Level of contact = level of interest?

[Anonymous]

What does the guy get out of all this daily emails/phone calls/flowers for years on end?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be honest, I think I fell harder for him at first than he did for me.

BY DESIGN! THAT's why he only contacted you every couple weeks. BECAUSE IT DROVE YOU NUTS!

Let that be a lesson, guys. They're so used to these sissies "pursuing them hard" and falling over themselves that if you hold out, play it cool and give radio silence, they'll go CRAZY for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: he saw that I was interested in him and was just happy that a pretty-enough, smart-enough woman with a good-enough personality wanted to date him

Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH besieged me for over a year with daily calls, emails, cards, flowers, small gifts etc. I was out of the country for an extended period of time, and the relationship was very young, but he never let up. I appreciate a man who goes for what he wants. We married shortly after I returned. Going on 15 years.

You must have married a real loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH besieged me for over a year with daily calls, emails, cards, flowers, small gifts etc. I was out of the country for an extended period of time, and the relationship was very young, but he never let up. I appreciate a man who goes for what he wants. We married shortly after I returned. Going on 15 years.

This is pp. As much as I love my dh, I do kind of regret never having experienced this. It must be so flattering to have a guy take your breath away with how much they want you. With my dh, it took me a long time to realize he did love me and want me around.

Are you kidding? Daily calls, emails, cards, flowers and small gifts are the hallmarks of desperate losers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does the guy get out of all this daily emails/phone calls/flowers for years on end?

Exactly. They get nothing. Attention is a two way street.

[Anonymous]

Nah. If you contact her too often, and respond too quickly to her texts/emails, she will think you are desperate and needy. As a man you have to discipline yourself to respond less often and less quickly than you might "naturally" want to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be honest, I think I fell harder for him at first than he did for me.

BY DESIGN! THAT's why he only contacted you every couple weeks. BECAUSE IT DROVE YOU NUTS!

Let that be a lesson, guys. They're so used to these sissies "pursuing them hard" and falling over themselves that if you hold out, play it cool and give radio silence, they'll go CRAZY for you.

+1. This is OP. The fact that he cut down on communicating after being so full-on courting is akin to someone getting you hooked on drugs and then cutting you off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nah. If you contact her too often, and respond too quickly to her texts/emails, she will think you are desperate and needy. As a man you have to discipline yourself to respond less often and less quickly than you might "naturally" want to.

Do most men continue to do this even after they are married?

[Anonymous]

Some men push hard, others play it cool.

Personally, early in dating, I would let a few days go by between contacts. This would just be for the first few dates. I would honestly feel pathetic texting, or calling, someone every day at that stage. If a woman expected this, I was clearly not her man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH besieged me for over a year with daily calls, emails, cards, flowers, small gifts etc. I was out of the country for an extended period of time, and the relationship was very young, but he never let up. I appreciate a man who goes for what he wants. We married shortly after I returned. Going on 15 years.

This is pp. As much as I love my dh, I do kind of regret never having experienced this. It must be so flattering to have a guy take your breath away with how much they want you. With my dh, it took me a long time to realize he did love me and want me around.

Are you kidding? Daily calls, emails, cards, flowers and small gifts are the hallmarks of desperate losers.

No one ever fell head over heels with you? Sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: he saw that I was interested in him and was just happy that a pretty-enough, smart-enough woman with a good-enough personality wanted to date him

Get over yourself.

HAHAHAHA that was so, so not a brag. Seriously?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be honest, I think I fell harder for him at first than he did for me.

BY DESIGN! THAT's why he only contacted you every couple weeks. BECAUSE IT DROVE YOU NUTS!

Let that be a lesson, guys. They're so used to these sissies "pursuing them hard" and falling over themselves that if you hold out, play it cool and give radio silence, they'll go CRAZY for you.

+1. This is OP. The fact that he cut down on communicating after being so full-on courting is akin to someone getting you hooked on drugs and then cutting you off.

Its one thing if you enjoy these games. Its another if you reck your brain wondering if he is interested. I for one dont appreciate this bait and ssitch crap lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nah. If you contact her too often, and respond too quickly to her texts/emails, she will think you are desperate and needy. As a man you have to discipline yourself to respond less often and less quickly than you might "naturally" want to.

Do most men continue to do this even after they are married?

After they are married, men and women realize they were too busy following insane rules to actually get to know each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH besieged me for over a year with daily calls, emails, cards, flowers, small gifts etc. I was out of the country for an extended period of time, and the relationship was very young, but he never let up. I appreciate a man who goes for what he wants. We married shortly after I returned. Going on 15 years.

This is pp. As much as I love my dh, I do kind of regret never having experienced this. It must be so flattering to have a guy take your breath away with how much they want you. With my dh, it took me a long time to realize he did love me and want me around.

Are you kidding? Daily calls, emails, cards, flowers and small gifts are the hallmarks of desperate losers.

No one ever fell head over heels with you? Sad.

The person you were responding to is probably male.

But don't let that stop you from trying to hurt people.