Your "number": Did you lie to your spouse/SO about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never asked DH how high his number is. He has never asked me how high my number is. It's not relevant to our relationship. If he asked, I would make a list and tell him, but I wouldn't ask, because frankly, I don't care.

This. I could probably take a ballpark guess, and vice versa, but I don't care to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I don't even thing we discussed it. Mine is low -5. His is somewhere similar. We just didn't care.

Negative five? Wow!

[Anonymous]

We didnt give numbers but had an agreement that if one of us asked the other one about a specific person then we had to be honest. Both of us are still friends with some of our priors. It hasnt been an issue.

[Anonymous]

Yep, we never asked/cared either. Any of those people or relationships were not relevant. All that matters is us, now.

[Anonymous]

We didn't talk about numbers, but I pretended to have more experience than I did because I felt silly that I was still a virgin. I had messed around but never actually lost my virginity. I didn't tell him this when we had sex for the first time (although he knew I was not "experienced"). I told him later that he was my first (and only). I feel sad that I didn't tell him before because I think he would have enjoyed knowing that he was my first at that time, and it might have been less stressful for me, too. But whatever. We're married now and have never talked about his number besides discussing his two fairly seriously relationships before me. He's older than me by 8 years, so I expected him to have a higher number and also knew he had been with at least a few other women before me.

[Anonymous]

I don't know my count so I can't honestly say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I told the truth, zero.

Same for both of us.

[Anonymous]

Lied through my teeth. I was young and embarrassed. Regret the lie to this day. Said 3 real number 7. Married and together 20+ years.

[Anonymous]

Somewhere in the 40s, not counting sex I had with "pros". DW had a very high number, too, and won't even hazard a guess. I like the fact that DW was experienced and it's worked out great for us, except for the fact that our sex life virtually ground to a halt after DS was born. DS is 9 and still insists on sleeping in our bed between us. Guess he doesn't want any siblings.

[Anonymous]

No, I never counted them up until after I met him. I actually volunteered the information, when i decided i wanted to actually marry him and knew that it be a disqualifying factor to an american. His reaction: "it's just a part your life that makes you who are today, " or something like that.

I've never asked him, but i know he was pretty active after he came to Denmark, before we met.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lied through my teeth. I was young and embarrassed. Regret the lie to this day. Said 3 real number 7. Married and together 20+ years.

Come clean now! Why not

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:we never talked about it, just didn't seem to matter in the scheme of things

He never once asked me how many people I had slept with. What a stupid question. We talked about our past relationships, of course, but not "the number."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lied through my teeth. I was young and embarrassed. Regret the lie to this day. Said 3 real number 7. Married and together 20+ years.

Come clean now! Why not

Or Why?

[Anonymous]

We've never had that conversation. We met in our 30's though, I suppose I could see it coming up if we had met in college or something.

[Anonymous]

No. If anything, I was kind of embarrassed it was so low. I figured it made me look like a prude.