Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
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Anonymous
| I love the way OP says "...forces my son...". |
Anonymous
Doubtful. |
Anonymous
| This is a serious consent issue. Please nip this in the bud before he learns that physical intimacy can be forced. |
Anonymous
| Just stop, OP. Your son is picking up on your attitude which is probably why he's not more affectionate with your MIL. |
Anonymous
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Op you are right. Most of these posters probably have horrible relationships with their MILs, which is why they are so quick to jump on you. You can love someone but dislike something they do. You are the mom. You can intervene on behalf of your son. Here's an article if it is helpful...
http://adrielbooker.com/teaching-kids-body-privacy-personal-agency-consent/ |
Anonymous
| This kind of thing has been happening since the beginning of time. Somehow we all survived... |
Anonymous
And some of us were abused, molested, pressured into sex, or date raped because we were taught to go along, to be "good," to be liked. |
Anonymous
| NP here who has explained to both set of grandparents that the children will not give hugs and kisses if they don't want to. They will be polite (wave, say thank you, etc.) but no forced affection. Unfortunately only one set of grandparents listened. The other set regularly gets reminded but always try to guilt the kids into hugs and kisses. The kids usually say no several times and then I have to intervene and say "it's okay you don't have to if you don't want to, please wave and say good-bye nicely " |
Anonymous
| In less there is good reason, then my child knows with specific people, the proper greeting is a hug, kiss and telling them its nice to see them. Maybe teach your child manners? |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
No OP, but my own mother has social skills and recognizes when someone else is uncomfortable. She would never force physical contact on someone else when it clearly wasn't wanted. |
Anonymous
+1. It could be that OP's mother doesn't exhibit the same behavior, or was corrected and changed her behavior. I have the same rules about no forced physical contact with my child - my mother got it after a few reminders, and my MIL has said she is entitled (her word) to physical affection from my child. It's a battle every time - one that I let her son handle. And yes, my child is now affectionate with my mother because she never forced the issue. And he has never warmed up to MIL. Her loss. |
Anonymous
You're making a huge leap there, drama queen. 
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Anonymous
| I would never allow anyone to jerk my kid around like that. For the posters saying "we all survived this back in the day..." NOPE. I was born in '76, and if I thought my uncle looked scary because he grew a beard, then I wasn't forced to hug or kiss them. |
Anonymous
You are disgusting. |