Dating and herpes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When do you tell your date?

Would you run for the hills if someone told you they had herpes?

You tell em straight out the gate - they're gonna run for the hills.

You tell em after the umpteenth date when they've started staring in your eyes dreamily and telling you how much they want to be with you - they're gonna run for the hills and grab a stick and come back and try to beat the hell out of you for not disclosing it earlier before they got all enamored.

Gotta find a good spot in between.
Soon enough to ensure they're not emotionally invested but not too soon so they have gotten a chance to get to know you and see you as a human being not a walking virus so they can make an objective decision.

[Anonymous]

but yet people on DCUM sleep around all the time which is relevant in the threads! A ton of people on here must have it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:but yet people on DCUM sleep around all the time which is relevant in the threads! A ton of people on here must have it

Without condoms?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:but yet people on DCUM sleep around all the time which is relevant in the threads! A ton of people on here must have it

Without condoms?

Um duh H is contaminated thru skin on skin. A condom doesn't protect every bit of your genital area!

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine being so into someone after a few dates that I would be willing to contract genital herpes.

[Anonymous]

I might feel bad about it, but I would run. I'd be too afraid to risk getting it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I might feel bad about it, but I would run. I'd be too afraid to risk getting it.

I am right there with you.

Sorry but herpes is nasty and forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:but yet people on DCUM sleep around all the time which is relevant in the threads! A ton of people on here must have it

Without condoms?

Um duh H is contaminated thru skin on skin. A condom doesn't protect every bit of your genital area!

Nasty

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might feel bad about it, but I would run. I'd be too afraid to risk getting it.

I am right there with you.

Sorry but herpes is nasty and forever.

You may already be a carrier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might feel bad about it, but I would run. I'd be too afraid to risk getting it.

I am right there with you.

Sorry but herpes is nasty and forever.

You may already be a carrier.

I'm a woman and I hate when people say this crap. I had a baby, tested negative so I'm not a carrier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might feel bad about it, but I would run. I'd be too afraid to risk getting it.

I am right there with you.

Sorry but herpes is nasty and forever.

You may already be a carrier.

I'm a woman and I hate when people say this crap. I had a baby, tested negative so I'm not a carrier.

+1
The ONLY people who say that are the infected people. I forget the exact numbers (I looked it up last time someone posted this nonsense), but it's really not that many.

Don't you people do STD screens with new partners?

[Anonymous]

Somebody disclosed it to me when we were dating. I was very unsure what to do, and worried, and I called a friend for advice. One of the things she told me which has stayed with me was that the person who discloses to you early on that they have herpes is a person who is looking out for you. The way to repay trust is not to run for the hills, it's to proceed with caution. I ended up going forward with the relationship (slowly) and never caught it. (It's not as contagious as you might think).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might feel bad about it, but I would run. I'd be too afraid to risk getting it.

I am right there with you.

Sorry but herpes is nasty and forever.

You may already be a carrier.

I'm a woman and I hate when people say this crap. I had a baby, tested negative so I'm not a carrier.

+1 and I am the person that they were replying too. I also stand by my statement, herpes are nasty.

[Anonymous]

I got it in my 20s from a long-term BF. Had two partners after (second one became my husband) and both were totally cool about it and not freaked out. I got lucky that these guys were mature enough to handle it. And I didn't infect either one (12 years and counting with DH). I maybe get a mild outbreak once every 5 years now when I'm worn down, but it's been such a non issue in my life that I wish I could've had a glimpse of that when I first got infected and freaked out. I kind of feel like how your potential partner reacts is a good test for them anyway. You won't waste your time on some ignorant fool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might feel bad about it, but I would run. I'd be too afraid to risk getting it.

I am right there with you.

Sorry but herpes is nasty and forever.

You may already be a carrier.

I'm a woman and I hate when people say this crap. I had a baby, tested negative so I'm not a carrier.

+1 and I am the person that they were replying too. I also stand by my statement, herpes are nasty.

Did you ever have chicken pox, PP?