Help DD navigate the bus stop

[Anonymous]

Thanks all. OP here. Many of the kids at the bus stop are boys and some of them are rough/tough talking, not mean per se, just not what she's used to.

I'll try to make more of an effort to talk to the parents there. I'm kinda reserved myself and am def not a talker in the morning. Most days, DD has just hung close to me til kids pointed out that she needs to put her backpack in the line (they line them all up) because that's the order they get on the bus. Last week, they let the K'ers get on first. The group seem to have their own rules about stuff (one of the parents even said to me, 'Yeah, there's probably official rules about the bus stop, but this group has their own way of ruling.")

I'm hesitant to go to another stop because we'd have to pass this one to get there, and I think we'd get questioned on why.

[Anonymous]

OP - is the bus stop all boys? Any kids her age?
Kindergarten is tough since most older kids will not want to associate with someone younger and boys will tend to want to play around with other boys. It should get easier as time goes by.
Are there any other kids in her class that ride her bus? If so, encourage her to sit with them when she gets on, both i the morning and afternoon - or give her a book to read.
Our bus stop is pretty tame and most of the kids keep to themselves since they are all different grades and classes so either go later so you aren't just waiting around. My kids sit separately either with a friend that gets on later or on their own and just read. Trip is only 15 minutes so not a huge deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should talk to the other parents for excluding your DD. That is not nice. Or just pick her up and hold her until the bus comes - I did that all of kindergarten.

Are you KIDDING? Are you CRAZY? My kid is not one to make fun of other kids but she would absolutely steer clear of any kid whose mother physically HEND THEM when all the other kids were standing on their own two feet (or sitting on their backpacks).

[Anonymous]

I find it weird that this is a thing. Don't you guys just wait like 30 seconds at the bus stop like the rest of America? Why is there so much time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it weird that this is a thing. Don't you guys just wait like 30 seconds at the bus stop like the rest of America? Why is there so much time?

NP here. Our bus is always late, so kids -- and parents -- do sometimes end up waiting for 10 or so minutes. As for the original question, I dunno, when my daughter was in K, she was the only kindergartener at our bus stop, and the rest of the crowd were older children, mostly boys. Oh, well, she just waited quietly until the bus came. A couple of weeks in she happened to sit on the bus next to a first-grade boy, and they became quick friends, on their own, without me intervening .

OP, I'd say, give it time and don't helicopter. Things will work themselves out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it weird that this is a thing. Don't you guys just wait like 30 seconds at the bus stop like the rest of America? Why is there so much time?

Buses are on time in the rest of America? Who knew?

[Anonymous]

Honestly I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. Just have your daughter wait with you and get on the bus. Eventually other kids may come around, or not. You can't make everything perfect for your kid all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should talk to the other parents for excluding your DD. That is not nice. Or just pick her up and hold her until the bus comes - I did that all of kindergarten.

Are you KIDDING? Are you CRAZY? My kid is not one to make fun of other kids but she would absolutely steer clear of any kid whose mother physically HEND THEM when all the other kids were standing on their own two feet (or sitting on their backpacks).

Have you no sense of humor? None at all, Miss Crazy Caps?

[Anonymous]

Give her time. Back off. You can help her reflect on things after the fact and offer strategies. But you can't force all the kids to be BFFs with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should talk to the other parents for excluding your DD. That is not nice. Or just pick her up and hold her until the bus comes - I did that all of kindergarten.

Are you KIDDING? Are you CRAZY? My kid is not one to make fun of other kids but she would absolutely steer clear of any kid whose mother physically HEND THEM when all the other kids were standing on their own two feet (or sitting on their backpacks).

Have you no sense of humor? None at all, Miss Crazy Caps?

Not "Miss Crazy Caps" but, given that this is DCUM, I don't think it was all that obvious that the post she was responding to was meant to be a joke. And I'm rarely someone who fails to recognize sarcasm.