19 year old girl dating 25 year old guy

[Anonymous]

Well, you've limited her contact with men her own age by having her live at home. This is what you get, no surprise.

This doesn't make any sense at all

She's not having the normal college experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why isn't she in a dorm? More access to peers her own age there.

Costs a lot more money to live in the dorm.

Cheaper isn't always better.

[Anonymous]

I have to admit that I probably wouldn't be thrilled with one of my DDs dating a man six years older. However, I have two friends from high school who were in the exact scenario as your DD. They ended up marrying their boyfriends and are still together 25+ years on.

[Anonymous]

College students living in dorms don't resort to online dating to find a social life. I'm kind of sad for this girl actually. It is not what her peers are doing. They have a social life at college.

[Anonymous]

He is only a few years out of college. He probably does not view himself as being in a "totally different stage of life".

In any event, she is an adult now, so you need to let go of the helicopter mom thoughts.

If you push too hard about it, she'll just move in with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Well, you've limited her contact with men her own age by having her live at home. This is what you get, no surprise.

This doesn't make any sense at all

She's not having the normal college experience.

She has tons of guy friends her age and meets people in class, around campus, through other friends. What an odd statement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:College students living in dorms don't resort to online dating to find a social life. I'm kind of sad for this girl actually. It is not what her peers are doing. They have a social life at college.

A "social life" with feckless, drunken, horny college boys. Yay. Who wouldn't want that for their daughter?

This mom should be HAPPY that her daughter is dating a stable, employed GROWN UP. This is far more likely to result in a long-term relationship than is hooking up with immature males in a dorm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why isn't she in a dorm? More access to peers her own age there.

Costs a lot more money to live in the dorm.

Cheaper isn't always better.

So she should go into student loan debt in order to have more guys her age to sleep with? Yeah, not following your logic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is only a few years out of college. He probably does not view himself as being in a "totally different stage of life".

In any event, she is an adult now, so you need to let go of the helicopter mom thoughts.

If you push too hard about it, she'll just move in with him.

Not sure where you got in my OP that I was 'pushing' at all, or being a helicopter. Because it's pretty much the opposite. I'm thinking if anything I'm too lax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:College students living in dorms don't resort to online dating to find a social life. I'm kind of sad for this girl actually. It is not what her peers are doing. They have a social life at college.

A "social life" with feckless, drunken, horny college boys. Yay. Who wouldn't want that for their daughter?

This mom should be HAPPY that her daughter is dating a stable, employed GROWN UP. This is far more likely to result in a long-term relationship than is hooking up with immature males in a dorm.

He's not a stable grown up if he's dating a 19 year old. A 19 year old freshman girl shouldn't be looking for a long-term relationship with a 25 year old unless she plans to get knocked up and married so she can finally get out of her parents' house.

[Anonymous]

I met my husband when I was 19 and he was 25. Dated for 3. Married 20 years. We had a lot of common interests and goals. We fell in love very fast.

She is an adult and so is he. It might not work out but then again it just might.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
He's not a stable grown up if he's dating a 19 year old. A 19 year old freshman girl shouldn't be looking for a long-term relationship with a 25 year old unless she plans to get knocked up and married so she can finally get out of her parents' house.

What do you base this on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
This mom should be HAPPY that her daughter is dating a stable, employed GROWN UP. This is far more likely to result in a long-term relationship than is hooking up with immature males in a dorm.

Maybe the mother thinks that 19 is not an age for a long-term relationship. If you have wild oats (though it's true that not everybody does), then 19 is a good age to sow them.

[Anonymous]

I started dating my now husband when I just turned 20 and he had just turned 27. Six years later we are married and extremely happy. Do they seem to have a mature healthy relationship?

[Anonymous]

sounds pretty hot to me.