What is the hardest decision you've ever made?

[Anonymous]

what to major in at college
where to go to graduate school
who to date at the age when I was ready to get married
whether to move or not
Hardest decisions usually correspond with the worst decisions.

[Anonymous]

When to pull the feeding tube on my mom.

[Anonymous]

What to do when I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant and not married. I thought about abortion for one day or so and that was the end of that line of thinking. Then came the thinking about adoption and that ended equally as quickly. I couldn't see giving up a child when the only difference between me and an adoptive family was that they had more money. My DD is 10 now and we live a very nice life happily together. Her dad sees her a few times per year (he lives out west). It's all good.

[Anonymous]

The easier and hardest decision was to terminate a relationship with my brother.

It was easy, because I'd had enough. I reached a point of "no more fucks to give." It was hard, because it also meant dealing with the things related to that - not involving our other siblings, trying to earn their respect for how I handled my decision (essentially not bringing them into any drama), and accepting that I won't be involved with his kids. Which truthfully, wasn't going to happen no matter what, estrangement or not. That heartbreak is something I don't feel I can gamble with.

I've dealt with much, much more difficult things in life, but I'd say that was both my most difficult, and also easiest "decision."

[Anonymous]

Choosing between my husband and my oldest friend/who'd become my affair partner, when I truly loved them both very much. Stuck with my husband.

Stopping my abuse of Vicodin. Seems like an obvious choice but it had me in its grip.

[Anonymous]

An abortion. I did it . A very wise decision in the end since I ended the relationship. I would've have been a very miserable single parent. lesson learned!

[Anonymous]

Going through IVF and staying with my husband after he cheated.

IVF turned out not being a big deal and it got me pregnant.

My marriage is in a great place and I'm happy

[Anonymous]

Deciding to stay with my husband, who is an alcoholic - he is almost 3 years sober and attends AA a couple times a week. It was a tough couple of months and we were just getting back to somewhat normal when I got pregnant a bit surprisingly after many years of unexplained secondary infertility. It turned out great, but had you told me that I would have a baby less than a year after nearly divorcing my husband, I would have told you that was nuts. I mean, to hear it, it sounds nuts. But, it worked out for us and we are doing well.

[Anonymous]

Whether or not to quit working and become a SAHM. I just had a second child and my parents just died, so there was a tiny financial support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Deciding to stay with my husband, who is an alcoholic - he is almost 3 years sober and attends AA a couple times a week. It was a tough couple of months and we were just getting back to somewhat normal when I got pregnant a bit surprisingly after many years of unexplained secondary infertility. It turned out great, but had you told me that I would have a baby less than a year after nearly divorcing my husband, I would have told you that was nuts. I mean, to hear it, it sounds nuts. But, it worked out for us and we are doing well.

I also stayed with my husband who is an alcoholic and now sober. The fact we are still married is a miracle. I'm also expecting. It's amazing how different an alcoholic is when sober.

[Anonymous]

Deciding if I should have one or both breasts cut off the night before surgery.

[Anonymous]

Deciding to raise my son and become a single teen mom after a very unplanned pregnancy. Giving up my full scholarship to keep him. Never a regret at all. He's 18 now a truly wonderful human being.

A lot of decisions were hard then though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Deciding to stay with my husband, who is an alcoholic - he is almost 3 years sober and attends AA a couple times a week. It was a tough couple of months and we were just getting back to somewhat normal when I got pregnant a bit surprisingly after many years of unexplained secondary infertility. It turned out great, but had you told me that I would have a baby less than a year after nearly divorcing my husband, I would have told you that was nuts. I mean, to hear it, it sounds nuts. But, it worked out for us and we are doing well.

I also stayed with my husband who is an alcoholic and now sober. The fact we are still married is a miracle. I'm also expecting. It's amazing how different an alcoholic is when sober.

Best of luck to you! To be fair, I don't notice a huge difference in my husband day to day. He was hiding how much he was drinking to deal with stress and anxiety. He was a functional alcoholic. Now, he has learned different methods to deal with these things.

I will say how proud I am of him for remaining sober through some very difficult times. The past 3 years have been very hard for our family and could have easily caused a relapse for many.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To have a child on my own - single mom by choice style, not an 'oops, now what do I do' situation. Hardest but best decision of my life.

Plus 1. I adopted. How about you!?

[Anonymous]

My two hardest decisions aren't yet done yet. First is how to handle my extremely dysfunctional sister who is profoundly mentally ill and I don't know what to do. I am not qualified to provide the help she needs, and she is miserably unhappy but there is nothing in the world I can do to help. For now, I talk to her weekly and listen to her and tell her I think she needs to have medication. Second is whether to stay married to my husband who had a year-long affair. We have three young children and I love him. But the affair nearly destroyed me.

I make a new decision every day on these two issues. Every day I decide whether or not to answer the phone when my sister calls. Every day I decide to stay with my husband. Every day I put off a final decision. Boundaries - I need them!