If you cut off or are estranged from a family member, what was the final straw? Turning point?

[Anonymous]

My brother pushed my mother down a flight of stairs to hasten his inheritance. Just cannot get over that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Insight from the other side:

My SIL and brother cut ties with my family because my husband did not call them from the delivery room after the birth of our 2nd child. They said since we did not have the decency to call them immediately we obviously did not consider them family so that would be the last we would be hearing from them. I was always kind to my SIL, but I guess she might have had issues with us that I was oblivious of as to make a break. My parents and siblings are devastated that our family is broken.

I miss my brother very much, and have tried to reach out but my SIL wants no contact and I don't want to put my brother in that situation. The ball is in his court.

If your story is true and this came out of nowhere, there is something very wrong with your brother. He's either a complete asshole (which you would probably know by now) or in an abusive situation.

[Anonymous]

Other side. My mother completely cut me and contact with her only child off because I wouldn't give her more money. My daughter doesn't even remember her at this point.

[Anonymous]

My SIL lectured me and told me I was parenting my autistic child incorrectly. Because she took a psychology course once in college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Insight from the other side:

My SIL and brother cut ties with my family because my husband did not call them from the delivery room after the birth of our 2nd child. They said since we did not have the decency to call them immediately we obviously did not consider them family so that would be the last we would be hearing from them. I was always kind to my SIL, but I guess she might have had issues with us that I was oblivious of as to make a break. My parents and siblings are devastated that our family is broken.

I miss my brother very much, and have tried to reach out but my SIL wants no contact and I don't want to put my brother in that situation. The ball is in his court.

There has to be more to this. How did they find out about the birth of your second child? Did you not let them know at all?

Sounds like she was looking for a reason to cut you all off. What happened in her eyes, you didn't call her fast enough?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother pushed my mother down a flight of stairs to hasten his inheritance. Just cannot get over that.

Did he end up being charged?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother pushed my mother down a flight of stairs to hasten his inheritance. Just cannot get over that.

Did he end up being charged?

I really hope that pp was making a twisted joke. "Just cannot get over that"....I'll bet!

[Anonymous]

As others said, it wasn't any one thing. He had been manipulative and abusive to everyone for years. Once we no longer lived in the same house, there was no reason to maintain contact.

[Anonymous]

When I realized that my emotional wellbeing was being consumed by having to deal with crisis after crisis with my sibling and I didn't want to be a stressed out and distracted mother all the time.

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to find a last straw, because we never felt we had a relationship with my B/SIL. They never visited and my brother would phone or email maybe once a year from his office. Their children were strangers to us and would never speak to my child, who idolized them because they were older. It is terribly hard for us to travel because my DC is physically disabled. We would ask them to assist us with hotel arrangements, etc., and they would do nothing. Finally we all met up and they chose a restaurant where we could not join them at the table because it could not accommodate my DC's wheelchair. We were literally sitting by ourselves at a separate table! My husband and I looked at each other and said "We are never coming back." And we haven't. I don't know if they have noticed. I don't care. My parents are very upset but I don't see a path to a relationship where none has ever been formed.

[Anonymous]

Last straw was a crazy voice mail cursing out me and my spouse and threatening to harm us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Insight from the other side:

My SIL and brother cut ties with my family because my husband did not call them from the delivery room after the birth of our 2nd child. They said since we did not have the decency to call them immediately we obviously did not consider them family so that would be the last we would be hearing from them. I was always kind to my SIL, but I guess she might have had issues with us that I was oblivious of as to make a break. My parents and siblings are devastated that our family is broken.

I miss my brother very much, and have tried to reach out but my SIL wants no contact and I don't want to put my brother in that situation. The ball is in his court.

If your story is true and this came out of nowhere, there is something very wrong with your brother. He's either a complete asshole (which you would probably know by now) or in an abusive situation.

It rarely comes out of nowhere. It's not unusual for a last straw to be insignificant sounding. But what people don't realize is that it's one thing in a long list of grievances that have not been addressed.

[Anonymous]

MIL told my husband that our DD has ADHD because our social life is too active and we prioritize material possessions over our children.

Goodbye.

[Anonymous]

My mother had a personality disorder and a drug problem. The last straw was when I developed an ovarian mass. I was scheduled for surgery to remove my ovary. I had a 4 year old and a 2.5 year old. It was very likely ovarian cancer. I was scared to death.

I told my mother 3 times that I was having surgery and that it could be cancer and she kept "forgetting." Finally when my brother tried to convince her that this was serious, she called me and told me to stop being such a baby. I told her that I couldn't talk to her at work and hung up.

That was it. My mother had done lots of horrible stuff to people and to me, but that was the straw that broke the camel's back. I was not in a place to deal with her BS anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Insight from the other side:

My SIL and brother cut ties with my family because my husband did not call them from the delivery room after the birth of our 2nd child. They said since we did not have the decency to call them immediately we obviously did not consider them family so that would be the last we would be hearing from them. I was always kind to my SIL, but I guess she might have had issues with us that I was oblivious of as to make a break. My parents and siblings are devastated that our family is broken.

I miss my brother very much, and have tried to reach out but my SIL wants no contact and I don't want to put my brother in that situation. The ball is in his court.

If your story is true and this came out of nowhere, there is something very wrong with your brother. He's either a complete asshole (which you would probably know by now) or in an abusive situation.

It rarely comes out of nowhere. It's not unusual for a last straw to be insignificant sounding. But what people don't realize is that it's one thing in a long list of grievances that have not been addressed.

Exactly. If the people on the other side of the story would be asked why all the people posting in this thread don't speak to them, I'm sure it would be some innocent reason that is jaded. It's all in the eye of the beholder.
You may think he cut ties because of lack of one phonecall, but I bet if he was asked, there'd be more to the story.