I was "ghosted" by my boyfriend of almost a year....

[Anonymous]

Title pretty much says it all. We started day if last April and as of 2 weeks ago, he just completely stopped talking to me and changed his number. All this happened on Monday, Feb. 22nd. He had broke his phone and called me from a family members house phone later that night to tell me that he had to get a new phone and would call me when that happened. Tried calling him the next day when I didn't hear from him and got a "the person you are trying to reach is not accepting calls at this time" message. Two weeks later...same message. It's obvious he just changed his number and didn't tell me but I'm honestly dumbfounded by the whole thing. Sure we were going through a semi rough patch but we were working through it. I'm past the point of being sad and crying over this and am now just really really angry. We live 3 1/2 hours apart so it's not like I can just drive to his house and be like "wtf?". Well I guess I could but I won't and don't want to. Has this ever happened to anyone else before?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Title pretty much says it all. We started day if last April and as of 2 weeks ago, he just completely stopped talking to me and changed his number. All this happened on Monday, Feb. 22nd. He had broke his phone and called me from a family members house phone later that night to tell me that he had to get a new phone and would call me when that happened. Tried calling him the next day when I didn't hear from him and got a "the person you are trying to reach is not accepting calls at this time" message. Two weeks later...same message. It's obvious he just changed his number and didn't tell me but I'm honestly dumbfounded by the whole thing. Sure we were going through a semi rough patch but we were working through it. I'm past the point of being sad and crying over this and am now just really really angry. We live 3 1/2 hours apart so it's not like I can just drive to his house and be like "wtf?". Well I guess I could but I won't and don't want to. Has this ever happened to anyone else before?

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[Anonymous]

I kinda did this to a GF back in the day. I hate confrontation and arguments (alcoholic parents ...), so I just bugged out. I didn't want the drama of a breakup. Was it the mature, upfront, manly way of doing it? No. Am I proud of it? No. Did I take the easy way out? Yes. Guilty as charged.

[Anonymous]

That is an absolutely horrible thing to do to someone. He is an asshole. Or totally screwed up from a massively dysfunctional family, like the previous poster. Or both. I am sorry you wasted a year on him, but be glad you're rid of him. You don't want to date someone who has such cowardly and callous communication skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I kinda did this to a GF back in the day. I hate confrontation and arguments (alcoholic parents ...), so I just bugged out. I didn't want the drama of a breakup. Was it the mature, upfront, manly way of doing it? No. Am I proud of it? No. Did I take the easy way out? Yes. Guilty as charged.

Op here- how long were you with your gf for when you did that? I could understand him maybe doing this after a few months but after pretty much a YEAR? Just not ok in my book. I initially thought something happened to him and reached out to a friend of his on fb who told me he had just seen him for drinks with the guys at their friends house last Friday so obviously he's fine. I was really hurt and upset that first week and a half and now that it's been two weeks, ive accepted it but having a hard time not being really pissed off and wanting to find a way to confront him about it.

[Anonymous]

Did he happen to mention going hunting for bobcats?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is an absolutely horrible thing to do to someone. He is an asshole. Or totally screwed up from a massively dysfunctional family, like the previous poster. Or both. I am sorry you wasted a year on him, but be glad you're rid of him. You don't want to date someone who has such cowardly and callous communication skills.

Op here- oh he definitely has a very dysfunctional family. No relationship with his mom and his father has a drug and alcohol problem and they barely talk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did he happen to mention going hunting for bobcats?

Funny but no

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP. he wasn't meant for you. That means the guy you marry will be BETTER for you than him. He's out there. You WILL meet him. you being single again means you are getting close to the finish line. So pat yourself on the back. It's another one down, another to go. .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I kinda did this to a GF back in the day. I hate confrontation and arguments (alcoholic parents ...), so I just bugged out. I didn't want the drama of a breakup. Was it the mature, upfront, manly way of doing it? No. Am I proud of it? No. Did I take the easy way out? Yes. Guilty as charged.

Op here- how long were you with your gf for when you did that? I could understand him maybe doing this after a few months but after pretty much a YEAR? Just not ok in my book. I initially thought something happened to him and reached out to a friend of his on fb who told me he had just seen him for drinks with the guys at their friends house last Friday so obviously he's fine. I was really hurt and upset that first week and a half and now that it's been two weeks, ive accepted it but having a hard time not being really pissed off and wanting to find a way to confront him about it.

It was a long relationship, not just a few months. We'd had some ups and downs (I'd almost proposed, she cheated on my with an ex, we'd gotten back together, etc.).

[Anonymous]

Wow. Do you see him on FB? Any chance there's something wrong and it's not just that he's a piece of crap? Sorry, OP. That's unbelievable. If you need closure maybe email him a goodbye and a reminder that human beings talk to each other and observe basic social niceties.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry OP. No one deserves this. Chalk it up to his dysfuctinal upbringing and recognize it has nothing to do with you. Do not seek revenge or confrontation bc that will not give you any real fulfillment. Seek out your family and good friends for support and move on. You'll find love again. Hugs to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry OP. No one deserves this. Chalk it up to his dysfuctinal upbringing and recognize it has nothing to do with you. Do not seek revenge or confrontation bc that will not give you any real fulfillment. Seek out your family and good friends for support and move on. You'll find love again. Hugs to you.

+1 Youe best revenge is moving forward and eventually finding a healthy partner. The way he behaved reflects deep dysfunction.
As painful as this is, he did you a huge favor and you will really feel that someday, I promise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did he happen to mention going hunting for bobcats?

I remember that post!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Title pretty much says it all. We started day if last April and as of 2 weeks ago, he just completely stopped talking to me and changed his number. All this happened on Monday, Feb. 22nd. He had broke his phone and called me from a family members house phone later that night to tell me that he had to get a new phone and would call me when that happened. Tried calling him the next day when I didn't hear from him and got a "the person you are trying to reach is not accepting calls at this time" message. Two weeks later...same message. It's obvious he just changed his number and didn't tell me but I'm honestly dumbfounded by the whole thing. Sure we were going through a semi rough patch but we were working through it. I'm past the point of being sad and crying over this and am now just really really angry. We live 3 1/2 hours apart so it's not like I can just drive to his house and be like "wtf?". Well I guess I could but I won't and don't want to. Has this ever happened to anyone else before?

I am a girl and I did this after getting back from a fun vacation in brazil. My ex had cheated the past year and we were 'trying' to work things out. I stayed in touch with him while on vacation but then i came back and ignored his calls for 2 weeks. I just got sick of him insisting we work things out, his emotional drama, and I just hated him at that point. He quickly got on okcupid after he sent me a text that he was very hurt and took it as a sign i moved on. He was immature with me so i was immature with him.