Hiring a cleaning lady and not telling husband?

[Anonymous]

I don't clean before they come, but we straighten up, return items to their homes, put dishes in dishwasher, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't clean before they come, but we straighten up, return items to their homes, put dishes in dishwasher, etc.

Same here, especially in the kids room (the kids do this). Our cleaner is happy to straighten up their rooms but then the kids can't find their stuff -- which is their problem for not taking care of their stuff in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Try doing a one time cleaning and that's it.

[Anonymous]

"This is situation has GOT to be resolved soon because the house is unlivable. You have 3 days to think about how to divide up the cleaning, and then I hire a house-cleaner. Thanks."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
"This is situation has GOT to be resolved soon because the house is unlivable. You have 3 days to think about how to divide up the cleaning, and then I hire a house-cleaner. Thanks."

Op here....I'm with you!!!

[Anonymous]

It's funny my cleaning lady told me she has several clients who pay her in cash and the husbAnds don't know she cleans. I think it's pretty common!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
"This is situation has GOT to be resolved soon because the house is unlivable. You have 3 days to think about how to divide up the cleaning, and then I hire a house-cleaner. Thanks."

If you talk to a man like that all he will hear is "drama queen". You better rephrase that

[Anonymous]

I use one occasionally, and my DH has never cared. Of all the things you need to do as workings parents, cleaning is by far the easiest to outsource. I would just suggest you try it once and see how your DH reacts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you clean up before the cleaner comes? This is what I don't get. If I were to hire somebody, I'll leave the cleaning to her, totally, with clear written instructions.

Maybe you are just a neater person than I am, so this doesn't apply to you. But a lot of times, we have toys all over the floor, backpacks and homework and jnunk mail on the kitchen counter, clothes and shoes random places, etc. and it's just disrespectful to ask someone to vaccum your floor, then have a bunch of Legos all over it that they have to pick up first.

[Anonymous]

The woman I babysat for as a kid did this and it made everyone happy. If it isn't a budget buster for your family, it's not the end of the world.

[Anonymous]

do not hide it, for a variety of reasons, one of which is that he (like my husband) will continue to think that boring, tedious and time consuming but necessary tasks (registering the kids for classes, putting away everyone's laundry, cleaning out the frig, paying our bills, planning birthday parties) get magically done by fairies and elves.

[Anonymous]

Totally agree with 12:21
ALSO, it's wrong wrong wrong to lie to your spouse. Don't start.

Just hire someone and say it's a trial. Your DH will see how much nicer life is. And the issue will be over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I both work full time,new have small kids and pets. It feels like we can never get ahead in keeping the house clean. We can definitely afford a cleaning lady, and have talked about it in the past. He just won't commit and says "well I can do X, we don't have to pay someone", but doesn't

Would I be a terrible person to have a person clean for us and just not tell him? My job is flexible, so I can be here when she is here

Hahah! YES I think it's great. I know someone that did this, the other spouse was so happy the house was very clean. No fights, other spouse appreciate it, everyone happy.

Do it and pay cash!

[Anonymous]

Just do it. Why would you need permission?

[Anonymous]

No, DO IT!! love it.

Maybe I will do that too, hahahha.