Ivy League student not missing, chooses to go off the grid

[Anonymous]

Hope she has a job because I'd cut her ass off. FOREVER.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hope she has a job because I'd cut her ass off. FOREVER.

Well, she just wants to work on her writing and produce music and maybe freelance modeling. How could she not be rolling in cash?!

[Anonymous]

She could have just changed her major and stayed at Columbia.

[Anonymous]

I think that the overarching message of not being swayed by 'prestige' when picking a school and not making your accomplishments/awards/whatever your entire identity is a good one and worthwhile for high schoolers/college kids to hear, but unfortunately the way she chose to go about this was terribly selfish and wasteful of governmental resources and unexplainably cruel to her family and friends. I'm not enitrely sure what I'd do if my daughter pulled something as selfish as this, but I wouldn't be happy, that's for sure.

[Anonymous]

She could have quit school without worrying everyone. It was easier for her not to face anyone. But it was not smart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There have been a few threads on here about private schools (and which are the best for your child to get into an Ivy school). I think this is a reminder that whatever kids do it needs to be a right fit and something they are passionate about.

http://nypost.com/2016/05/29/why-i-had-to-escape-my-ivy-league-life-and-disappear/

Or sometimes you have to go into the
Military or take any job you can because you have aged out of foster care, have no training to get a job, no money for school, have to support yourself

Not everyone is in your SES OP and can follow their passion.
No wonder you sympathize with the ungrateful brat who did have the decency to tell her mother she wanted to quit school and pursue another life.

[Anonymous]

Let me type a grandiose story about everyone hunting me down. I knew they would look for me and am an attention whore.

[Anonymous]

Tl; dr: College was hard and I was a small fish in a big pond. I didn't like my courses so instead of changing majors or at least finishing the semester, I changed my phone number and moved to Williamsburg, where I want to work on my art. Sorry for worrying everyone, including Mom, and making you think I was a missing person for two weeks, but I gotta be me!

What a jerk. She should have finished her semester and then left school, TELLING her mother and friends she was moving. This kid goes to Williamsburg and her life changes forever? She's too sensitive and busy with her new identity to call or text her mother on Mother's Day, so her mother wouldn't worry? Give me a break.

[Anonymous]

Here, Kidd reveals to The Post’s Melkorka Licea what triggered her brazen escape from the Ivy League, how she pulled it off and where she goes from here.

WTF? The author of the article has drunk her Koolaid. There's nothing brazen about what she did and the escape isn't from a school but from herself. And, when did 'off the grid' mean you had an apartment with electricity, running water and a cell phone? She didn't go off the grid, she's just an upscale bum with mental illness.

[Anonymous]

"Never ring the bell" - General McRaven, U. Texas Austin Commencement

https://youtu.be/pxBQLFLei70

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She could have quit school without worrying everyone. It was easier for her not to face anyone. But it was not smart.

It sounds like she had a small mental breakdown and needed time from the pressures. She didn't want to hear from those arround her. Some people find it easier not to confront

[Anonymous]

OP here: so I see they moved the post. Whatever. I thought it was completely relevant for where I posted it because so many private school parents (not to say it doesn't happen in public schools) get so caught up with encouraging our kids to go to an Ivy League school or otherwise prestigious school all because it's what we think will make them happy, put them on the right path, be the great conversation piece, blah, blah, blah. While I DO NOT think what this girl do was appropriate or the right way to handle the situation (and I would be pissed if she was my child) I think it should serve as a reminder that there is something to be said about allowing your kids to pursue their passions and not yours AND when searching for a school/college the focus should be on the right fit for your kid and not the name of the school.

It sounds like she would have benefited from a different type of college, and because her experience was so bad she now doesn't like school. She is 19 years old and obviously lived somewhat of a privileged life that has allowed her to make such selfish decisions

For the poster who thinks that I am of some SES that I can sympathize you are sorely mistaken. You made a lot of assumptions clearly driven by your own SES.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: so I see they moved the post. Whatever. I thought it was completely relevant for where I posted it because so many private school parents (not to say it doesn't happen in public schools) get so caught up with encouraging our kids to go to an Ivy League school or otherwise prestigious school all because it's what we think will make them happy, put them on the right path, be the great conversation piece, blah, blah, blah. While I DO NOT think what this girl do was appropriate or the right way to handle the situation (and I would be pissed if she was my child) I think it should serve as a reminder that there is something to be said about allowing your kids to pursue their passions and not yours AND when searching for a school/college the focus should be on the right fit for your kid and not the name of the school.

It sounds like she would have benefited from a different type of college, and because her experience was so bad she now doesn't like school. She is 19 years old and obviously lived somewhat of a privileged life that has allowed her to make such selfish decisions

For the poster who thinks that I am of some SES that I can sympathize you are sorely mistaken. You made a lot of assumptions clearly driven by your own SES.

We must have read different articles. I didn't read anywhere that this girl was pressured by anyone to do anything. It was all at her own instigation/motivation. Her mother supported her DD's decisions, her DD didn't conform to her mother's expectations. Even when her mother found her again, her mother was supportive. It was her own mental illness that finally caught up with her.

...when I was going to start high school, I insisted on moving to California to attend boarding school.....My mom didn’t want me to move so far away but supported my ­decision.

[Anonymous]

She is just the unqualified diversity student. Too bad she worried her parents so much. Not very kind or nice to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is just the unqualified diversity student. Too bad she worried her parents so much. Not very kind or nice to them.

This is exactly the kind of thing they talk about with the mismatch effect.