accidentally invited "twin" to party
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Anonymous
This! OP's drama is laughable...and what's with saying none of the invited kids are friends with the twin--they are 6, their group of friends will change many times, stop trying to make a clique for first graders. And presumably the invited twin is friends with he own twin, so OP's statement is ridiculous. |
Anonymous
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I have twin boys and I can't tell you how many times I've received an invitation and I have no idea which kid it's for. (Evite only makes the name specification optional and it's impossible to invite two kids with the same email address.) In first grade, I assumed both were invited to a party and I was wrong. It was awkward. After that, if my kid's name wasn't on the invitation I would sheepishly contact the parent to ask which kid was invited.
To answer your question: No, twins are not automatically a package deal but I can understand how a parent might assume both could come. If you can fit the extra kid, let him come. It's extremely unlikely that every invited kid can make it so you'll likely have enough space. |
Anonymous
OP twin mom here: As the twins get older, they go their separate ways, and you are not required to ask both of them. But at a young age, they are used to doing things together. You obviously do not know them well since you did not know that DS friend had a twin. The flip side is that twin birthday parties are usually fun and a big event, so your DS has an opportunity to meet others in his grade. When we first moved here, many years ago, and did not know many people -- getting to know people -- some moms were pretty mean in telling me that "that OTHER twin is NOT invited!" (we don't have chairs...!) First impressions are lasting ones, and sometimes very accurate as well. |
Anonymous
| Wow. I'm pregnant with twins right now and I would NEVER assume that both kids were invited to the party. In fact it's probably better for each kid to have their individual friends rather than be constantly lumped together. I guess as hostess you have to graciously accept both but on future invites specify 'no siblings' to hopefully avoid the problem. |
Anonymous
| Pregnant twin Mom 8:28, come back to us other twin moms after your kids are a bit older, and we will see if you say the same thing! |
Anonymous
What? As a mother of twin boys myself, get ready for a big learning curve. They are twins, the mom of twins didn't know who was actually invited based on the evite. Twins same sex attending the same school is totally different then bringing along a sibling 3 years older. |
Anonymous
Word!!! Like.... Really. |
Anonymous
I will say the exact same thing. I wonder what makes you think I wouldn't? It's good manners, plain and simple. That doesn't change after birth. |
Anonymous
Twins are siblings. Unless they are conjoined, there's no logical reason why any student not in OP's child's class should attend the party. |
Anonymous
Mom of elementary school age kids here- I've always considered twins to be a package deal especially when they are around 6/7 years of age. My son has 3 sets of twin friends and 1 mom is very specific on which twin we want to invite over, with it's a birthday party or just play date. We always reiterate both are welcomed. Mom of said twins is very much appreciative and mentioned that other parents have gotten upset when she assumed both boys were invited. That makes me sad for how inconsiderate some parents can be to children! Not saying you are OP! I think it's good for you to ask but some people have weird to get angry. And to the poster who said twins have the best birthday parties! They absolutely do! |
Anonymous
It's Valdemort |
Anonymous
Psst. 1st grade boys don't sit at parties. Even during cake time. Neither do 2nd grade boys. Or 3rd grade boys. They bounce around, run, jump, spin, wiggle...but sitting? Not very well and certainly not all at once. Okay, they might sit for about five minutes to eat some cake. But mostly, they don't. And, first grade boys are not picky or judgemental, so you can pull out a desk chair or a lawn chair and they will think it is quite grand. Actually, they will all see the lawn chair or the stepstool or tye spinning desk chair as the "special chair" and will be happy to sit there. Boys don't sit at partied until they get to the age where birthday parties consist of a handful of close friends watching movies or playing video games. So unless you are throwing a video game party, you do not need to worry about having enough chairs for a boy party. |
Anonymous
You don't know until you have them and you will probably need to walk this one back once your kids are here. Very likely, the kids do know one another. There is a lot of mixing classes in elementary school during specials and recess. Plus, as someone else said, the boys will end up being inclass with the other twin at least several times over the next few years, along with scouts, baseball, soccer, minecraft club, etc. |
Anonymous
X1000 twins are only special to their parents. To the rest of us they are simply siblings. Are we supposed to write on invites 'no siblings or twins'? The twin mom was wrong and rude. |
Anonymous
| Inviting one twin and not the other same sex twin to a first grade birthday party is like as adults inviting the wife to a wedding and not the husband. At a young age, same sex twins do everything together. |