College students and pot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was first time ever deep-cleaning college-aged DS's room last week and found the whole secret stash: a cigarette, a chewing tobacco tin, a condom, a small baggie of pot remnants, Visine, and for fun there was a paintball gun and ammo. I can't even run this by DH because he has some crazy work thing this week and this would set him off. In the meantime I just put everything in the trash. I may just forget about it all.

I'm curious to your son's response when he found out what you did. Okay, I'll give you the pot but the destroying the other items a bit much. You think paintball gun and ammo will get him 3-5 years? You tossed the condom but was he having sex under your roof? Is the Visine secretly some liquid drug?

I think you went a bit far but if you keep this up, your DS will find roommates. Your house, your rules but his life.

[Anonymous]

Your kid smoked pot in high school too. You people have no clue about the real behavior of your kid who is not a kid but an adult. Relax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kid smoked pot in high school too. You people have no clue about the real behavior of your kid who is not a kid but an adult. Relax.

Yup

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kid smoked pot in high school too. You people have no clue about the real behavior of your kid who is not a kid but an adult. Relax.

When I was 16, I and a couple of friends bought a few bottles of rot gut wine (aka Wild Irish Rose). I spent an hour in the alley vomiting. To date, I drink very little and when I do it's the expensive, good stuff.

So, I guess I got cured the hard way.

[Anonymous]

Just make sure he knows that for some jobs, and for some kinds of cases if he becomes a lawyer, he will have to list all the occasions when he used illegal substances (for security clearance). He's probably too far gone to be able to get those jobs now.

[Anonymous]

Pot will be legal everywhere before your kid turns 30. It's not a big deal. Quite frankly I'd rather see college boys smoke pot than drink - it tones down aggression and probably helps a really driven kid deal with stress. Don't worry about it at all! If you live in DC get yourself some and try it - you'll see that it's no big deal.

[Anonymous]

Your kid and 1 billion others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just make sure he knows that for some jobs, and for some kinds of cases if he becomes a lawyer, he will have to list all the occasions when he used illegal substances (for security clearance). He's probably too far gone to be able to get those jobs now.

I'm not so sure about that. Even cocaine stays in the hair until it's cut or falls out. It's not in the root. I have several friends who are lawyers and they most certainly indulged in college and law school decades ago. DS too far gone? Maybe not. He doesn't sound like a serious stoner.

You really think all the lawyers, doctors, judges, police officers, nurses, etc, listed the occasions they smoked pot? Really?

http://www.leafscience.com/2014/04/22/how-long-thc-stay-system/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pot will be legal everywhere before your kid turns 30. It's not a big deal. Quite frankly I'd rather see college boys smoke pot than drink - it tones down aggression and probably helps a really driven kid deal with stress. Don't worry about it at all! If you live in DC get yourself some and try it - you'll see that it's no big deal.

Such an ignorant statement. Pot fucks people up. It alters brain chemistry, kills motivatiom and is a gateway drug to more serious addictive substances. I have seen the devestating affects of pot firsthand on two relatives. It is not a gentle drug not to be worried about. It is a big deal and you are perpetuating mistruths.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pot will be legal everywhere before your kid turns 30. It's not a big deal. Quite frankly I'd rather see college boys smoke pot than drink - it tones down aggression and probably helps a really driven kid deal with stress. Don't worry about it at all! If you live in DC get yourself some and try it - you'll see that it's no big deal.

Such an ignorant statement. Pot fucks people up. It alters brain chemistry, kills motivatiom and is a gateway drug to more serious addictive substances. I have seen the devestating affects of pot firsthand on two relatives. It is not a gentle drug not to be worried about. It is a big deal and you are perpetuating mistruths.

I and almost all of my friends smoked pot in college. We are all gainfully employed now, most of us very successfully. It certainly didn't fuck any of us up. It made us giggle a lot, and, occasionally, very hungry. If the kid is getting good grades I would not worry about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pot will be legal everywhere before your kid turns 30. It's not a big deal. Quite frankly I'd rather see college boys smoke pot than drink - it tones down aggression and probably helps a really driven kid deal with stress. Don't worry about it at all! If you live in DC get yourself some and try it - you'll see that it's no big deal.

Such an ignorant statement. Pot fucks people up. It alters brain chemistry, kills motivatiom and is a gateway drug to more serious addictive substances. I have seen the devestating affects of pot firsthand on two relatives. It is not a gentle drug not to be worried about. It is a big deal and you are perpetuating mistruths.

I and almost all of my friends smoked pot in college. We are all gainfully employed now, most of us very successfully. It certainly didn't fuck any of us up. It made us giggle a lot, and, occasionally, very hungry. If the kid is getting good grades I would not worry about it.

Good luck to you and your pot smoking children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pot will be legal everywhere before your kid turns 30. It's not a big deal. Quite frankly I'd rather see college boys smoke pot than drink - it tones down aggression and probably helps a really driven kid deal with stress. Don't worry about it at all! If you live in DC get yourself some and try it - you'll see that it's no big deal.

Such an ignorant statement. Pot fucks people up. It alters brain chemistry, kills motivatiom and is a gateway drug to more serious addictive substances. I have seen the devestating affects of pot firsthand on two relatives. It is not a gentle drug not to be worried about. It is a big deal and you are perpetuating mistruths.

Pot can have really strong effects on someone who already struggles with depression. For otherwise healthy adults, it shouldn't be a problem.

It's hit-or-miss for anxiety IME.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pot will be legal everywhere before your kid turns 30. It's not a big deal. Quite frankly I'd rather see college boys smoke pot than drink - it tones down aggression and probably helps a really driven kid deal with stress. Don't worry about it at all! If you live in DC get yourself some and try it - you'll see that it's no big deal.

Such an ignorant statement. Pot fucks people up. It alters brain chemistry, kills motivatiom and is a gateway drug to more serious addictive substances. I have seen the devestating affects of pot firsthand on two relatives. It is not a gentle drug not to be worried about. It is a big deal and you are perpetuating mistruths.

Two relatives?

Thanks for the anecdotes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pot will be legal everywhere before your kid turns 30. It's not a big deal. Quite frankly I'd rather see college boys smoke pot than drink - it tones down aggression and probably helps a really driven kid deal with stress. Don't worry about it at all! If you live in DC get yourself some and try it - you'll see that it's no big deal.

Such an ignorant statement. Pot fucks people up. It alters brain chemistry, kills motivatiom and is a gateway drug to more serious addictive substances. I have seen the devestating affects of pot firsthand on two relatives. It is not a gentle drug not to be worried about. It is a big deal and you are perpetuating mistruths.

Pot can have really strong effects on someone who already struggles with depression. For otherwise healthy adults, it shouldn't be a problem.

It's hit-or-miss for anxiety IME.

The bottom line is that you don't know what effect it will have on any one person. You just don't know. It may have no effect on some people and cause others to think evryone is out to get them. For someone to say that pot is harmless and not to worry about it is misguided.

[Anonymous]

Let's see, the President, the Speaker of the House, and the Chief Justice of the Supreme Court all smoked pot in college. I don't think it killed their motivation or made them hard drug addicts. I have no idea how often they used pot and I doubt they were daily smokers, but they all used often enough with other people that they couldn't deny it.

There is just no reason for parents to go ballistic about a college student smoking pot. A non-smoker is about as rare as a non-drinker or a virgin. Delaying drug and alcohol use and sexual activity as long as possible is almost always a good thing for our children's health and life chances, but it is not the end of the world. We don't live in a country that obsesses over extreme notions of purity and honor. Leave that to cultures stuck in the last millennium.