I was "ghosted" by my boyfriend of almost a year....

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pp here.. we were more than 3 hours away too.

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OP this is a shitty move but an acquaintance's bad of many years did this to her. They even owned a house together. People can be really horrible and selfish. Consider it a bullet dodged and be kind to yourself.

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It's over, he's moved on without giving you any sort of closure because he's selfish and he doesn't want to deal with the unpleasantness of a break up.

I agree that you have dodged a bullet. I hope you make it a point to go out this weekend and have have a blast. Life will be better without this guy in it.

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Anonymous wrote:Title pretty much says it all. We started day if last April and as of 2 weeks ago, he just completely stopped talking to me and changed his number. All this happened on Monday, Feb. 22nd. He had broke his phone and called me from a family members house phone later that night to tell me that he had to get a new phone and would call me when that happened. Tried calling him the next day when I didn't hear from him and got a "the person you are trying to reach is not accepting calls at this time" message. Two weeks later...same message. It's obvious he just changed his number and didn't tell me but I'm honestly dumbfounded by the whole thing. Sure we were going through a semi rough patch but we were working through it. I'm past the point of being sad and crying over this and am now just really really angry. We live 3 1/2 hours apart so it's not like I can just drive to his house and be like "wtf?". Well I guess I could but I won't and don't want to. Has this ever happened to anyone else before?

what was this 'semi rough patch'? something you caused?

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Had u posted in the past about moving in together?

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Breaking up in any fashion sucks. Does anyone like looking in the eyes of someone with whom they had a caring relationship and saying they don't want to see them anymore?

OP, I wouldn't be surprised if he contacts you sooner or later.

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He's a coward. It sucks now, but the truth is he did you a favor. You dodged a bullet and now can move on to a better life.

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Happened to me too OP. Guy I'd been with for almost a year just stopped communicating. After three weeks I sent him a very nice, mature emails saying, "obviously we have reached the end of our time together. Best of luck to you.". He wrote back and admitted he's a schmuck. Last time we ever communicated.

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This sucks OP and he's wrong but I have a question about the rough patch as well. Sounds like he sees it as much more serious than you do.
I had a boyfriend once who thought we were just having a rough patch when in reality we had broken up- he was just refusing to acknowledge that I was done.

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OP I am so sorry, that is such a shitty thing to do. The only time ghosting is excusable is when a person is leaving an abusive relationship. Other than that, you owe the person the closure of saying "this is over" even if you don't go into the details of why.

The other PPs are right, you dodged a bullet with this guy. People who do this kind of crap don't know how to deal with conflict. Imagine trying to navigate all the hurdles of everyday with a person like this and they just shut down and/or walk away every time you disagree. You'd just spend your life not knowing where you stand and whether things are really ok because they don't tell you what's going on.

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Hey OP, I also got ghosted on recently by a guy I dated for 7 months. He dumped on Valentine's Day via text. No real reason except "I'm going through some stuff."

Absolutely no contact for two weeks, then a couple of I miss you's. Nothing else. Very sad and hurtful.

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Anonymous wrote:That is an absolutely horrible thing to do to someone. He is an asshole. Or totally screwed up from a massively dysfunctional family, like the previous poster. Or both. I am sorry you wasted a year on him, but be glad you're rid of him. You don't want to date someone who has such cowardly and callous communication skills.

Op here- oh he definitely has a very dysfunctional family. No relationship with his mom and his father has a drug and alcohol problem and they barely talk.

Count yourself lucky. Only rare individuals turn out as decent human beings with that sort of baggage. Always be wary of the guy who has no relationship with his mom. It's hard to imagine what he did but at this point, OP, let it go. Trying to "say your peace" would bring this guy being into your world, and you don't want that.

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Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, I also got ghosted on recently by a guy I dated for 7 months. He dumped on Valentine's Day via text. No real reason except "I'm going through some stuff."

Absolutely no contact for two weeks, then a couple of I miss you's. Nothing else. Very sad and hurtful.

Can't believe I'm saying this cause it makes me feel so old, but is this a generational thing? I'm 45 and can't imagine this sort of thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Happened to me too OP. Guy I'd been with for almost a year just stopped communicating. After three weeks I sent him a very nice, mature emails saying, "obviously we have reached the end of our time together. Best of luck to you.". He wrote back and admitted he's a schmuck. Last time we ever communicated.

So sad that there are so many men who are cowards. How do they sleep?

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Anonymous wrote:OP I am so sorry, that is such a shitty thing to do. The only time ghosting is excusable is when a person is leaving an abusive relationship. Other than that, you owe the person the closure of saying "this is over" even if you don't go into the details of why.

The other PPs are right, you dodged a bullet with this guy. People who do this kind of crap don't know how to deal with conflict. Imagine trying to navigate all the hurdles of everyday with a person like this and they just shut down and/or walk away every time you disagree. You'd just spend your life not knowing where you stand and whether things are really ok because they don't tell you what's going on.

+1 to this. There are a lot of walking wounded out there and they don't know it. It hurts now but count yourself lucky.