Going on family vacation while having an affair?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did your desire for AP grow and intensify from lack of contact and communication? Or did your lust for AP wean and found yourself reconnecting with spouse?

Worried that your affair partner will reconnect with their spouse while on vacation? Feeling insecure?

Perhaps

Ha ha. No doubt about it. OP is worried that her (I'm assuming it's a her) AP will have a great time with his wife. Enjoy that, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your desire for AP grow and intensify from lack of contact and communication? Or did your lust for AP wean and found yourself reconnecting with spouse?

Worried that your affair partner will reconnect with their spouse while on vacation? Feeling insecure?

Perhaps

Ha ha. No doubt about it. OP is worried that her (I'm assuming it's a her) AP will have a great time with his wife. Enjoy that, OP!

Why do you assume it's a woman?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I'll get skewered.

I was engaged in what I now realize was an emotional affair. Going on vacation with my husband and child was what made me recognize it for what it was: being unable to reconnect with my husband, missing my "friend" etc. I told my husband about the EA when we returned home and we separated a week later.

So after he said good riddance, what eventually happened?

We got divorced, amicably and without anyone saying "good riddance" to anyone else, and went on to have a cordial coparenting relationship.

Oh sure I'm certain everything was just marvelous for all involved especially your innocent child. But who asked him/ her about their feelings anyway?

Hopefully the ex DH found someone worth getting involved with vs. a cheater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I'll get skewered.

I was engaged in what I now realize was an emotional affair. Going on vacation with my husband and child was what made me recognize it for what it was: being unable to reconnect with my husband, missing my "friend" etc. I told my husband about the EA when we returned home and we separated a week later.

So after he said good riddance, what eventually happened?

We got divorced, amicably and without anyone saying "good riddance" to anyone else, and went on to have a cordial coparenting relationship.

Oh sure I'm certain everything was just marvelous for all involved especially your innocent child. But who asked him/ her about their feelings anyway?

Hopefully the ex DH found someone worth getting involved with vs. a cheater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your desire for AP grow and intensify from lack of contact and communication? Or did your lust for AP wean and found yourself reconnecting with spouse?

Worried that your affair partner will reconnect with their spouse while on vacation? Feeling insecure?

Perhaps

Ha ha. No doubt about it. OP is worried that her (I'm assuming it's a her) AP will have a great time with his wife. Enjoy that, OP!

Why do you assume it's a woman?

It simply sounds more like a woman to express a concern like this. I could be wrong but I'd be willing to bet OP is female.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your desire for AP grow and intensify from lack of contact and communication? Or did your lust for AP wean and found yourself reconnecting with spouse?

Worried that your affair partner will reconnect with their spouse while on vacation? Feeling insecure?

Perhaps

Ha ha. No doubt about it. OP is worried that her (I'm assuming it's a her) AP will have a great time with his wife. Enjoy that, OP!

Why do you assume it's a woman?

It simply sounds more like a woman to express a concern like this. I could be wrong but I'd be willing to bet OP is female.

I also thought woman, based on the Freudian slip about lust "weaning" from the AP.

[Anonymous]

I went on family vacation in the middle of an affair, and it helped break me of the affair. Not that I necessarily re-connected with my spouse - we have sexual incompatability that was the cause of the affair (High drive v. low drive). Having time away from the affair helped break the addiction of the sexual high that is an affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I'll get skewered.

I was engaged in what I now realize was an emotional affair. Going on vacation with my husband and child was what made me recognize it for what it was: being unable to reconnect with my husband, missing my "friend" etc. I told my husband about the EA when we returned home and we separated a week later.

So after he said good riddance, what eventually happened?

We got divorced, amicably and without anyone saying "good riddance" to anyone else, and went on to have a cordial coparenting relationship.

Oh sure I'm certain everything was just marvelous for all involved especially your innocent child. But who asked him/ her about their feelings anyway?

Hopefully the ex DH found someone worth getting involved with vs. a cheater.

Yes, and the ex was a mature man who put the kids first - no jealousy, anger, bitterness.

[Anonymous]

^^ no jealousy, wow. A saint. You didn't answer - are you with your AP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I'll get skewered.

I was engaged in what I now realize was an emotional affair. Going on vacation with my husband and child was what made me recognize it for what it was: being unable to reconnect with my husband, missing my "friend" etc. I told my husband about the EA when we returned home and we separated a week later.

So after he said good riddance, what eventually happened?

We got divorced, amicably and without anyone saying "good riddance" to anyone else, and went on to have a cordial coparenting relationship.

Oh sure I'm certain everything was just marvelous for all involved especially your innocent child. But who asked him/ her about their feelings anyway?

Hopefully the ex DH found someone worth getting involved with vs. a cheater.

Yes, and the ex was a mature man who put the kids first - no jealousy, anger, bitterness.

I really like you OP. Way to rise above the jerkiness displayed here!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ no jealousy, wow. A saint. You didn't answer - are you with your AP?

I wasn't that PP.

No, I'm not. Why do you ask?

[Anonymous]

While on vacation far away from daily stresses and boredom of every day life love for your spouse might grow but as soon as you are back to real life it will be back to same old same old.

[Anonymous]

He's having a great time, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I'll get skewered.

I was engaged in what I now realize was an emotional affair. Going on vacation with my husband and child was what made me recognize it for what it was: being unable to reconnect with my husband, missing my "friend" etc. I told my husband about the EA when we returned home and we separated a week later.

So after he said good riddance, what eventually happened?

We got divorced, amicably and without anyone saying "good riddance" to anyone else, and went on to have a cordial coparenting relationship.

Oh sure I'm certain everything was just marvelous for all involved especially your innocent child. But who asked him/ her about their feelings anyway?

Huh? nP here. I'm a product of divorced parents and I am not bitter about it at all. My parents needed to separate for all of us to have a healthy life. It's not always a bad thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ no jealousy, wow. A saint. You didn't answer - are you with your AP?

I wasn't that PP.

No, I'm not. Why do you ask?

Because you said everything was harmonious with your ex, which would be surprising if you left him for your AP.