"Love my wife but she's getting fat" thread

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But you know... "Let's accept that there is some misogyny here. So what?" That pretty much says it all, huh?

Yes, it says it all. There is also racism, classism, and all other kinds of prejudice displayed here. Do you only want one category of offensive posts eliminated? That seems a bit "victim-y" to me.

Sure, I'm fine with all forms of discrimination being outlawed here, misogyny, racism- I have no issues with that.

And Jeff- don't play dumb. You have slapped down plenty of racist posts, and then you act like, "Huh? You're asking too much from me!" When we tell you you're not doing enough about sexism. It's definitely... suspect.

How many times have you reported a post as being misogynistic and I have done nothing about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous



Yes, I'm a big Jeff fan, but he does seem to have a higher tolerance (or bigger blind spot) for misogynist/MRA trolls than for the racist ones.

Don't like the website? Too much hate? Does not conform to your world view? Those are only your opinions? Move on and open your own website.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But you know... "Let's accept that there is some misogyny here. So what?" That pretty much says it all, huh?

Yes, it says it all. There is also racism, classism, and all other kinds of prejudice displayed here. Do you only want one category of offensive posts eliminated? That seems a bit "victim-y" to me.

Sure, I'm fine with all forms of discrimination being outlawed here, misogyny, racism- I have no issues with that.

And Jeff- don't play dumb. You have slapped down plenty of racist posts, and then you act like, "Huh? You're asking too much from me!" When we tell you you're not doing enough about sexism. It's definitely... suspect.

How many times have you reported a post as being misogynistic and I have done nothing about it?

I haven't reported any yet but I guess I will in the future.

I just think it's very strange and doesn't do much to build faith when you go into that thread and don't see any evidence of misogyny.... talk about rose colored glasses...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous



Yes, I'm a big Jeff fan, but he does seem to have a higher tolerance (or bigger blind spot) for misogynist/MRA trolls than for the racist ones.

Don't like the website? Too much hate? Does not conform to your world view? Those are only your opinions? Move on and open your own website.

Oh please.

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous



Yes, I'm a big Jeff fan, but he does seem to have a higher tolerance (or bigger blind spot) for misogynist/MRA trolls than for the racist ones.

Don't like the website? Too much hate? Does not conform to your world view? Those are only your opinions? Move on and open your own website.

I don't think your reply was appropriate for that particular poster (who after all, is my fan). As I said, I think the blind spot she observed exists because I am literally blind to posts that I don't read.

The poster who wants no forms of discrimination may well be happier elsewhere. I don't know how such a site could exist, particularly because no two people would completely agree about which posts are discriminatory.

[Anonymous]

For Christ's sake, this forum is completely dominated by women. I think we can handle it when some random troll occasionally spits out some misogynist crap. Are you really such a delicate flower?

[Anonymous]

If anything there is far more misandry on the site.

[Anonymous]

If you believe posts are inappropriate and should be removed, (a) report them and (b) if you think Jeff might be oblivious to the reason why the post is inappropriate, explain why you think it should be removed.

Jeff has said many times that he enjoys and reads the political forum. If you want his attention on something else you have to bring that something else to his attention.

Usually the MRA/PUA idiots are being well handled / ignored by the vast majority of participants on this site, and so Jeff's admin involvement isn't necessary.

In the political threads, when the racism / classism / homophobia / etc. fires up, the threads can quickly devolve into useless flame wars, and I've generally seen Jeff step in appropriately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous



Yes, I'm a big Jeff fan, but he does seem to have a higher tolerance (or bigger blind spot) for misogynist/MRA trolls than for the racist ones.

Don't like the website? Too much hate? Does not conform to your world view? Those are only your opinions? Move on and open your own website.

No idea where you read that. I'm just making an observation, darling. I've been here forever and not likely to leave any time soon.

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But you know... "Let's accept that there is some misogyny here. So what?" That pretty much says it all, huh?

