Bummed about my birthday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Happy Birthday!

And I say, make something special of it for yourself. My birthday is in the middle of December and it's always an afterthought because we are all busy getting ready for the holidays. This year, I made my own cake and cooked a dinner I wanted. I didn't want to go out to dinner. I did make my family sing happy birthday and blew out my candle. I don't normally do this, but hey, it's my birthday!

Just treat yourself well -- it doesn't have to be something big or splashy.

I do this too, make my own cake, and this year didn't feel like going out to eat, so made what I like for dinner - lamb chops and butternut squash with sliced tomatoes on the side. Very yummy. And my cake was sour cream cheesecake with cherry pie filling on top and whipped cream of course! My kids and dh did buy me gifts though. I just don't trust them to do the cooking.

[Anonymous]

I have a January bday too- it sucks. I get it. I celebrate it on the weekend after my bday bc by then it's February and I book my own dinner reservations with DH and coordinate my own bday brunch w the whole fam. its lame but I am used to it- on the plus side, I hit up all the January sales and treat myself to my own bday gifts. I usually get a small gift from DH/DC.

[Anonymous]

Just for you op... It's the best version of the song ever
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ou3K1RFD9QA

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

[Anonymous]

Its my birthday today too! And just like you nobody has time for it. For some odd reason I couldn't care less this year. I am calling in sick tomorrow so that I can treat my self to a movie and lunch. I'm really excited!

[Anonymous]

Mine is the 3rd, I hear ya!

[Anonymous]

Make yourself a wacky cake. It's better cold though, and you can substitute oil for margarine. Even my dad makes wacky cakes, it's so easy.
http://allrecipes.com/recipe/7775/wacky-cake-iii/
Sorry your wife didn't do anything. You guys sound burned out. Order yourself something on Amazon, or plan to celebrate in spring? You could plan in advance next year by buying a frozen Trader Joe's cake just in case no one does anything, as a backup plan. If your wife does remember, you can leave the cake in the fridge and whip it out for Valentine's day (in case you forget that one!). Oh, and Happy Birthday!

[Anonymous]

Happy Birthday !

Mine is tomorrow and no one will remember but me so I make my own happy. I bake the cake I want. Eat the food for dinner I want. Go to the store I want to go fart around in when I want and stay as long as I want. Then I watch the shows I want.

I'm old so yeah, it's what I want.

Oh and I bought the smell good I wanted last week. Like I said, I remember me.

[DCFan]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm sorry. I hope your DW surprises you! I will tell you my little secret - I started planning my own fun and buying my own gifts. My February b-day is the same as yours The weather always is grey and shitty. We/the kids are always borderline sick. My husband has the tendency to buy other things - usually concert tickets - during the year and then say in February "That was your b-day gift, don't you remember?" The thing that pisses me off is that we were going to do that thing regardless, don't try to play it off as my gift. Meanwhile I always plan a fun party or at least a dinner party with friends and great food and decor and gifts for him. It sucks.

Happy birthday OP. Perhaps start celebrating on 7/5?

+1 This. A friend of mine had a birthday right before Christmas, always got the 2-for-1 ripoff. He moved it out 6 months, let friends and family know his new birthday was the middle of June. Most were okay with it, a few actually said it made things easier (a joke gift at 40 doesn't work at Christmas-time...) and it made the day stand apart for him, become more special. Which was all great until their first kid was born.... on June 10th....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Happy Birthday !

Mine is tomorrow and no one will remember but me so I make my own happy. I bake the cake I want. Eat the food for dinner I want. Go to the store I want to go fart around in when I want and stay as long as I want. Then I watch the shows I want.

I'm old so yeah, it's what I want.

Oh and I bought the smell good I wanted last week. Like I said, I remember me.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Enjoy your cake and your fabulous smelling self.
We need a cake and ice cream faced smilie.

[Anonymous]

Op

Happy Belated Birthday! I hope you got the chance to eat something bad for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Happy Birthday!

And I say, make something special of it for yourself. My birthday is in the middle of December and it's always an afterthought because we are all busy getting ready for the holidays. This year, I made my own cake and cooked a dinner I wanted. I didn't want to go out to dinner. I did make my family sing happy birthday and blew out my candle. I don't normally do this, but hey, it's my birthday!

Just treat yourself well -- it doesn't have to be something big or splashy.

I do this too, make my own cake, and this year didn't feel like going out to eat, so made what I like for dinner - lamb chops and butternut squash with sliced tomatoes on the side. Very yummy. And my cake was sour cream cheesecake with cherry pie filling on top and whipped cream of course! My kids and dh did buy me gifts though. I just don't trust them to do the cooking.

+1

I think DH has remembered to do something on my birthday twice in our 12 years of marriage. Now with little kids, it's a lot harder to plan anything and he's not really good at that stuff anyway (I'm the one making cakes and buying gifts for everyone else!). I don't need gifts, but the kids usually remember and make some little adorable crafts or a drawing for me.

My advice is: make/buy yourself a nice at-home dinner, and make/buy yourself some fun cupcakes or a cake and take some photos with your lovely family so you can remember this year. That's the whole magic, right there. MAKE it a memory, even when everyone is tired and holidayed out

Hope this year is a good one for you, OP!

[Anonymous]

Yep, you are not alone OP.

Can you salvage the day? What if you leave work early and go to a matinee (alone or w/ your wife).

Or call a friend and have a happy hour.

Or take the whole family out for ice cream, just because.

Etc...

Just do something that is plain old fun, and not part of the routine, because it's your birthday so you can.

Any little thing might help. And it can sound counter-intuitive to say plan it yourself but sometimes that's the only way to make sure a day is acknowledged, and feeling like it's ok for you to control it and celebrate it your own damn self can be ok too!

Happy Birthday!!

[Anonymous]

I get you OP. Mine is a few days after Christmas. Even as a kid my bday was a non-event. Now that I'm older, I don't feel I should have to have a bday if I didn't as a kid. Just get yourself something nice and slack off a bit at work.

[Anonymous]

I always take the day off (or at least half a day) because otherwise it is completely forgotten. So I get a massage, eat lunch out with a friend or alone, go to the movies, do a little shopping, get a sitter and have a drink out with DH after work....something like that. I have learned that I have to take care of things myself.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand these adults who need other people to acknowledge their birthdays! Who cares if someone happens to remember the day you were born.