blindsided - attracted to new female friend

[Anonymous]

You are married and have children, but you find yourself fleetingly attracted to a new friend. It is normal to feel flashes of attraction to people other than your spouse; as long as you have a pulse, you'll have those feelings. But you don't ACT on them because marriage is about more than superficial initial attraction. You would be selfish and superficial to act upon this. Just because the person is of the same gender does NOT make it OK to abandon your marriage or indulge in your crush. Seriously, if your friend were male, you wouldn't be posting here. So you just discovered that you have a same-sex attraction and might enjoy physical intimacy with a woman? So what? You'd probably also be attracted to (male celeb star of your choice) if you met him, but you wouldn't abandon or weaken your marriage to indulge in a fling just for that reason, right?

Grow up, OP. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

I'm thinking soulmate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are married and have children, but you find yourself fleetingly attracted to a new friend. It is normal to feel flashes of attraction to people other than your spouse; as long as you have a pulse, you'll have those feelings. But you don't ACT on them because marriage is about more than superficial initial attraction. You would be selfish and superficial to act upon this. Just because the person is of the same gender does NOT make it OK to abandon your marriage or indulge in your crush. Seriously, if your friend were male, you wouldn't be posting here. So you just discovered that you have a same-sex attraction and might enjoy physical intimacy with a woman? So what? You'd probably also be attracted to (male celeb star of your choice) if you met him, but you wouldn't abandon or weaken your marriage to indulge in a fling just for that reason, right?

Grow up, OP. Seriously.

What if it were more than superficial, initial attraction?
I don't think you can compare it with a crush on a male celeb. For one thing, that is about the definition of acting on infatuation.
Women can provide to women something that men can't.

[Anonymous]

As a husband who feels his wife is knowingly or unknowingly gay, I would just want her to be happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are married and have children, but you find yourself fleetingly attracted to a new friend. It is normal to feel flashes of attraction to people other than your spouse; as long as you have a pulse, you'll have those feelings. But you don't ACT on them because marriage is about more than superficial initial attraction. You would be selfish and superficial to act upon this. Just because the person is of the same gender does NOT make it OK to abandon your marriage or indulge in your crush. Seriously, if your friend were male, you wouldn't be posting here. So you just discovered that you have a same-sex attraction and might enjoy physical intimacy with a woman? So what? You'd probably also be attracted to (male celeb star of your choice) if you met him, but you wouldn't abandon or weaken your marriage to indulge in a fling just for that reason, right?

Grow up, OP. Seriously.

+1. You would throw away a marriage for a fling, and you think it might be ok because it happens to be same sex?

[Anonymous]

Talk to your DH about it...not about that friend in particular but that you may be having some same sex feelings. I'm Bi and I have a hall pass for whatever I would like to do with another girl b.c he doesn't feel that it would be cheating. I'm too busy and tired to persue anything right now but it's nice to know he would be ok with it.