Hooking up with an ex, came back to bite me

[Anonymous]

Don't get her knocked up. And cut her out of your life for good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP--she's your EX meaning no commitment to you; and you "just stopped by" (with no advance warning, no doubt) and she happened to be with another guy?

It makes you sound like an obsessive stalker. But it doesn't say anything at all about her.

Op here. This isn't really relevant, because I'm not blaming her. She's not wrong. I just realized that I don't want to hook up with her, while she's with other people, but at the same time, we have a history, and it's still hard to get her out of my head. I'm human. I don't like envisioning her with someone else, which is why the title of this thread is that it came back to bite me. Yep, I guess I do tend to attract woman that are a tad self destructive, but I have my issues too, so oh' well. Thanks for the advice, guys.

[Anonymous]

I think you posted before. Seriously you need to move on. Your ex is frankly a skank.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I agree totally. She is renting a lot of space in your head and this is unhealthy for both of you.

After a break-up, it is never a good idea to remain "friends." At first. Both parties need to take time to properly grieve their losses, heal and eventually move on with their lives.

To remain in contact after the separation is just clueless. And to sleep with each other at the same time is just asking for trouble. As your post clearly illustrates.

I know it is one of life's toughest challenges, but make a vow to yourself NOW that from today forward, you will not subject your heart to any more hurt. That you will have self-respect and dignity for yourself and that you are much better than this.

Do not contact her again. Even if you have to leave a post-it on your phone, do so. Do not answer her if she calls, best thing is to block her from contacting you. Facebook, e-mail, everything, etc.

Try to surround yourself with healthy relationships and avoid anything toxic. Find a new focus for yourself. Meet new people. Engage in a new or favorite hobby. Take a class. Volunteer. Anything but her.

You got this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Sooooo, my ex and I tried a friendship pretty soon after we broke up. We just hooked up a couple of days ago. I stopped by there today, because I was in her area, and another guy was there. I blocked her phone number, and don't want anything to do with her, anymore. I know this sounds crazy, but we tried to really be good friends, where we tell each other everything. She is sleeping with this dude, with no protection, and she's slept with 2 or 3 guys, unprotected over the last 6 weeks. I guess, what I'm asking is- she's wrong for me in every way, and don't want to be with her, but how do I get her out of my head. How can someone, so wrong and destructive, take up so much of my head space? Damn it.

You sound mentally ill or at least in possession of an overactive imagination. You saw a guy at her place
and from this, you infer she is sleeping with him and half the city unprotected? What the hell are you smoking?

And you thought she was going to die celibate or waiting for you even though you are an ex. Both you and the people cosigning you are using something good.

[Anonymous]

Pp, this is a forum, where we can be vulnerable, without embarassing ourselves. You don't what you're talking about. How do I know she's sleeping with him unprotected, and no birth control? She told me. I'm not I'll at all, but asking why someone so out of control, can still have me messed up, and I don't want to be with her.

[Anonymous]

Sorry about typos

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I agree totally. She is renting a lot of space in your head and this is unhealthy for both of you.

After a break-up, it is never a good idea to remain "friends." At first. Both parties need to take time to properly grieve their losses, heal and eventually move on with their lives.

To remain in contact after the separation is just clueless. And to sleep with each other at the same time is just asking for trouble. As your post clearly illustrates.

I know it is one of life's toughest challenges, but make a vow to yourself NOW that from today forward, you will not subject your heart to any more hurt. That you will have self-respect and dignity for yourself and that you are much better than this.

Do not contact her again. Even if you have to leave a post-it on your phone, do so. Do not answer her if she calls, best thing is to block her from contacting you. Facebook, e-mail, everything, etc.

Try to surround yourself with healthy relationships and avoid anything toxic. Find a new focus for yourself. Meet new people. Engage in a new or favorite hobby. Take a class. Volunteer. Anything but her.

You got this.

This is Op. You're terrific. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't get her knocked up. And cut her out of your life for good.

More than this, don't put your dick inside of her so when the little trollop does get knocked up she doesn't come claiming its yours.

[Anonymous]

She might have had these guys on the side. Think back....think back hard....she was most likely cheating on you.

[Anonymous]

Not the case, since we were at each other's house, pretty much every night. However, she went wild when we broke up. Screw it. I'm moving on, but thanks for letting me vent about feelings.

[Anonymous]

So you are broken up and upset that she is seeing other people? Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Pp, you shouldn't be allowed on forums because your comprehension skills need work. She has the right, idiot. She's not wrong. I'm allowed to still feel something for her.