Husband dresses terribly

[Anonymous]

The Zuckerberg effect: http://www.ibtimes.com/mark-zuckerberg-hoodie-13-other-ceos-who-casually-dress-down-photos-700424

[Anonymous]

There are really two issues being discussed her. First, the appropriateness of clothing for a particular position and second, the condition of the clothes themselves.

My take on the OP was that her DH's clothes weren't necessarily inappropriate in themselves, rather they were just frayed, too small, ill kept, and in need of replacement.

[Anonymous]

OP here, yes, not inappropriate but old, too small, frayed, full of holes, etc.

He is in the medical field, so yes science but not in a lab all day. At a recent holiday party, his staff was making fun of him for dressing so badly. I love him, but I was embarrassed.

Why oh why do women have to do this? I have enough to do around here!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, yes, not inappropriate but old, too small, frayed, full of holes, etc.

He is in the medical field, so yes science but not in a lab all day. At a recent holiday party, his staff was making fun of him for dressing so badly. I love him, but I was embarrassed.

Why oh why do women have to do this? I have enough to do around here!

Look on the bright side. At least you know he's not gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are really two issues being discussed her. First, the appropriateness of clothing for a particular position and second, the condition of the clothes themselves.

My take on the OP was that her DH's clothes weren't necessarily inappropriate in themselves, rather they were just frayed, too small, ill kept, and in need of replacement.

+1
I can't believe people are comparing shoes with holes in them to brooks brothers suits. There is nothing to defend about worn, holey clothing.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, yes, not inappropriate but old, too small, frayed, full of holes, etc.

He is in the medical field, so yes science but not in a lab all day. At a recent holiday party, his staff was making fun of him for dressing so badly. I love him, but I was embarrassed.

Why oh why do women have to do this? I have enough to do around here!

I would feel the same way. Was he there when they were making fun of him? Did he just laugh it off? It may start as a joke but this could come to be an issue at some point. Plus you shouldn't have to suck up feeling embarrassed with his dress.

[Anonymous]

Has he shown any signs of depression? My DH definitely lets his dressing go way downhill when he is depressed. I try to weed through things when I do the laundry, and I buy plenty of nice clothes. Like you said though this only helps so much.

[Anonymous]

Is he also from New England or with a Scots background? My FIL was also in med. / science and literally wore the same pants and shoes for 40 years.

[Anonymous]

My husband is a college professor and never really put things together that well, and he never has liked to shop that much. It just got to be easier since I never did work full-time and did the laundry to make "outfits" hanging in the closet with slacks, shirt, tie and vest all together. He still got to choose what he wanted to wear, but it was coordinatred. He always got compliments on what he wore. Now that he is more into retirement, I am doing slacks and tops because otherwise he would end up wearing the same thing day after day. I still see that he has nice looking outfits for professional events. Unlike me is size has not changed much over the years so it is easy to shop for him.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, yes, not inappropriate but old, too small, frayed, full of holes, etc.

He is in the medical field, so yes science but not in a lab all day. At a recent holiday party, his staff was making fun of him for dressing so badly. I love him, but I was embarrassed.

Why oh why do women have to do this? I have enough to do around here!

Look on the bright side. At least you know he's not gay.

thanks for the laugh! True!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, yes, not inappropriate but old, too small, frayed, full of holes, etc.

He is in the medical field, so yes science but not in a lab all day. At a recent holiday party, his staff was making fun of him for dressing so badly. I love him, but I was embarrassed.

Why oh why do women have to do this? I have enough to do around here!

Look on the bright side. At least you know he's not gay.

thanks for the laugh! True!

Way to stereotype.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I do and DH fully approves and loves:
-buy all the clothing
-toss anything with frayed hems, holes, shoes with holes, too tight, too big.
-make a hair appointment every 6 weeks during his lunch time

DH is exceptionally busy and doesn't have time to deal with clothing, what looks good or weeding out clothes with holes. I enjoy doing it though. Sometimes he's a bit picky, but I try to buy clothes I know he'll like (NOT skinny jeans) and when he has a favorite brand of shoes, I'll stick with it for years. It's not an option in my house to wear holey clothes or shoes, so that's not even on the table.

I do agree that your DH's sloppy clothes or clothes with holes aren't getting him the respect at work he wants. That was actually how DH started letting me do his clothes when we were dating.

That is how you treat a child.
Seriously.

What happened to get a $20 haircut and just walking into a place? That is what MOST MEN DO!

I would never let a woman buy me clothes for every single thing, I am too picky of a shopper and I know what is a good price and what isn't because I comparison shop most clothing for months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I do and DH fully approves and loves:
-buy all the clothing
-toss anything with frayed hems, holes, shoes with holes, too tight, too big.
-make a hair appointment every 6 weeks during his lunch time

DH is exceptionally busy and doesn't have time to deal with clothing, what looks good or weeding out clothes with holes. I enjoy doing it though. Sometimes he's a bit picky, but I try to buy clothes I know he'll like (NOT skinny jeans) and when he has a favorite brand of shoes, I'll stick with it for years. It's not an option in my house to wear holey clothes or shoes, so that's not even on the table.

I do agree that your DH's sloppy clothes or clothes with holes aren't getting him the respect at work he wants. That was actually how DH started letting me do his clothes when we were dating.

That is how you treat a child.
Seriously.

What happened to get a $20 haircut and just walking into a place? That is what MOST MEN DO!

I would never let a woman buy me clothes for every single thing, I am too picky of a shopper and I know what is a good price and what isn't because I comparison shop most clothing for months.

Honestly it works very well for us. Not sure what your job is, but my DH doesn't have time to comparison shop clothing (nor does he care) for months and I don't either. I pick things up quarterly when his favorite stores have sales.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, just throw out or donate clothing that no longer fits or is inappropriate.

I would probably do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, yes, not inappropriate but old, too small, frayed, full of holes, etc.

He is in the medical field, so yes science but not in a lab all day. At a recent holiday party, his staff was making fun of him for dressing so badly. I love him, but I was embarrassed.

Why oh why do women have to do this? I have enough to do around here!

You don't have to do this. Stop being a martyr. Let him do him.