Yes, it says it all. There is also racism, classism, and all other kinds of prejudice displayed here. Do you only want one category of offensive posts eliminated? That seems a bit "victim-y" to me.

Sure, I'm fine with all forms of discrimination being outlawed here, misogyny, racism- I have no issues with that.

And Jeff- don't play dumb. You have slapped down plenty of racist posts, and then you act like, "Huh? You're asking too much from me!" When we tell you you're not doing enough about sexism. It's definitely... suspect.

How many times have you reported a post as being misogynistic and I have done nothing about it?

I haven't reported any yet but I guess I will in the future.

I just think it's very strange and doesn't do much to build faith when you go into that thread and don't see any evidence of misogyny.... talk about rose colored glasses...

Okay, you have never reported a post but you believe that I ignore the posts that you didn't report. Brilliant!

When did I say that I didn't see any evidence of misogyny? I'd love to see that quoted.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But you know... "Let's accept that there is some misogyny here. So what?" That pretty much says it all, huh?

Yes, it says it all. There is also racism, classism, and all other kinds of prejudice displayed here. Do you only want one category of offensive posts eliminated? That seems a bit "victim-y" to me.

Sure, I'm fine with all forms of discrimination being outlawed here, misogyny, racism- I have no issues with that.

And Jeff- don't play dumb. You have slapped down plenty of racist posts, and then you act like, "Huh? You're asking too much from me!" When we tell you you're not doing enough about sexism. It's definitely... suspect.

How many times have you reported a post as being misogynistic and I have done nothing about it?

I haven't reported any yet but I guess I will in the future.

I just think it's very strange and doesn't do much to build faith when you go into that thread and don't see any evidence of misogyny.... talk about rose colored glasses...

Okay, you have never reported a post but you believe that I ignore the posts that you didn't report. Brilliant!

When did I say that I didn't see any evidence of misogyny? I'd love to see that quoted.

Now that I think of it, i have reported a few posts for misogyny. I stopped a few weeks ago because none of them ever got taken down.

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But you know... "Let's accept that there is some misogyny here. So what?" That pretty much says it all, huh?

Yes, it says it all. There is also racism, classism, and all other kinds of prejudice displayed here. Do you only want one category of offensive posts eliminated? That seems a bit "victim-y" to me.

Sure, I'm fine with all forms of discrimination being outlawed here, misogyny, racism- I have no issues with that.

And Jeff- don't play dumb. You have slapped down plenty of racist posts, and then you act like, "Huh? You're asking too much from me!" When we tell you you're not doing enough about sexism. It's definitely... suspect.

How many times have you reported a post as being misogynistic and I have done nothing about it?

I haven't reported any yet but I guess I will in the future.

I just think it's very strange and doesn't do much to build faith when you go into that thread and don't see any evidence of misogyny.... talk about rose colored glasses...

Okay, you have never reported a post but you believe that I ignore the posts that you didn't report. Brilliant!

When did I say that I didn't see any evidence of misogyny? I'd love to see that quoted.

Now that I think of it, i have reported a few posts for misogyny. I stopped a few weeks ago because none of them ever got taken down.

I'd hate to doubt your veracity, but I doubt your veracity. You went from "never reported" to "reported a few" in the course of two posts. Plus, I have spent a hell of a lot of time over the past months deleting posts that were reported due to misogyny. I have probably banned half a dozen posters (all men). If you really reported a post and I didn't do anything about it, I would be very surprised. So surprised, in fact, I'm going to check right now to see if you have reported any posts lately.

[Anonymous]

MRA trolls hang out in the Relationship forum for sure, but not in the aforementioned post. The OP seems sincere and has valid concerns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If anything there is far more misandry on the site.

+1

[Anonymous]

I think if jeff is removing the thread discussing the local Ashley Madison cheaters to protect the men, then he should similarly remove a thread by a man complaining about his wife's weight 5 months after giving birth. The man should be on DCUB asking baby questions/advice not critiquing his wife's weight.