feel badly for the kids. I also feel badly for her - life is hard for her.

How do you know all this about her childhood? Sounds like unkind gossip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's a bit of puzzle to me. She's had a rough life - raised in a home with an abusive dad, who threw her out (literally) into the streets when she ws what, 16?

She struggles with mental illness nd depression. She has in th east written lovingly about her husband and how much he does for the kids, then there was that series where she said she needed to leave him.

Honestly, given how hard existing with her children seems to be for her, I wonder what will happen with custody. Given her mental issues and simply the way she writes about the kids I think she might need a break entirely.

I feel badly for her husband, to be honest. And I definitely feel badly for the kids. I also feel badly for her - life is hard for her.

How do you know all this about her childhood? Sounds like unkind gossip.

She's written about it, and recently (within last 6 weeks or so), too, as part of the spiral she is on now. I like her a lot and think of her as a genius comedy writer. I do not like the oversharing of her life and the way she portrays mothering as so hard all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was better when she just did the Honest Toddler Twitter. Then she got big and started making waaaaay too many long winded posts about how hard life with kids is and how fragile her mental state is. Too much and sometimes just embarrassing to read.

Ummmm, really? I for one find it incredibly refreshing to see someone put it out there like she does. I think more people than you think can relate to what she is saying and is dealing with the same struggles. She didn't destroy her marriage by writing about her life online, nor did the other "mommy blogger". There are marriages ending everyday and it doesn't have shit to do with them writing about them online, we just happen to be hearing about these peoples lives.

I think she is a a kickass woman and mother and I hope that she continues to share her stories with her. She is not alone and we are all in this together trying to do the best we can. Here's to you Bunmi!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was better when she just did the Honest Toddler Twitter. Then she got big and started making waaaaay too many long winded posts about how hard life with kids is and how fragile her mental state is. Too much and sometimes just embarrassing to read.

Ummmm, really? I for one find it incredibly refreshing to see someone put it out there like she does. I think more people than you think can relate to what she is saying and is dealing with the same struggles. She didn't destroy her marriage by writing about her life online, nor did the other "mommy blogger". There are marriages ending everyday and it doesn't have shit to do with them writing about them online, we just happen to be hearing about these peoples lives.

I think she is a a kickass woman and mother and I hope that she continues to share her stories with us. She is not alone and we are all in this together trying to do the best we can. Here's to you Bunmi!