Do you let your teen/preteen keep their phone in their bedroom at night?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basically no way. It gets plugged in downstairs every night so he gets a break from it and also so he can't stay up all night doing stuff on it and so I can look if I want. You should just say it's a hard and fast rule and no way will you agree. (kids are 11 and 14). I don't think I'll ever be ok with it, but recognize that later in high school I might not be able to control it all

Of course you can! Simply keep the phone charging in your dresser drawer at night. You will know right away if they try to sneak it away. And, I personally will be doing that with my kids until they move out of my house. I'd do it with my husband, too, if he wouldn't totally hate me for it.

So you treat your husband like a little child? He sounds like a pussy.

[Anonymous]

Child is in 9th grade. No, never. In the morning she has many, many texts and snapchats from friends, so we may be in the minority, but I don't care. Every single one of those incoming messages would wake her up, and even the possibility that one might come in would be a deterrent to healthy sleeping behavior. She doesn't get enough sleep as it is!

[Anonymous]

yes. he isn't addicted to it and that's where he charges it.

not every child has a technology addiction. not every child really gives a crap about snapchat etc. know your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:14 year DS old and yes. He like to sleep with his bedroom door open, so we know when he goes to sleep. And we just haven't had a problem with phone use, especially at night. If we did, we'd change the rules. But until there is an issue...

Yup. Not every kid is a problem with phones.

[Anonymous]

DD is 12. She has to stop using her phone at 9pm on school nights and it charges in my bedroom. I generally don't look at it.

[Anonymous]

None of you worry about sexting behind closed doors?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes. he isn't addicted to it and that's where he charges it.

not every child has a technology addiction. not every child really gives a crap about snapchat etc. know your kid.

True.

I have a tween and he complains that he can't find friends who want to just hang out outside and do sports, like pick up basketball, skateboarding, and biking. We've worked to help him identify friends who are like minded. My son doesn't give a crap about screens of any sort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None of you worry about sexting behind closed doors?

Clutches pearls.

[Anonymous]

There's no reason for a teen to have a phone at any time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's no reason for a teen to have a phone at any time.

Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's no reason for a teen to have a phone at any time.

Good luck with that.

Yup. When I was a kid there were payphones. I like being able to reach my kid. I don't like generalizations and blanket statements.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:13 ... no
17... Yes

+1

[Anonymous]

My 13 yo is not allowed to have it in his room at night. He finds it difficult to stay off it. He's got a clock radio so he can listen to music/ball games and get himself up in the morning. My 11 yo has a hand-me-down phone and she does keep it in her room. She has no problems staying off it at night. My 9 yo does not have a phone. When he does get a phone, we'll see how he handles it and make a determination from there. Every 3 months or so, my 13 yo has an opportunity to keep his phone in his room again. But, he's not been able to demonstrate responsible use.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If not, what is the reason?

My 13 y.o. DS is not happy about not having his phone at night. He was allowed to have it before, but that was a mistake on my part.
I want his phone charging in the kitchen at night, but he gives me a hard time about it. Asks for a reason, tells me he needs it for alarm clock, etc.
I really want to stick with the no phone at night routine, but I realize I made it complicated at the beginning when I let him have it.
How do I turn it around?

You are the parent. He is the child. He needs to go to sleep at night. It's really that simple if you want him to be successful at school the next day.

[Anonymous]

No.

Phones get plugged in to charge in our bedroom at 9pm.

Teens are 16 and 14.