Bummed about my birthday

[Anonymous]

It's today and it's just the most annoying time of year. Everyone is burned out from the holidays. No friends have texted or wished me a happy birthday. My wife felt bad as she gave me a peck when she was rushing out the door to work. We are rushing around, trying to get back into the swing of things (Dual work out of the home parents with a toddler and preschooler). No gift. Nothing "special" planned. No cake. I just feel so blah and just want to crawl back into bed (after getting my children from daycare, driving home, feeding them, bathing them, and putting them to sleep of course. Yes, it's a pity party.

[Anonymous]

Happy Birthday OP!!! I'm giving you a birthday hug and high-five. Go out this weekend and treat yourself.

[Anonymous]

That sucks! My birthday is next week and my husband is planning a birthday dinner with friends etc (not to rub it in, just saying no cake, no dinner etc isn't a given with a January birthday). Does your wife know you feel this way?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That sucks! My birthday is next week and my husband is planning a birthday dinner with friends etc (not to rub it in, just saying no cake, no dinner etc isn't a given with a January birthday). Does your wife know you feel this way?

And we also both work with kids 2 and 4. No excuse to blow off a birthday!

[Anonymous]

sorry OP! It's my DH's birthday today too and I must admit, I'm super burned out.

[Anonymous]

Happy happy birthday!! It's a crisp day out there and the sunset may be pretty. Can you stop by the store and get some cupcakes and just stick a candle into each and blow them out with yoUr wife and toddler? Just to do something to mark the occasion? Or you can make a super quick cupcake using the nigella Lawson vanilla cupcake recipe. Dump everything in the food processor and then out onto the pan and done in 15min.
If I knew you I would have emailed you an ecard.
:hugs:

[Anonymous]

OP here. My wife knows and feels bad, but there is this whole whatareyagonnado view of things. It's the week of New Year's and everyone is broke, tired of celebrating things, and just wants to be left alone to hibernate (at least it seems this way to me). Ugh. I hate my birthday.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP. This happened to my husband this year. He was really bummed and told me, in a nice way, that this made him really sad. We did celebrate, though a bit belatedly but from now on I will make a much bigger effort when it comes to his birthday. He's someone that really cares about the cake and calls and a present and I'm someone who is really happy with a very, very simple celebration (like a candle in whatever we're eating for dinner). Lesson learned the hard way.

I hope you have a lovely evening!

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm sorry. I hope your DW surprises you! I will tell you my little secret - I started planning my own fun and buying my own gifts. My February b-day is the same as yours The weather always is grey and shitty. We/the kids are always borderline sick. My husband has the tendency to buy other things - usually concert tickets - during the year and then say in February "That was your b-day gift, don't you remember?" The thing that pisses me off is that we were going to do that thing regardless, don't try to play it off as my gift. Meanwhile I always plan a fun party or at least a dinner party with friends and great food and decor and gifts for him. It sucks.

Happy birthday OP. Perhaps start celebrating on 7/5?

[Anonymous]

OP DH has a birthday around now and we celebrate his 6 month birthday. Is that an option? Truthfully birthdays around Christmas are so hard!

[Anonymous]

Happy Birthday!

And I say, make something special of it for yourself. My birthday is in the middle of December and it's always an afterthought because we are all busy getting ready for the holidays. This year, I made my own cake and cooked a dinner I wanted. I didn't want to go out to dinner. I did make my family sing happy birthday and blew out my candle. I don't normally do this, but hey, it's my birthday!

Just treat yourself well -- it doesn't have to be something big or splashy.

[Anonymous]

Happy Birthday, OP!

[Anonymous]

We usually celebrate our birthdays on the weekend before or after since the week tends to be a slog. Happy birthday!

[Anonymous]

Hey, OP! I hear it's your birthday! Happy birthday. Treat yourself to something nice, OK? I got it. With my powerball winnings.

[Anonymous]

OP, Happy Birthday -- and many more. Consider calling your parents (if they are living) a sibling or other close relative who watched you grow up and say you were thinking of them on your birthday. You will be rewarded with many kind words and you deserve them. You sound like a very good man.