I saw your nanny - Is your daughter called Francesca?

[EE]

I've emailed the site administrators to ask about getting a dedicated "nanny sighting" forum added. I would read it and contribute to it regularly-- almost always with positive observations. Most nannies I see out and about are quite good with the kids. Which makes Francesca's nanny situation all the sadder.

[Anonymous]

Hi- I posted earlier and didn't think I knew a Francesca (we live close to Market Commons.) However, it's been bothering me all day and I think there was a Francesca in my children's Music Together class at Lyon Village this fall. I've emailed our instructor and hopefully she will get back to me soon as I hope to direct her parents to this site. I have my fingers crossed.

[Anonymous]

bump

OP really should consider posting to the list serv as well, to reach the maximum number of eyeballs

[Anonymous]

I am Francesca's mother and am sick to my stomach. Can the original poster please, please contact me at xxx-xxx-xxxx (home) or xxx-xxx-xxxx (cell)? Thank you so much for posting this and looking out for my little girl....

[jsteele]

EE wrote:I've emailed the site administrators to ask about getting a dedicated "nanny sighting" forum added. I would read it and contribute to it regularly-- almost always with positive observations. Most nannies I see out and about are quite good with the kids. Which makes Francesca's nanny situation all the sadder.

There is a thread based on a similar request in the "Website Feedback" forum to which I've responded. I'm giving consideration to the idea of such a forum and will discuss it with Maria this evening. I appreciate feedback from users as well.

I've noted some of my own concerns in my response in the other thread. However, one of my concerns is that your example of posting positive comments will not be widely followed and the forum will simply be dominated by nanny bashing. In addition, I am troubled by posts such as the following:

anonymous wrote:This is the reason, I'm really scarred to use a nanny vs. day care. At least in a daycare, there are other providers around and the child isn't completely alone with the provider.

Admittedly, this is a fairly innocuous thing to say and I'm sure the poster had only the best of intentions. However, parents that have nannies could easily be offended and the resulting flame war would not be to anyone's benefit. Had the poster not stated a preference for daycare and instead said something along the lines of being a stay at home mom because she cares about her children more than work out of the house moms, our server would probably catch fire from the ensuing posts. I'm really not sure that what this board needs is additional provocations for insulting each other. But, again, I'll look forward to what others think.

[jsteele]

While I was typing my message, I see that the child's mother replied. I hope my reply doesn't seem insensitive in that context, but I hadn't seen her reply until I posted. To the parent, please email me or post to the board once you have been contacted so that I can remove your phone numbers.

[Anonymous]

Makes me want to go out and get nanny cam.

[Anonymous]

I am the OP. I just got back to all the responses. I am so relieved that Francesca's mom responded. I am so sorry to be the bearer of bad news but I really did not like what I saw yesterday on many levels. I hardly ever go clothes shopping because my son gets so bored and upset and its simply unfair to out him through it just because he has no choice. On the rare occasion I do when I cannot avoid it, rather than scold him for being justifiably fractious I try to placate him and make the visit as short as possible.

Also I know how delicate children's emotions and self esteem are - I see it in my son. There is a difference between scolding and being made to feel unloved and a general nuisance especially when you are so young and you have been treated unfairly to begin with. She looked so dejected when she crawled out of the cubicle, my heart went out to her. Besides scolding was not warranted because the poor little girl had been strapped to her stroller for so long it was no wonder she was upset and whining. I would be.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote: To the parent, please email me or post to the board once you have been contacted so that I can remove your phone numbers.

I am the Op. I have noted her numbers. thanks J. Steele

[Anonymous]

Also, don't let your nannies take your kids out. Those trips to the mall or grocery store are all about their own shopping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, don't let your nannies take your kids out. Those trips to the mall or grocery store are all about their own shopping.

This is what's wrong with an "I saw your nanny" forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, don't let your nannies take your kids out. Those trips to the mall or grocery store are all about their own shopping.

This is what's wrong with an "I saw your nanny" forum.

Why is this wrong? Why should nannies be able to go to the mall with their charges? And if they do and the parents know about it, then what difference does it make if it is posted on an "I saw your nanny" website? The parents would already know.

Honestly, this message just broke my heart as well. I have a nanny and even though she is new, I know she would never do this. But if she didn't mistreat my children, I'd want to know. I would want somebody to post the message b/c I'd then be able to speak with my nanny about it.

On the flip side, I'd love to hear positive notes about my nanny as well. I think such a forum could be great and should be given at least a trial go.

[Anonymous]

I agree with 16:36 -- my concern about an "I saw your nanny" forum is that while we probably can all agree that Francesca's nanny was mistreating her charge, we absolutely will not agree on appropriate nanny-child activities. Many of us don't care if our nannies run errands with our kids, use public transportation, etc., but others have very different standards. Such a forum would have to be very carefully (and consistently) moderated to ensure that the postings adhered to some common denominator of problematic nanny behavior.

[Anonymous]

No one is going to write in b/c a nanny is out with a child. They write when the child is being mistreated. The only problems I see with the postings is that it may give TMI to the public (child's name), and the nanny, who could read it before the parents, and panic.

[usa007]

I will suggest that if someone walks/live around Clarendon...And see a child....like Francesca..PLEASE ask the parents....
I did it once a fell years ago with a nanny in DC ....It was horrible ...she was sitting in that playground with two kid..(one infant one around 3) the infant was sleeping facing the sun...in the summer and the 3 y/old was asking her to go to down the slide....and she was on the phone....and told him that it wasn't safe...
So the boy seat there forever looking to the other kids...
Please ....just talk for the kids...they have no voice...!!!