Update on husband had baby with assistant

[Anonymous]

What's the line on Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt?

Don't be afraid of anything, OP. The worst thing that ever happened to you already happened. Things can only get better for you from here on out. I believe in you, and you are going to be so much happier without this horrible person in your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's the line on Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt?

Don't be afraid of anything, OP. The worst thing that ever happened to you already happened. Things can only get better for you from here on out. I believe in you, and you are going to be so much happier without this horrible person in your life.

It's "females are strong as hell"

You can do this, OP!!!

[Anonymous]

I think you still have some dark times ahead, but they are lessening. The future is out there.

Thanks for keeping us updated. i feel connected to your story. (perhaps therapeutic to write an article for submissions to some publication?).

How did your soon to be ex react? Is the assistant still in the picture? How are your kids dealing with this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good luck to you. It has been interesting following your journey, but I am sorry you had to go through this. I would have made the same decision.

I have a friend who decided to stay and welcome the stepson who is a few months older than her youngest child. Three years down the road, it seems to be working, but only because the baby mama was a one-night-stand and out of the picture.

I admire your friend but if my DH sired a bastard there is no way in Hell I would ever allow communication/connection with my children. I would also divorce my DH because I could not be married to a man I could not trust.

[Anonymous]

Thank you so much for the positive support. My kids do not know that he exists at this point. That is on my husband to deal with that news. I have repeatedly asked him to consult with some child psychologists to find out what would be the best for them. It has been three months and of course, he has done nothing. The OW is married but constantly calls my soon to be ex yelling at him that he needs to see the child. (He has, just not enough for her). She is also calling my mother-one-law and telling her she needs to see the child because he is her biological grandson. She is now threatening to sue for child support. Mind you, her husband is the legal father.

Not my monkeys, not my circus anymore!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you so much for the positive support. My kids do not know that he exists at this point. That is on my husband to deal with that news. I have repeatedly asked him to consult with some child psychologists to find out what would be the best for them. It has been three months and of course, he has done nothing. The OW is married but constantly calls my soon to be ex yelling at him that he needs to see the child. (He has, just not enough for her). She is also calling my mother-one-law and telling her she needs to see the child because he is her biological grandson. She is now threatening to sue for child support. Mind you, her husband is the legal father.

Not my monkeys, not my circus anymore!!!!!

He's horrible, and it will get better the further you distance yourself from this nut.

Until there's DNA and he's declared the LEGAL father he's technically not the father. I wouldn't involve the children at all unless he's put on the birth certificate. Otherwise I certainly wouldn't consider that child to be related to yours. As you said that's his problem, BUT I would make it clear he not talk to the children about it. The child could be anyone's at this point, and apparently your ex is a pathological liar and cheater.

At this point he may never be the legal father, and that's what counts.

I would move on from your ex with very little contact only related to the visitation. I would get it written in the divorce that your kids are not to be alone with any women he may be dating. Only agreed on sitter, or relatives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good luck, OP. You are a strong woman.

How are your kids holding up? Do they accept their new half sibling?

Read below, he's not the legal father so they don't have any half siblings.


"Mind you, her husband is the legal father".

[Anonymous]

Stay Strong. You'll find happiness and look back on this time as be glad that you got out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good luck, OP. You are a strong woman.

How are your kids holding up? Do they accept their new half sibling?

Read below, he's not the legal father so they don't have any half siblings.


"Mind you, her husband is the legal father".

Well they are blood half siblings legal or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you so much for the positive support. My kids do not know that he exists at this point. That is on my husband to deal with that news. I have repeatedly asked him to consult with some child psychologists to find out what would be the best for them. It has been three months and of course, he has done nothing. The OW is married but constantly calls my soon to be ex yelling at him that he needs to see the child. (He has, just not enough for her). She is also calling my mother-one-law and telling her she needs to see the child because he is her biological grandson. She is now threatening to sue for child support. Mind you, her husband is the legal father.

Not my monkeys, not my circus anymore!!!!!

Please get your child support and alimony settled right away. If she goes to court before you your award could be significantly less. I'm going thru this right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good luck, OP. You are a strong woman.

How are your kids holding up? Do they accept their new half sibling?

Read below, he's not the legal father so they don't have any half siblings.


"Mind you, her husband is the legal father".

Well they are blood half siblings legal or not.

No they're nothing to each other. There's a legal father. Doesn't matter what he/she said, lol.

OP get divorced, and once you feel ready to date I am sure you will find someone down the road that appreciates you. Forget about exes drama.

[Anonymous]

Years ago one of my inlaws accused this guy (boyfriend) of being the father. She swore up and down and showed us pictures of him. He looked a little like Bill Idol. We went to the hospital and I was blown away. The baby was very dark. A few months later she brought the guy into court and the dna turned out to be not his. After that she brought 2 other guys in for paternity tests, again negative. I was shocked because I would have never known she was that type of person.

It ended up being a neighbor who lived close by. Until there's DNA and the actual name goes on the birth certificate it doesn't mean squat.

[Anonymous]

Not my monkeys, not my circus anymore!!!!!

You got that right, OP!! Thanks for the update. Like everyone else, I'm wishing you the best. Stay strong!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good luck, OP. You are a strong woman.

How are your kids holding up? Do they accept their new half sibling?

Read below, he's not the legal father so they don't have any half siblings.


"Mind you, her husband is the legal father".

Well they are blood half siblings legal or not.

No they're nothing to each other. There's a legal father. Doesn't matter what he/she said, lol.

OP get divorced, and once you feel ready to date I am sure you will find someone down the road that appreciates you. Forget about exes drama.

Are you kidding? If my dad had an affair and I had a half sibling, I would want to know about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Are you kidding? If my dad had an affair and I had a half sibling, I would want to know about it.

(raises hand) My dad had many babies with APs! I didn't find out about the half siblings (six of them in total from different APs) until I was an adult. Probably best that was kept from me when I was a kid. What a dirty dog he is. Haven't spoken to him since my mom kicked him out.