Men- did your view of your wife change when you had children?

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Anonymous wrote: I didn't share my load. If I agreed to have a kid I probably would have. But she took it upon herself to make the decision for me so fuck you and change the diapers in the middle of the night and don't bother me when I'm sleeping or watching tv.

You should have worn a rubber or had a v. Your own dumb fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have been together for almost 10 years. We have just started to TTC, but I've noticed that he is trying harder to do a lot of things, without me asking.
He's always been an excellent partner, and we are very happy and comfortable together.

I asked him what was up, and he said just everything feels different knowing we could be bringing people into the world. He said that he knows I'll be pulling the heavy burdens, and he wants me to know he's got my back. It was weird and sweet at the same time.

In this era of push presents and all kinds of stuff, I'm just wondering if men really feel differently about their partners when they become mothers (or I guess in our case, the potential mother).

Ladies, did your relationship change or did you feel differently about your partner / DH?

That is awesome. He sounds like a v observant partner in life. You will each have a lot more work around the house so glad he is aware of what is needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I didn't share my load. If I agreed to have a kid I probably would have. But she took it upon herself to make the decision for me so fuck you and change the diapers in the middle of the night and don't bother me when I'm sleeping or watching tv.

Eeew. The kind of parent who ends up dead in a barrel in a storage locker while someone continues to collect their Social Security/pension.

[Anonymous]

zander wrote:I shared my load alright that's how she got pregnant to begin with...lfmao

[Anonymous]

The viewbof her vagina became much wider.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I've heard many men complaining about their wives' roomier vages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I've heard many men complaining about their wives' roomier vages.

Two, Usually the ones with small packages do this. Men with real equipment do just fine.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I've heard many men complaining about their wives' roomier vages.

Two, Usually the ones with small packages do this. Men with real equipment do just fine.

I was worried about this because DH is quite small but I still "feel" all around him when he's inside me and the sex doesn't feel any different and he still finishes around the same times (duration) as before, so I think a lot of that is folklore. Or maybe very large babies or many babies? I've only had one very small baby so maybe it'll be worse later? Ugh I hope not. He's amazing in so many other ways and actually the best sex I've ever had despite the size. I think it's because he really makes up for it in other ways / techniques. Also, sex used to always hurt me. Little guy, small guy, didn't matter. Now, it still hurts (feels very tight) but it's not quite as bad as it used to be.

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My view of her, unfortunately, involves less nakedness.

[Anonymous]

My view: Yes, she became overwhelmed about raising the children, keeping the house and working at the office. She is always stressed out and nagging about everything. Yuck.

[Anonymous]

I viewed her as a lazy sob I mean right after giving birth and released from hospital she refused to do anything. Like laundry, vacuuming, mowing lawn etc. She keeps complaining my stiches hurt. Dude you're fine that's why the doc released you so can do this stuff cmon..quit whining.

[Anonymous]

I can tell u this: after my wife had kids, i never looked at her the same way. She became fat as a house and never lost the weight. Why is that ok? Cut her hair short. Now I'm screwed for life.

[Anonymous]

I knew this thread was going to be nasty. Op don't come to dcum for the happy stories, especially from guys. My dh is shocked there are guys on here, I figure is because unhappy guys spend time googling and getting to dcum to bitch about their wives instead of having sex with them!

My dh was wonderful before during and after. He took care of me when I was stuck, supported me when I was on hospitalized bed rest and now that our lovely DD is here he not only pulls equal childcare weight but we're having the best sex of our entire relationship because he made it a point to show me how much he loves me and how attracted to me he is.

I am so exceptionally lucky, I love him so much and he would say the same about me. Happy people exist! There just isn't a majority on this website

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew this thread was going to be nasty. Op don't come to dcum for the happy stories, especially from guys. My dh is shocked there are guys on here, I figure is because unhappy guys spend time googling and getting to dcum to bitch about their wives instead of having sex with them!

My dh was wonderful before during and after. He took care of me when I was stuck, supported me when I was on hospitalized bed rest and now that our lovely DD is here he not only pulls equal childcare weight but we're having the best sex of our entire relationship because he made it a point to show me how much he loves me and how attracted to me he is.

I am so exceptionally lucky, I love him so much and he would say the same about me. Happy people exist! There just isn't a majority on this website

Also I look at DD now and I see us both, combined into one person. And it has changed my love for him completely into something much deeper. I have never been more in love than watching them sleep together peacefully. Our DD made us a family. So yes, it's changed everything.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I knew this thread was going to be nasty. Op don't come to dcum for the happy stories, especially from guys. My dh is shocked there are guys on here, I figure is because unhappy guys spend time googling and getting to dcum to bitch about their wives instead of having sex with them!

My dh was wonderful before during and after. He took care of me when I was stuck, supported me when I was on hospitalized bed rest and now that our lovely DD is here he not only pulls equal childcare weight but we're having the best sex of our entire relationship because he made it a point to show me how much he loves me and how attracted to me he is.

I am so exceptionally lucky, I love him so much and he would say the same about me. Happy people exist! There just isn't a majority on this website

Also I look at DD now and I see us both, combined into one person. And it has changed my love for him completely into something much deeper. I have never been more in love than watching them sleep together peacefully. Our DD made us a family. So yes, it's changed everything.

LOL, yes, im sure thats how you feel. But OP was asking men.