Another in-laws vent

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldnt mind and would encourage them to help themselves. If there's anything off limits, just hide it or tell them it's off limits. If they are staying for 2 weeks, I'd imagine they would go through a lot of food. You could also let them know the closest supermarkets near you so they can do some food shopping while they are there.

OP here! They don't do grocery shopping. Plus even if they decide to go they ask DH for credit card

NP here! **************Then don't stock expensive food in your house during their visits. PROBLEM SOLVED!**********************

Its holiday time plus we don't get enough notice in advance. We come to know 3-4 days before. By then, I already have stuff @ home. Plus I keep stuff around for kids

1) No one gets to enter your home without your permission. If they only give a few days of advance notice, SAY NO and then suggest dates that would work.
2) Even if you have the food already, hide it if you don't want to share it: Put it in luggage in your closet, take perishables to a neighbors' house, if it is that big of a deal for you.

See, you actually don't have an In-Law problem. You have a DOORMAT problem. You are spineless and lack resourcefulness.

[Anonymous]

1) No one gets to enter your home without your permission. If they only give a few days of advance notice, SAY NO and then suggest dates that would work.
2) Even if you have the food already, hide it if you don't want to share it: Put it in luggage in your closet, take perishables to a neighbors' house, if it is that big of a deal for you.

See, you actually don't have an In-Law problem. You have a DOORMAT problem. You are spineless and lack resourcefulness.

I agree. Plus, if you can't afford that food, tell them what your budget is and stick to it. If that's problematic for them, tell them you can't afford their visit at this time. Of course, you could also have a DH problem. What is his opinion of all this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

1) No one gets to enter your home without your permission. If they only give a few days of advance notice, SAY NO and then suggest dates that would work.
2) Even if you have the food already, hide it if you don't want to share it: Put it in luggage in your closet, take perishables to a neighbors' house, if it is that big of a deal for you.

See, you actually don't have an In-Law problem. You have a DOORMAT problem. You are spineless and lack resourcefulness.

I agree. Plus, if you can't afford that food, tell them what your budget is and stick to it. If that's problematic for them, tell them you can't afford their visit at this time. Of course, you could also have a DH problem. What is his opinion of all this.

+1000 Doormat & DH problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

1) No one gets to enter your home without your permission. If they only give a few days of advance notice, SAY NO and then suggest dates that would work.
2) Even if you have the food already, hide it if you don't want to share it: Put it in luggage in your closet, take perishables to a neighbors' house, if it is that big of a deal for you.

See, you actually don't have an In-Law problem. You have a DOORMAT problem. You are spineless and lack resourcefulness.

I agree. Plus, if you can't afford that food, tell them what your budget is and stick to it. If that's problematic for them, tell them you can't afford their visit at this time. Of course, you could also have a DH problem. What is his opinion of all this.

+1000 Doormat & DH problem.

No, no. It is a cheapskate and selfish problem! Please recognize it for what it is.

Here is an option for the OP, who obviously have low HHI. Try shopping at ALDI.

[Anonymous]

Really? You sound cheap.

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine being angry because someone ate food when they were a "guest" in my home. Holy smokes, op. Are you always this fragile?

[Anonymous]

"Yes, OP, you are overreacting. But I understand", Chris Rock

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldnt mind and would encourage them to help themselves. If there's anything off limits, just hide it or tell them it's off limits. If they are staying for 2 weeks, I'd imagine they would go through a lot of food. You could also let them know the closest supermarkets near you so they can do some food shopping while they are there.

OP here! They don't do grocery shopping. Plus even if they decide to go they ask DH for credit card

NP here! **************Then don't stock expensive food in your house during their visits. PROBLEM SOLVED!**********************

Its holiday time plus we don't get enough notice in advance. We come to know 3-4 days before. By then, I already have stuff @ home. Plus I keep stuff around for kids

Are your inlaws Asian? If they ask for your dh's credit card, they must have the expectation that they are to be financially taken care of. Either way, for me, food is one area that I wouldn't withhold or get cheap about. If it's too much of a financial burden on you, then limit their stay.

[Anonymous]

Admit it, you don't really like them that much, do you.

[Anonymous]

You sound very petty.