Bunmi Laditan: Curious, what's the deal?

[Anonymous]

Not sure if this is the right forum. I've only recently become aware of her. I like her writing sometimes, so have followed her on social media, despite the strong sancti-mommy vibe many of her posts give off.

I was just curious--from her posts, it seems she does virtually 100% of the parenting. At least, her husband isn't mentioned. What's the deal? I thought she was married, but maybe not?

[Anonymous]

Never heard of it.

[Anonymous]

I follow her, but as of only recently.
I think she's married and they have 3 kids.

There is something on Huffinton about her.

[Anonymous]

A few weeks ago she made a couple posts alluding to separating from her husband, but she deleted them a few days later. Then she posted about moving to an apartment, so I assume they did separate, but she hasn't gone into it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A few weeks ago she made a couple posts alluding to separating from her husband, but she deleted them a few days later. Then she posted about moving to an apartment, so I assume they did separate, but she hasn't gone into it.

OP here. Okay, that makes sense if that's the case. I assumed she was married and living with her husband.

[Anonymous]

I noticed fewer posts involving her husband and more about being overwhelmed by her children/life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A few weeks ago she made a couple posts alluding to separating from her husband, but she deleted them a few days later. Then she posted about moving to an apartment, so I assume they did separate, but she hasn't gone into it.

Did she make these posts on Facebook? I follow her there and really enjoy her writing but didn't see any of the posts you mentioned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A few weeks ago she made a couple posts alluding to separating from her husband, but she deleted them a few days later. Then she posted about moving to an apartment, so I assume they did separate, but she hasn't gone into it.

How terribly sad. I hope she has a strong support system in real life.

[Anonymous]

It was better when she just did the Honest Toddler Twitter. Then she got big and started making waaaaay too many long winded posts about how hard life with kids is and how fragile her mental state is. Too much and sometimes just embarrassing to read.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was better when she just did the Honest Toddler Twitter. Then she got big and started making waaaaay too many long winded posts about how hard life with kids is and how fragile her mental state is. Too much and sometimes just embarrassing to read.

Vulnerability and mental illness are nothing to be embarrassed about. That's on you, op. Her honesty is refreshing on a platform where most others airbrush their lives and rave about being #soblessed when it's really all kind of a sham. If her writing is too much for you, then stop reading.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It was better when she just did the Honest Toddler Twitter. Then she got big and started making waaaaay too many long winded posts about how hard life with kids is and how fragile her mental state is. Too much and sometimes just embarrassing to read.

Vulnerability and mental illness are nothing to be embarrassed about. That's on you, op. Her honesty is refreshing on a platform where most others airbrush their lives and rave about being #soblessed when it's really all kind of a sham. If her writing is too much for you, then stop reading.

I'm not saying mental illness is anything to be ashamed about! Lord. I'm just saying DAILY 2000 word updates on the fragility of ones well being and the brutal horror of raising kids is a bit much. Therapists and diaries are great things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It was better when she just did the Honest Toddler Twitter. Then she got big and started making waaaaay too many long winded posts about how hard life with kids is and how fragile her mental state is. Too much and sometimes just embarrassing to read.

Vulnerability and mental illness are nothing to be embarrassed about. That's on you, op. Her honesty is refreshing on a platform where most others airbrush their lives and rave about being #soblessed when it's really all kind of a sham. If her writing is too much for you, then stop reading.

I'm not saying mental illness is anything to be ashamed about! Lord. I'm just saying DAILY 2000 word updates on the fragility of ones well being and the brutal horror of raising kids is a bit much. Therapists and diaries are great things.

I've only read a couple of her most recent posts, and that's how they come off to me. "Raising young children is really really really hard." Okay, and?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It was better when she just did the Honest Toddler Twitter. Then she got big and started making waaaaay too many long winded posts about how hard life with kids is and how fragile her mental state is. Too much and sometimes just embarrassing to read.

Vulnerability and mental illness are nothing to be embarrassed about. That's on you, op. Her honesty is refreshing on a platform where most others airbrush their lives and rave about being #soblessed when it's really all kind of a sham. If her writing is too much for you, then stop reading.

OP here. I haven't responded since 23:37. If she's going through a hard time in her life, that makes more sense, and I'm a lot more sympathetic. Otherwise, I would think that if she's struggling that much, she should seek counseling or other help. She has a lot of followers, and it almost makes it seem as if mental health problems are basically un-addressable if she doesn't try to seek help. I also wondered how much was real and how much was exaggerated, given her eloquent writing? But, maybe that's a coping strategy.

Seems there was another thread about some other mommy blogger getting a divorce. I do wonder whether making your domestic life the center of blogs destabilizes one's marriage.

Again, I do feel bad for her if she indeed moved into an apartment and separated from her husband.

[Anonymous]

NP. If you follow her regularly, you will notice that she's in therapy and on meds. I commend her for speaking openly about mental illness, it's nothing to be ashamed of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. If you follow her regularly, you will notice that she's in therapy and on meds. I commend her for speaking openly about mental illness, it's nothing to be ashamed of.

Again, nobody is saying it is. I'm talking the screeds that boil down to "my 3 year old didn't want toast." It's excessive. Once in awhile? Sure. But every day is a mini essay on the agony of parenting. It's like she wrote once how hard it was, got a lot of praise for verbalizing what many parents feel, and was like OH! That's my hook! Endless drama and angst over how I literally almost didn't make it through the day today because my kids make my life unbearably hard and we had Mac and cheese again for dinner so I'm relatable!