How do I deal with this?

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
P.S. - When he watches the news, it's not Fox News, is it? Fox News has caused a rash of irritable and paranoid older people in this country. It's like a bizarre addiction.


NP. Is this really a thing? Because it describes my father! He was never political at all before and now he watches Fox News 24/7, in addition to becoming irritable and paranoid.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I guess I was just looking for something to excuse his behavior. Or to give him a reason for it. My sister lives a few miles from them and she says he doesn't say crazy things like that to them. So if it's not dementia then why would he be saying these things? I try to not give him grounds to say batty things like not having the kids watch tv. He can't complain by them not doing it, but when they are playing with toys and he says something... I'm at a loss of what this could be.


Maybe your sister doesn't tolerate it like you do. You've let it go on for a long time, so things are unlikely to change the first time you tell him to stop. However, the fact that he doesn't behave like that around your sister showed he does have a filter and he is capable of behaving. Show them you're serious and you don't want those behaviors around your children. Stop the visit when fighting, racial and sexist slurs, or insults to your family occur. Let tem know why or they'll never change. After they see you're serious, they'll either change or they won't be able to do harm to your family.

I grew up with grandparents like this. I wish my mother had stood up to them and shielded me from that, instead of letting me be exposed to that in order to avoid hurting her parents' feelings.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
P.S. - When he watches the news, it's not Fox News, is it? Fox News has caused a rash of irritable and paranoid older people in this country. It's like a bizarre addiction.


NP. Is this really a thing? Because it describes my father! He was never political at all before and now he watches Fox News 24/7, in addition to becoming irritable and paranoid.

Yes, it's really a thing and I'm not joking at all. Read the link below.

http://www.salon.com/2014/02/27/i_lost_my_dad_to_fox_news_how_a_generation_was_captured_by_thrashing_hysteria/
Anonymous
I have to ask the OP why cant you stand up to your parents? You need to grow a spine and be an advocate for your children! Its not dementia, since he doesnt talk to your sister that way. For whatever reason, he feels that he can do and say anything to you and your husband. I dont care if he raised you, no one deserves to be treated in that manner. You tell him if it doesnt stop, then you wont have a relationship with him. His loss
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
P.S. - When he watches the news, it's not Fox News, is it? Fox News has caused a rash of irritable and paranoid older people in this country. It's like a bizarre addiction.


NP. Is this really a thing? Because it describes my father! He was never political at all before and now he watches Fox News 24/7, in addition to becoming irritable and paranoid.

Yes, it's really a thing and I'm not joking at all. Read the link below.

http://www.salon.com/2014/02/27/i_lost_my_dad_to_fox_news_how_a_generation_was_captured_by_thrashing_hysteria/


I could have written that article. Except my dad is highly educated. Can anything be done to change his behavior? Probably not. I think I need to tell him I don't want him visiting anymore. This sucks.

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