blindsided - attracted to new female friend

[Anonymous]

I have many gay friends, and never have been attracted to any of them. became friends with a woman who is a friend of a friend. she is a lesbian. from the moment we met we clicked and work in the same building so we see each other for lunch at least 1-2x per week. about 2-3 months after meeting her I realized I have feelings for her, want to see her whenever I can, want to kiss her. I don't think she is onto me, I am good at playing it cool. I am married and otherwise "straight." Any advice.

[Anonymous]

No advice OP, other than I am in a similar boat. I am very attracted to one of my closest friends and have been for over 2 years now. We are both married and we are both straight--although I am questioning this overwhelming attraction to her. I also am dying to kiss her, but I would never attempt anything, the friendship is more important. I keep hoping it will just go away. Thankfully (or not) she is moving within the next year.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Way to deny your true self.

[Anonymous]

These friends may be your true soulmates, more so than your husbands. The only way to tell is to engage in intimacies.

[Anonymous]

This is how most women discover they're gay -- you know that, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Way to deny your true self.

NP: how? Bisexuality is real. Think Chirlane McCray, Anna Paquin, Cynthia Nixon, etc.

Way to discover your true self, OP, there are many of us.

[Anonymous]

This is so hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Way to deny your true self.

NP: how? Bisexuality is real. Think Chirlane McCray, Anna Paquin, Cynthia Nixon, etc.

Way to discover your true self, OP, there are many of us.

I assume OP is bisexual. She doesn't. That's my point.

[Anonymous]

It's beside the point, because you're married. It's just like any crush we get in done in who is not our spouse.

[Anonymous]

^^typo: Meant it's like any crush we get on someone who is not our spouse.

[Anonymous]

Would you say the same thing if OP was a man?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have many gay friends, and never have been attracted to any of them. became friends with a woman who is a friend of a friend. she is a lesbian. from the moment we met we clicked and work in the same building so we see each other for lunch at least 1-2x per week. about 2-3 months after meeting her I realized I have feelings for her, want to see her whenever I can, want to kiss her. I don't think she is onto me, I am good at playing it cool. I am married and otherwise "straight." Any advice.

Tell your husband you want to have sex with other women and suggest he dobthe same thing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's beside the point, because you're married. It's just like any crush we get in done in who is not our spouse.

+1 I'm a single lesbian I don't date people who are married. I would be flattered if a single straight girl was interested, but appalled if a married person asked me to be part of her affair.

[Anonymous]

At the end of the day cheating is cheating. Have some decency and end your relationship with your husband now. You owe him the possibility of being with a partner who appreciates him. Don't string string him along while you are searching for the 'true authentic' you. That is gutless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These friends may be your true soulmates, more so than your husbands. The only way to tell is to engage in intimacies.

ah the proverbial soulmate poster, who will be burning in hell (sounds good the AM, actually) for encouraging so many to stray.