I need constant validation from my boyfriend. Help!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so do I. Let me know how you fix it.

How about growing up?

I'm 48. I'm as grown as I'll ever be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Find a new boyfriend. Gaslighting isn't fun. If you feel somewhat strung along, it may not be that you need constant affirmation. He may like keeping you on edge. Not cute.

Consider that your need may not be the problem, especially since you haven't experienced this in other relationships.

I think I want constant reassurance because I don't want to be strung along. We're both 25. His best friend who's 24 just proposed to his 22 year old girlfriend. My boyfriend keeps saying I'm the one and he wants to marry me but he doesn't DO anything about it like actually propose or go ring shopping. So I wonder if he really wants to or if he says he does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Find a new boyfriend. Gaslighting isn't fun. If you feel somewhat strung along, it may not be that you need constant affirmation. He may like keeping you on edge. Not cute.

Consider that your need may not be the problem, especially since you haven't experienced this in other relationships.

I think I want constant reassurance because I don't want to be strung along. We're both 25. His best friend who's 24 just proposed to his 22 year old girlfriend. My boyfriend keeps saying I'm the one and he wants to marry me but he doesn't DO anything about it like actually propose or go ring shopping. So I wonder if he really wants to or if he says he does.

Also I get really annoyed with instances like this:

I just texted him saying: "I love your d***. It's perfect"
And he goes " I'm glad you approve."

Is it just be or is that a lackluster response?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Find a new boyfriend. Gaslighting isn't fun. If you feel somewhat strung along, it may not be that you need constant affirmation. He may like keeping you on edge. Not cute.

Consider that your need may not be the problem, especially since you haven't experienced this in other relationships.

I think I want constant reassurance because I don't want to be strung along. We're both 25. His best friend who's 24 just proposed to his 22 year old girlfriend. My boyfriend keeps saying I'm the one and he wants to marry me but he doesn't DO anything about it like actually propose or go ring shopping. So I wonder if he really wants to or if he says he does.

Also I get really annoyed with instances like this:

I just texted him saying: "I love your d***. It's perfect"
And he goes " I'm glad you approve."

Is it just be or is that a lackluster response?

Oh, lord.

[Anonymous]

And, you just lost your DCUM audience.

Honey, no. Please.

[Anonymous]

Is he otherwise demonstrative?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so do I. Let me know how you fix it.

How about growing up?

I'm 48. I'm as grown as I'll ever be.

Yikes. So you're both high maintenance, needy AND insufferable. And you're not even young and hot anymore, so you're not even worth it the pain in the ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Find a new boyfriend. Gaslighting isn't fun. If you feel somewhat strung along, it may not be that you need constant affirmation. He may like keeping you on edge. Not cute.

Consider that your need may not be the problem, especially since you haven't experienced this in other relationships.

He's not gaslighting her. She's simply high maintenance.

This is gaslighting: "I don't care what anyone says, I don't think you're fat."

THAT is gaslighting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Find a new boyfriend. Gaslighting isn't fun. If you feel somewhat strung along, it may not be that you need constant affirmation. He may like keeping you on edge. Not cute.

Consider that your need may not be the problem, especially since you haven't experienced this in other relationships.

I think I want constant reassurance because I don't want to be strung along. We're both 25. His best friend who's 24 just proposed to his 22 year old girlfriend. My boyfriend keeps saying I'm the one and he wants to marry me but he doesn't DO anything about it like actually propose or go ring shopping. So I wonder if he really wants to or if he says he does.

Ah yes, dumbass 24 y/o's proposing. What a rat race to get involved with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Find a new boyfriend. Gaslighting isn't fun. If you feel somewhat strung along, it may not be that you need constant affirmation. He may like keeping you on edge. Not cute.

Consider that your need may not be the problem, especially since you haven't experienced this in other relationships.

I think I want constant reassurance because I don't want to be strung along. We're both 25. His best friend who's 24 just proposed to his 22 year old girlfriend. My boyfriend keeps saying I'm the one and he wants to marry me but he doesn't DO anything about it like actually propose or go ring shopping. So I wonder if he really wants to or if he says he does.

Also I get really annoyed with instances like this:

I just texted him saying: "I love your d***. It's perfect"
And he goes " I'm glad you approve."

Is it just be or is that a lackluster response?

If I sent DH that text, that's pretty much how he'd respond. Some guys might run with it. What were you hoping to get back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Find a new boyfriend. Gaslighting isn't fun. If you feel somewhat strung along, it may not be that you need constant affirmation. He may like keeping you on edge. Not cute.

Consider that your need may not be the problem, especially since you haven't experienced this in other relationships.

I think I want constant reassurance because I don't want to be strung along. We're both 25. His best friend who's 24 just proposed to his 22 year old girlfriend. My boyfriend keeps saying I'm the one and he wants to marry me but he doesn't DO anything about it like actually propose or go ring shopping. So I wonder if he really wants to or if he says he does.

Also I get really annoyed with instances like this:

I just texted him saying: "I love your d***. It's perfect"
And he goes " I'm glad you approve."

Is it just be or is that a lackluster response?

If I sent DH that text, that's pretty much how he'd respond. Some guys might run with it. What were you hoping to get back?

Flirting back with equal enthusiasm? I'm kinda horny and am thinking of him. I'd b nice if he thought th same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so do I. Let me know how you fix it.

How about growing up?

I'm 48. I'm as grown as I'll ever be.

Yikes. So you're both high maintenance, needy AND insufferable. And you're not even young and hot anymore, so you're not even worth it the pain in the ass.

C'mon, at least she recognizes she has a problem.

[Anonymous]

OP, has he picked up on the fact that you need a lot of validation, to the point that it has become an issue between you? That can cause a vicious cycle where he pulls back a bit or isn't meeting you with equal enthusiasm.

Though his text seemed fine - not everyone can go there with the dirty talk.

[Anonymous]

I'm shocked so many people are falling for this one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked so many people are falling for this one.

Why are you so sure it's fake?