Husband's sibling can't handle his own child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is your real issue? That you'll be stuck taking care of both toddlers on vacation? Jealousy at the help they receive with childcare? The situation itself is odd, but not necessarily worth getting upset about.

My real issue is this- this is a trip of a lifetime for my in laws. It includes travel for MIL to her country of origin, where she has not been in many years. But BIL and SIL are like whatever can you take care of our kid on your trip of a lifetime?

Why would you plan the "trip of a lifetime" around the time their grandchild is being born?

OP, count your blessings and check your jealousy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MYOB, OP -- don't become another boring evil old SIL mutating into a despicable aunt. Your age and jealousy are showing. You're tedious and soon everyone will find you boring.

DCUM posters already do!

In defense of OP, she did mind her own business. BIL and SIL are interfering. They invited their toddler son on a trip that OP planned and paid for.

[Anonymous]

OP - you planned the "trip of a lifetime" right around the time your new niece or nephew is scheduled to arrive. Your BIL and SIl rely on your in laws for a very reasonable amount of childcare (my parents offer us exactly the same FWIW) and you are trying to take your nephew's grandparents and back up child care away at the moment he might need them most. When SIL goes into labor, who is going to help with your nephew? Or do you propose BIL miss the birth of his second to do it? Looking forward to hearing how you figure out the logistics when your second comes along - because having been there let me tell you it is very stressful to figure out.
Just saying there is another point of view here. Have some compassion and try to think about how you can make this better instead of more complicated - does your trip really have to be in June?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None of your business, OP. At all.

Sure it's her business--she's going on the trip too!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't get it. Your SIL is close to her due date so the grandparents are helping out with a toddler. What's not to get? You sound really nasty.

Yup. I'm totally judging. They are totally fine with letting my 70 year old grandparents haul a toddler on an 8 hour flight so they won't be overwhelmed.

You were fine with planning the "trip of a lifetime" right around the arrival of their grandchild. People in glass houses ....

[Anonymous]

You sound very controlling. These people will enjoy their trip of a lifetime dammit! Whether they want to or not!

[Anonymous]

Give op a break.

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Organizing childcare when you could go into labor any minute and have no idea how long it will take - it's not easy. We live here without any family around and we had a professional childcare provider who was willing to let us drop off late at night and have DD sleep over, but we also needed 2 sets of back-up in case that didn't work. It's complicated.

Your ILs bringing your nephew along is everyone on your IL side trying to make the most of the vacation you planned for them. Be grateful.

[Anonymous]

OP, your in laws suck. I think you should stop doing nice things for them. They clearly love the other ones more. You should just focus on you, your husband and toddler. Screw
Them.

[Anonymous]

My in laws will possibly not thoroughly enjoy the trip of a lifetime because they will have along their second grandchild rather than just their other grandchild who I will bring along! Boo hoo!

[Anonymous]

"My husband's parents often help us out with caring for our son, like when he's sick and can't go to daycare or when we're out of town. I am truly grateful that they live close and are willing to help out. I am pregnant with our second child and they were going to help us by taking our son while I am in the hospital and helping out with him the first week or two while we're adjusting to our growing family. Unfortunately, we just found out that my husband's brother and his wife have planned a long overseas trip very close to my due date and invited my parents in law along. Now I have no idea what we're going to do with our son while I'm giving birth and it's really causing us a lot of stress. I certainly don't begrudge my in laws a vacation and it sounds like the trip of a lifetime. But did they have to plan it right when their nephew is due to be born?"

OP, it sounds like the in laws provide a normal amount of toddler sitting at all other times for their son. YOU sound jealous and petty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it. Your SIL is close to her due date so the grandparents are helping out with a toddler. What's not to get? You sound really nasty.

Yup. I'm totally judging. They are totally fine with letting my 70 year old grandparents haul a toddler on an 8 hour flight so they won't be overwhelmed.

You were fine with planning the "trip of a lifetime" right around the arrival of their grandchild. People in glass houses ....

Ding ding ding ding! This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it. Your SIL is close to her due date so the grandparents are helping out with a toddler. What's not to get? You sound really nasty.

Yup. I'm totally judging. They are totally fine with letting my 70 year old grandparents haul a toddler on an 8 hour flight so they won't be overwhelmed.

You were fine with planning the "trip of a lifetime" right around the arrival of their grandchild. People in glass houses ....

Ding ding ding ding! This.

We didn't know about the baby when the trip was planned/booked/paid for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is your real issue? That you'll be stuck taking care of both toddlers on vacation? Jealousy at the help they receive with childcare? The situation itself is odd, but not necessarily worth getting upset about.

My real issue is this- this is a trip of a lifetime for my in laws. It includes travel for MIL to her country of origin, where she has not been in many years. But BIL and SIL are like whatever can you take care of our kid on your trip of a lifetime?

Are you bringing your toddler on this trip?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm with the OP on this one. BIL and SIL sound like they are entitled, spoiled and assuming that everyone around them is just "there to serve" their imagined needs.

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