would this annoy you?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, cut him some slack. My 74 year old mother had her first brush with mortality this year and it has hit her very hard. She was successfully treated for stage 0 or I breast cancer, but she describes it as "a bomb going off in her life."

[Anonymous]

You are being unreasonable. And to expect in-laws who may be retired or don't have as many working years ahead as you do to cover your non-refundable expenses is awful!

[Anonymous]

Totally normal and warranted.

Would you want to be that far away from your doctors and hospital a few months after a heart attack?

I'm in healthcare and if one of my patients asked my general advice about it (I'm not a cardiologist) I would say if they are stressed and anxious about it even a little, don't do it.

[Anonymous]

Do not be annoyed with them. Their desire to stick close to home is understandable.

Do go to NYC and enjoy a mini-vacation with the kids!

[Anonymous]

You know there are always folks wanting to go to nyc maybe you can sell your tickets.

[Anonymous]

Normal after some scary health event? Yes.

But due to this--"It's hard for me to give them the benefit of the doubt because it's not the first time they've cancelled trips to the east coast because of the distance."--I can see you having a hard time not being annoyed.

And, to my mind, they should pay you for the air BNB since they cancelled when the doc said it would be ok to go. They really ought to acknowledge that this is about their own anxieties.

[Anonymous]

You don't say how old they are, but I think when making major travel plans with older folks you have to accept a certain probability of health-related cancellation. Things come up and they're sometimes much less able to bounce back from stress and cope with the strain of travel. Especially NYC in January.

[Anonymous]

OP, check if your credit card has travel cancellation insurance for the cost of the apartment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Normal after some scary health event? Yes.

But due to this--"It's hard for me to give them the benefit of the doubt because it's not the first time they've cancelled trips to the east coast because of the distance."--I can see you having a hard time not being annoyed.

And, to my mind, they should pay you for the air BNB since they cancelled when the doc said it would be ok to go. They really ought to acknowledge that this is about their own anxieties.

Not unless they suggested that OP and her family get nonrefundable tickets. Also, since apparently traveling to NYC in January is no big deal for this elderly couple after a recent heart attack, surely OP can make it to NYC with her family to enjoy the time there. I cannot imagine asking my parents for the money - Oh dad, since you aren't feeling well enough to travel because of the HEART ATTACK YOU JUST HAD, can you refund my money? Talk about selfish!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No it wouldn't and honestly it's a little appalling that you are annoyed about it!

I totally agree.

[Anonymous]

DH (who is not elderly) had a heart attack 4 months ago and I totally understand the desire not to travel although he's technically cleared to travel. Get some perspective, OP.