Feelings hurt about SIL saying no me for brunch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she needs to talk to him about something sensitive? I can understand why you feel hurt, but it's not necessarily about you.

Then she should say this. I think it's extremely rude and your DH needs to let her know. Sounds to me that the it's all about the sister.

[Anonymous]

Every so often I like to hang out with my brother without his wife. He's less pretentious and douchey without her around. She's old money and he tries to act that way but can't pull it off so he acts like a prick by accident. But when he's without her he's just my goofy older brother who will say and do silly things and isn't afraid to be honest. It's just a completely different dynamic.

I stil like my SIL just fine, and am happy to hang out with her.

[Anonymous]

Once in awhile it's nice for siblings to be together ~ like old times (well, it's never the same, but still)

Please don't get your panties in a wad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this is where a bro/sis relationship doesn't get enough support. If two sisters wanted to brunch with no DH's it would be TOTALLY fine and no one would blink an eye. When its a b/s relationship everyone is up in arms.

+1

[Anonymous]

I need to do this with my sister. I hate that she brings her husband every time we get together.

[Anonymous]

It's kind of rude for her to ask but I can understand wanting one on one time with a sibling every once in a while. Maybe something is going on with her. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

I am very very close to my siblings. Sometimes when we want to talk and discuss we ask each other to meet without spouses. I also wouldn't want to always be a third wheel with my spouse and his sibling. When his brother was visiting they went out alone most of the town.

[Anonymous]

It's crappy and incredibly rude. But it's her problem and a sign of her issues. Try not to let it hurt you.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing rude about two siblings wanting to spend a little time together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing rude about two siblings wanting to spend a little time together.

I agree. But specifying that you want to exclude someone is rude and hurtful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing rude about two siblings wanting to spend a little time together.

I agree. But specifying that you want to exclude someone is rude and hurtful.

How should she have phrased it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing rude about two siblings wanting to spend a little time together.

I agree. But specifying that you want to exclude someone is rude and hurtful.

How should she have phrased it?

I don't know. It really depends on how much time they will have together. She could've said she had something private to talk about, but even then, they don't necessarily need a whole meal apart for that.


Deliberately telling people you don't want to see them will hurt their feelings. This is not a shocking thing to say.

[Anonymous]

OP are you very young? This just doesn't seem like something that would bother someone with maturity. It sounds like sil was simply asking for time with her brother. Big Fing deal. You sound very needy.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm finding your question really odd and self-centered.

Two siblings want to spend time together, and you find that rude?

Your SIL texted your DH, not you. What do you think she should have done? You don't have to be involved in every conversation or get-together - especially for siblings. The fact that you take this personally is very immature, insecure, and weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she needs to talk to him about something sensitive? I can understand why you feel hurt, but it's not necessarily about you.

Then she should say this. I think it's extremely rude and your DH needs to let her know. Sounds to me that the it's all about the sister.

Actually, it was rude of the brother to tell his wife. He should've agreed to meet up solo or not went along. This is such an unnecessary way to create a rift.