Vent--Family Member Asks us to Accommodate Special Diet but then "Cheats"

[Anonymous]

I would absolutely say something when you see her sneaking food she claims she can't eat. "Hey, Susan, I thought you weren't supposed to eat wheat/dairy/whatever?" If I was feeling really bitchy, I'd say, "Oh, what a relief! I had it in my head that you couldn't have gluten, but now I see that you can. That will make cooking for you so much easier!"

[Anonymous]

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Put this in her sauce, make the B***h pay!

I'm so evil

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.amazon.com/Bobs-Red-Mill-22-Ounce-Packages/dp/B000EDK5LM

Put this in her sauce, make the B***h pay!

I'm so evil

Not that I would do this, but I honestly don't think it would make a difference because I don't think she actually has a gluten intolerance!

[Anonymous]

I have Celiac and this makes me angry. It's people like her who make my friends and family think that a small amount of gluten won't hurt me, so they're not as careful as I need the, to be.

[Anonymous]

I feel for the people that actually have Digestive problems like celiac, they are not easy diseases to live with. I'm not gluten intolerant, but I've been considering making the switch to Gluten free based on friends that do it as a diet/lifestyle reporting back positive changes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel for the people that actually have Digestive problems like celiac, they are not easy diseases to live with. I'm not gluten intolerant, but I've been considering making the switch to Gluten free based on friends that do it as a diet/lifestyle reporting back positive changes.

Fine. But if you expect me to accommodate that choice I sure as heck shouldn't find you stuffing wheat noodles in your mouth in my kitchen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel for the people that actually have Digestive problems like celiac, they are not easy diseases to live with. I'm not gluten intolerant, but I've been considering making the switch to Gluten free based on friends that do it as a diet/lifestyle reporting back positive changes.

Fine. But if you expect me to accommodate that choice I sure as heck shouldn't find you stuffing wheat noodles in your mouth in my kitchen.

hehe yea that is pretty shitty...I would never make someone accommodate for me like that. I don't think my voluntary lifestyle choice should be a burden on anyone else =p

[Anonymous]

First, I wouldn't cook for her too often. But when I did, I would plan a menu that doesn't require cooking something special for her -- can't everyone eat rice instead of noodles?

I had a friend whose list of prohibited ingredients included tomatoes, corn, onions, olives, mushrooms, wheat, soy, and dairy of any kind. I had planned to cook dinner, but when she launched into the list I just said "Well, that pretty much eliminates everything I've ever cooked, so let's just eat out. You pick the place."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have Celiac and this makes me angry. It's people like her who make my friends and family think that a small amount of gluten won't hurt me, so they're not as careful as I need the, to be.

+1. I was ready to bridle at the whole "sauce might have a trace of gluten" thing -- because soy sauce definitely does have gluten, and will make me sick as a dog. But if she's stuffing noodles in her mouth? Eff it, it's flipping off all of us who wish we could do that... unless she really DOES have celiac, in which case she's badly damaging her intestines and upping her cancer risk. But it doesn't sound like that's the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister is a food whackadoodle. I feel your pain.

I remember years ago taking her and my father out to lunch when they visited me on the west coast. She went on and on and on about the salad and how it was full of weeds and who serves weeds and how awful it was and blah blah blah. Really pissed me off, actually. If you don't like it, just keep your mouth shut! Now she's expanded her food palate and happily eats those "weeds". GD annoying.

We have the same sister. She was a vegetarian and preached about that. And the latest is gluten free. At a big family gathering, where spaghetti and meatballs would have been an easy solution, she b1tched and insisted on steak tips on the grill and peppers, which is more difficult for a crowd and not as kid friendly. But we accommodated. Then she's drinking beer, having dessert and feeding her kids lucky charms because they are dying for it. Then she insists their "80% GF". Exasperating. I can't wait to see what the next trend is!

[Anonymous]

ugh, they're 80% GF. Sorry I get worked up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, I wouldn't cook for her too often. But when I did, I would plan a menu that doesn't require cooking something special for her -- can't everyone eat rice instead of noodles?

I had a friend whose list of prohibited ingredients included tomatoes, corn, onions, olives, mushrooms, wheat, soy, and dairy of any kind. I had planned to cook dinner, but when she launched into the list I just said "Well, that pretty much eliminates everything I've ever cooked, so let's just eat out. You pick the place."

This might be exposing my own crazy, but we try not to eat too much rice in our household because of arsenic. Also, our kid loves noodles and we know he'll eat anything we serve him if it's on top of a pile of noodles, so if she were a monthly guest at our house, we could just serve something she could eat, but not every time. Same, with going out as a solution, her diet is restricted enough that going out to eat poses a whole separate set of annoying issues.

[Anonymous]

So I get it's annoying bc it's your sister and she's driving you nuts. But GF isn't that hard to accommodate. I'm not even a huge cook and I can easily think of easy fixes to make most of my meals GF. The sauces can be tricky, but the starches are pretty easy to substitute with something else.

[Anonymous]

OP, I must be friends with your family member!! I have a friend who does that, too!! She has to pick the restaurant, asks for the gluten free menu and bread and makes a huge deal about it, then when the good, real bread comes for me she takes a bite and says "I took my enzymes." I've stopped going to her house because I was sick of her asking me to bring food according to her rules. And I don't invite her to eat in my house anymore. To contrast, I have a dear friend with Celiac and you'd never know because she never makes it an issue.

[Anonymous]

Haven't read the whole thread. But my gastroenterologist actually just put me on a diet like this due to a recurring intestinal infection that I've had to treat with antibiotics. It founded so hocus pocusy that I went to get a second option, and the other gi doctor concurred. Basically, I'm not supposed to eat the foods, but it is ok to eat a little of them in small amounts. So yeah, I stick to it in that I will eat rice instead of noodles, but I might have a bite of a brownie.

It's not an allergy but rather a restriction.